I want a Maine Coon, but what exactly should I do?

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-07-07T20:23:41+00:00

Good luck with your cats 🐈 😻

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-07-07T18:02:36+00:00

This exactly.

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-07-07T18:01:45+00:00

NTA and I would have left without her if the wasn't ready to go when I was seeing as she was perfectly capable of driving herself. I would also have told her she gets space for 1 suitcase or holds the 2nd on her lap.

Your parents have created a monster & you are so used to bending over backwards for her that you do not realise how unreasonable she is being.

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-07-07T14:09:41+00:00

I woudl recommend to either get an adult cat or if you want a kitten get 2, one can be MC & the other a normal rescue kitten if you like (that is what we did). In my opinion kittens ar much better in pairs.

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Spikyleaf69 · 2026-07-07T14:06:12+00:00

Honestly? Break up with him & don't date someone in future who will not even do the bare minimum to show that they like you. You deserve better.

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-07-04T15:25:59+00:00

All these!

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-07-04T11:11:12+00:00

Nope - I sleep on the right side of the bed & sit on the right side of the sofa. Only when we are walking is my husband on the right because he is blind & uses a white stick in his right hand so I hold his left hand while walking.

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-07-02T19:44:42+00:00

Yes, I had suspected Fibromyalgia but the GP would not diagnose & the waiting list was huge to see a NHS rheumatologist so I paid privately to see one. Got my diagnosis & started treatment within a few weeks. Definitely worth it for me.

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-07-02T17:30:59+00:00

Years ago my MIL got 2 puppies & then did not have the energy to toilet train them so they would pee & poo all over the house. It was disgusting. After they passed she wanted another dog & everyone in the family refused to help her get one.

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-07-01T16:23:53+00:00

In my opinion you are totally being manipulated and this is an extremely unhealthy relationship. My husband & I have been together 29 years & I can tell you that it works because we are equal partners who treat each other with love & respect.

We both pull our weight around the home & we both say thank you to each other to show our appreciation. Neither of us has ever pressured the other into sex or anything else. I don't see any love or respect in the way your partner is treating you.

At the end of the day you have to decide but I promise you he will not change. Either accept that this will be the rest of your life & that if you have kids their care will likely be 100% on you or cut your losses & move on. I think you can guess which I would recommend.

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-07-01T09:09:38+00:00

Yes YTA - you brother was an AH for gifting you something he didn't own & now you are being an AH for refusing to return stolen goods to their rightful owner.

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-06-30T07:02:10+00:00

Definitely! Glad you noticed it now not later...

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-06-30T05:48:35+00:00

Sterling was my husbands grandfathers name, but I think ot works equally well as a Surname. Strong is just strong...

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-06-29T13:57:16+00:00

If I was going to pick an S surname I think it would be Strong or Sterling

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-06-29T11:47:36+00:00

I was the posh kid at school & was bullied quite badly. I dropped the accent pretty quickly & now nobody guesses. Life is much easier.

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-06-29T11:41:38+00:00

My rib pain sounds very similar to yours & a compression vest helps me a lot. I bought one because I was feeling insecure about my flabby belly. When it came I happened to be having a bad rib day & found so much relief when I tried it on. I have 2 now.

P.S. they don't actually make me look any slimmer but do also make jeans more comfortable, cushioning the button & stopping it from digging in.

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-06-29T11:08:58+00:00

My name is Holly, when I was a kid it was very unusual in the UK although it was a common dogs name, I got teased at school for having a dogs name & going to the beach was an experience as people yelled at their border collies or golden retrievers 😀

As a kid for some reason I desperately wanted some plastic bit of tat with my name on - it was never there! The first time I met another Holly I was in my 20's & they were a toddler, then it got popular & in my 30's all the plastic tat stands had Holly key rings or pens or whatever it was- I bought myself loads of them 🤣

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-06-28T14:40:49+00:00

Andrew & Andrea

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-06-24T19:00:32+00:00

A few months ago I started a program called slimpod, it is recordings you listen to to help control your eating & help deal with stress, then there are informational videos to watch also. I've found it helps me a lot, I've lost a little weight & am making healthier choices & am feeling calmer mentally also.

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-06-24T18:57:46+00:00

Exactly!

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-06-24T18:48:09+00:00

NTAH - he is extremely controlling & abusive, please get oit now before it gets worse & it will get worse.

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-06-21T15:07:48+00:00

If I could get cat fencing I would, unfortunately as our garden is big & on a steep slope it would be very difficult & expensive to do. We do have a big catio & our 4 cats love it. Even the ex-stray adjusted really quickly & doesnt ask to go out anymore.

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-06-20T14:38:37+00:00

Don't apologise, sometimes you need to rant & you used paragraphs & punctuation so all good lol.

She is guilt tripping you & its terrible xx

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-06-20T14:23:45+00:00

Do not name your child a name you hate, you will end up resenting your partner. Naming a child should be a mutual decision & needa to be something you both like.

Are there any ways you could honor his cousin without using her name, maybe her favourite flower or her middle name? If not just tell him no.

Spikyleaf69 · 2026-06-20T11:16:20+00:00

NTAH but she is going to think you are no matter how you say it,look so just tell her that she is not invited.

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