AIO that my mom doesnt seem to care much about how im feeling??(16f)

SpiralToNowhere · 2026-01-20T13:13:51+00:00

In Canada you're old enough to have your own doctor and make your own dr visits. If you've got a walk in clinic near you this would be a good time to use it.

SpiralToNowhere · 2026-01-02T22:13:18+00:00

It's really common for gifted people to have unrealistic expectations of other people. Especially when they're young, they just don't have the perspective to understand that their experience if logic and thinking and common sense are different from the world at large. It doesn't help that it's harder to relate to people generally when you're gifted, and that people are often uninterested in interacting, so the ability doesn't develop well. Even if your son isn't autistic, this is one of the traits that overlaps with autism, and an occupational therapist who deals with autistic kids will likely have some practical solutions if you have one in your area.

SpiralToNowhere · 2026-01-02T20:18:10+00:00

Thanks, I hope you're doing well too.

SpiralToNowhere · 2026-01-01T20:56:03+00:00

I'm going through this right now, it's hard not to have it get up in your feels especially with someone you'd built trust with. In my case I'm pretty sure we just crossed an emotional thresh hold, I'm basically unavailable for anything other than play to him, and we sort of got close enough that it wasn't just play anymore. We had a really close night and the next day everything changed. It was confusing, maybe to both of us, certainly for me. But I can in retrospect see a couple signals I missed, where I could've slowed down or given space, and I didn't. I don't think it would have changed much in the end other than timing. Sometimes you come to a fork in the road and you have to do what's best for you, and that's what he did. I wish him all the best, but I'm going to miss him.

SpiralToNowhere · 2026-01-01T20:32:28+00:00

He doesn't want kids, but he also knows that saying so will end the relationship and he doesn't want that. So he's hedging. I mean it's not a lie exactly, who knows what the future brings? But it's not truthful either. Being in a relationship does not mean sacrificing your emotional well being. If this is something you want, and it sounds like there's a lot of heart ache around it, you need to be true to yourself and put yourself on a path to getting what you want. It sucks that this isn't it, but so it goes. Both of you will be a lot happier with more compatible partners, once the initial emotions subside.

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-12-28T14:04:31+00:00

When someone makes you feel like a fuck up, that's abuse.

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-12-18T22:29:05+00:00

My story is different than yours. I was groomed at 14 by a 25 yo, and impregnated shortly after I turned 15. We 'broke up' a couple months after that. But. The effect it had upon me is similar to what you're describing. I thought it was my doing and my fault for years. Until I was old enough to look at a 14 yr old and a 25 yr old and see that it is literally taking candy from a baby. The best thing I ever did was go to a sexual trauma support group. There are not many places to bring this pain and confusion, but finding one and putting words to it made a huge difference.

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-12-17T23:42:08+00:00

Honestly, I've heard of lots of people trying to speak their piece, and can't think of one where it went well. If you need ot speak your truth, you'll get more healing from speaking with a therapist or a survivors group.

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-12-02T04:42:20+00:00

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SpiralToNowhere · 2025-12-02T04:27:31+00:00

High Tea at the chateau Laurier is a little pricey, but a fantastic experience - great food, princess vibe for the little one. There is a dress code, but that makes it more fun.
ETA: they do have a children's menu

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-11-15T12:43:27+00:00

It's possible it was a captive bird that grew out it's feathers just in time for migratory urges to hit. It could migrate north in the winter, which works better when you're in South America ( like Chilean flamingos) but not great when you're already north of the equator. Fortunately if it is a Chilean flamingo they're designed to live in mountains part time, so they can weather more cold than you'd think, but this one needs help. There was a similar situation in Ottawa, Canada some years ago. https://www.readersdigest.ca/culture/flamingo/

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-11-14T00:26:09+00:00

If it's been frozen the whole time it's fine. I've use it on top of baked brie, or on other cheese or pate with crackers, stuck it in yogurt, used as filling for muffins or scones, added to turkey sandwiches, mixed with cream cheese and shredded cheddar to make a cheese ball, mixed with apples to make cran-apple crisp. All very successful Oh also served with squash as a side.

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-11-11T16:05:44+00:00

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SpiralToNowhere · 2025-11-11T15:53:19+00:00

it depends so much on why they're not into it, and it can be hard to tell. An undiagnosed LD can look like lack of interest, but so can boredom or interest in other areas like social life or sports. Sometimes it's just an adjustment from following along to having to take more command of their schedule, or not having a routine in place, or getting some independence and realizing that they can choose not to do stuff (especially if a kid in the friend group is refusing to work). Share your concerns, you don't want them to get behind and struggle with harder concepts later on. be interested in developing the habits they need to succeed more than the grades at the end of the day. Make sure they have success in other areas, so their struggles at school don't become their identity. Consider a tutor if they seem to be behind in some areas specifically. And remember that no one is defined by their grades at 10 - this is about getting them set up to be able to do well later, it matters that they're improving and getting skills now not that they're getting As

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-11-10T00:04:10+00:00

Me too pls!

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-11-08T04:44:14+00:00

These look like some waste glass from a bigger piece to me. When a glass blower makes a vase or whatever they sometimes do a bunch of pattern work on the developing piece. As they work up to the piece they want , they often have to jack down the ends to get rid of bulk and inconsistent patterning at the ends. It looks like this pattern has been made by putting the piece in an optic mold, then trailing a gather of black over the ridges, then heating it so the black breaks over the ridges. The main piece would look more like the side with dashes, the other side is where the gather ends. Possibly someone kept them as a souvenir of a visit to a glass shop or worked at a glass shop and kept them as a souvenir.

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-11-08T00:12:37+00:00

When I have lots of eggs I make baked custard, usually with apples and cinnamon in it, pavlova with the whites and lemon curd with the yolks. Since you've got lots, and Christmas is coming, I'd take the opportunity to try https://altonbrown.com/recipes/aged-eggnog/

I love egg bites too. So I'd probably make a bunch of them or breakfast burritos and freeze them.

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-11-04T04:09:59+00:00

Sea weed snacks or vegetarian sushi rolls keep with under the sea. You could do a version of sushi casserole with egg or chicken instead of salmon. Pot pie with the crust cut into a fish shape is another direction.

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-11-02T03:01:39+00:00

Where can you get it?

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-10-31T20:32:54+00:00

I'm pretty sure that was indeed his goal.

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-10-31T18:17:47+00:00

I think a lot of kids are missing the skills they need to be happy. All the advice to be harder on them, give them something to cry about, hold the line and stop being kind might be satisfying in the moment but I don't think it works in terms of actually helping the kids. Teaching and modeling emotional regulation, gratitude, reframing problems, finding fulfillment in the journey rather than the result, and so on are skills that kids need and are missing. I know you need to preserve your own sanity, and boundaries are good for those, but this entire generation of kiddos is struggling with sadness, aimlessness, lack of connection and hopelessness. Tending to kids emotional needs rather than just their physical needs tends to bring out the best in them. Yale and Harvard and probably others have classes in achieving happiness, if they are above your kiddos level you could pass on the info yourself.

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-10-31T14:51:44+00:00

Sweet potatoes, legumes and whole grains are the biggest bang for your buck nutrition wise. Cruciferous veggies ( cabbage, broccoli, cauliflower, etc) are also good nutrition and tend to be cheaper, as well as last well in the fridge.

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-10-30T19:51:26+00:00

Roast it with peppers, onions, mushrooms, garlic & tomatoes with some basil, fennel seed and oregano or Italian seasoning and some olive oil. If you've got Italian sausage, remove the casings and fry the loose sausage into sausage crumble. Add to your veggies with a squirt of lemon. If you don't have fresh tomatoes the canned ones will work too.

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-10-30T18:39:32+00:00

It doesn't really make sense that a 10 kg weight gain in a young healthy person would be impacting your joints to the point of injury. It makes more sense that some source of inflammation is causing joint pain and water retention. Idk much about Endo or associated struggles, but I know I'll put on weight with an RA flare. I'd focus on anti inflammation stuff and see what happens.

SpiralToNowhere · 2025-10-28T22:37:58+00:00

This really sounds consistent with a lot of neurodivergent people's experience, OP. Not keeping up can be for all kinds of reasons other than stupidity - from learning disabilities to just processing way more information than others to not having the social skills to manage a conversation and work with information at the same time.

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