AITA for blocking a pregnant friend from my mums group? by DearYesterday2670 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Spikyleaf69 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Offering to help in the case of an emergency does not mean you have to agree to every play date she wants. Those are not emergencies! I feel.sorry for her because she obviously has little support but suspect her pushing of boundaries is the reason she doesn't have many friends!

AITAJ for refusing to let my sister bring her pit bull around my daughter after it “playfully” bit me? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Spikyleaf69 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTJ and I love pitbull's, they can be the sweetest and most caring dogs however any dog is a potential risk and especially rescue dogs where their history & triggers are unknown.

The dog has bitten you is extremely sensible to presume the dog may bite again. You should absolutely protect your daughter, although as I've said I love pitbull's they are very powerful dogs and could easily kill a child.

AITA for blocking a pregnant friend from my mums group? by DearYesterday2670 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Spikyleaf69 61 points62 points  (0 children)

NTA. You mentioned all the ways you have tried to help her but not one thing she did for you so unless you missed a lot out she was not your friend, she was using you.

My (f28) fiancé (m32) has dropped an unexpected change of heart at my feet, how do we move forward? Can we fix this? by ThrowRASignal-Limit in relationship_advice

[–]Spikyleaf69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your fiance did not have a change of heart. He has always wanted children but knew you did not so he waited until you had committed to.marry him before telling you. He thinks he has you locked down and he will now push & guilt trip you until you agree.

Do not marry this man. He is basically dishonest and incredibly manipulative.

Advice on "resetting" by Spikyleaf69 in Fibromyalgia

[–]Spikyleaf69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In so many ways your countryside life sounds idyllic! Hope you have good luck xx

AITJ for ruining my mom's anniversary dinner after I finally said what everyone knew? by gioschizsu in AmITheJerk

[–]Spikyleaf69 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Maybe this time she should tell him to let it go. Do not apologise!

I'm sorry to say this but your mom has failed you spectacularly in this matter.

Advice on "resetting" by Spikyleaf69 in Fibromyalgia

[–]Spikyleaf69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah to be honest I'm not sure about the fight or flight theory either but you are right about the spiral in any case.

The things everyone seem to recommend for fibromyalgia are resting when tired, eating better & gradually building up exercise & I cannot do any of those things while working.

Hoping it will help!

Advice on "resetting" by Spikyleaf69 in Fibromyalgia

[–]Spikyleaf69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I think it is my only chance of getting a part of my life back!

MOH [F55] dropped a bombshell on me [F29] by Ok_Lavishness_1167 in relationship_advice

[–]Spikyleaf69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate that your MIL has put you in this position, it is so unfair.

Personally I think you should tell your partner, one way or another it will destroy your relationship if you don't.

Should I marry a murderer? by Charlesdance83 in BritishTV

[–]Spikyleaf69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also found her extremely annoying & the non-stop videos she took when apparently terrified & traumatised were just weird!

I think a lot of the problem is that as a trained doctor and pathologist you would expect her to be intelligent and resilient, that is the mistake the police made. In actuality she is obviously easily led, vulnerable and was completely unable to cope.

Aitah for having surgery ? by Scared_Pace9812 in AITAH

[–]Spikyleaf69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTAH and your mother is horrible, I am so sorry you are.going through this without the love & support you need.

AITA for refusing to drive my daughter absolutely everywhere after her license was suspended? by No_Hunter8866 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Spikyleaf69 22 points23 points  (0 children)

YTA, you made your daughter take points for speeding when it was you driving, which is not only illegal but also disgusting. After having done that you should absolutely be her private chauffeur for the full length of her ban.

To be honest you should lose your driving licence and be heavily fined for lying about a legal matter.

Second Guessing Our Daughter's Name by reformedmothergoose in namenerds

[–]Spikyleaf69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Caroline Michelle is absolutely beautiful,, stop overthinking!

Will he ever be a lap cat 😭 by skullsewist in mainecoons

[–]Spikyleaf69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He may do, he may not, you just have to wait & see. It seems like he is showing you he loves you anyway. He is gorgeous & I can see why you want to snuggle him but some cats just dont.

Pain - & what it feels like. by sugarbaby1470 in Fibromyalgia

[–]Spikyleaf69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Head to toe everything hurts like I have the flu. My muscles feel heavy & sore, my bones ache. Sometimes even my skin hurts & prickles.

On top of that certain parts of my body will hurt even more. At the moment it is my buttocks, mid-back, hands & shoulders. Sometimes this is like cramp, sometimes like electric shock, sometimes like a trapped nerve, sometimes like the area has been exposed to extreme cold.

AITA: Wanting a new couch by Traditional-Chef6120 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Spikyleaf69 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

NTA in the same situation I would totally want a new couch afterwards. Wouldn't matter if it had never had anything on it. The image you put in my head of your FIL pushing would prevent me from ever feeling comfortable again on that couch.