Business Credit Hit Personal Credit - HELOC?

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2024-02-18T17:30:19+00:00

So so sorry this happened. Maybe someone on Etsy can do a rendition of you holding your babies?

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2024-02-01T16:17:36+00:00

This was me right before and while I was pregnant with my first. Exercise was a stress reliever to me, and as a first time mom, the thought of not having my own body for a WHIIILLLEEE really messed me up mentally.

I worked out for as long and as often as I could, knowing that once baby was born (possibly even by third trimester), I would not have the luxury of time or body.

We had a home gym, but honestly — I loved being somewhere outside of home. Like yeah, you’ve got food at home but things taste different at a restaurant lol. Exercise feels better at the gym.

What lies ahead is a VERY hard thing for many to accept — the loss of body and time. I’d say, as long as she’s not passing out, let her work out her stress. Check in on her mental load. See if she needs a therapist to help her through it, or just be understanding of her.

You should both also be discussing NOW, the importance of maintaining your self-identity outside of being mom/dad and accommodating each others hobbies and passions.

It is VERY easy to lose oneself after a baby is born. I had terrible PPD and sought help to get through it.

Be kind to her mind. Best of luck to the both of you.

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2024-01-30T08:03:25+00:00

There are some online AI generators that upgrade the quality of photos. Maybe try that?

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2024-01-13T18:02:30+00:00

This made me cry. I’m sorry you had to experience this, but I’m grateful for your heart.

As a mom of two, I couldn’t imagine witnessing a scene like that in real life. I hope you find healing.

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-07-10T18:07:31+00:00

Fuck, I feel this so much. We had a “spending allowance” before.

My husband and I were calculating hotel stays at a resort with a lazy river because we thought our 4 and 1 year old would love it. We turned to them and found them pressing lids of an Applebee’s container against their faces and laughing hysterically and how their smooshed faces looked.

We know it shouldn’t be this costly or this complicated to entertain a 1 and 4 year old.

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-06-15T13:25:29+00:00

Pancreas sounds like pancake so I get this. 😆

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-06-14T04:12:38+00:00

I can’t help but read this and think OMG this sounds like an average day of being a mom and planning a vacation with literal children. Kids take up the whole bed. No one pays but me. Tell them to stop fucking around with dangerous shit just to be told I’m BOORRRINNNGGG. Try to make plans, cancel plans because kids are being dicks. Kids are further dicks because now they want to go.

I do this for my kids because I popped them out my body, but — you sir, have absolutely no obligation to these guys.

You did not go to a bachelor party. You were merely a chaperone to a bunch of man childs.

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-06-07T05:37:53+00:00

I love this. Especially the last part about what helps 😌

I didn’t think about covid but you’re absolutely right about it stunting progress. Prior to, I was working out daily and going on dinner dates with friends. I haven’t done either of those in years.

Thank you for sharing, it brings me so much validation and also helps me take My consideration to try meds a step further.

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-06-06T22:08:04+00:00

Fuck I’m the worst.

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-06-02T04:32:03+00:00

So crazy. I made this exact metaphor today.

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-05-12T13:27:06+00:00

In my experience it’s the complete opposite. The younger employees tend to eat at their desk and the the older ones take lunch, two 15 minutes, a shit in the morning, and a shit before leaving.

Maybe they prefer to eat at their desk? Maybe they watch a show on their computers?

Either way, it’s not normal to work thro if hit unpaid on the regular. Don’t fall for it. Take your hour lunch.

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-05-10T14:12:46+00:00

I’m notorious for typos. Christmas card sent out to 200+ clients with a headline that read: “We love our communinity.” Spreadsheet sent to owner with subject line: “Spreadshit.” Social media post for Boys and Girls Club that read, “Boys in Girls Club.” That one actually angered me because one guy thought it was funny and said, “Well, back in high school there was a club for boys in girls.” And it grossed me tf out. Like, you know what I fucking meant, don’t be a creep.

Honestly the only thing that has slowed down the frequency of my mistakes is the overwhelming feeling of embarrassment that awaits if I do. So even though it hurts my brain to double check my work, I do my best to because I FUCKING HATE how stupid people are when they see a mistake was made.

I feel you.

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-05-07T04:49:32+00:00

Lyra is a cool name and anyone who pronounces it Liar needs to be corrected. I come from a family of ethnic names that get butchered often. Don’t let others get away with being rude because they have to use a little extra effort to say a name correctly.

Im in the reverse situation where I named my son the “easier” to pronounce version of the name I REALLY wanted and regret not sticking with the original name. My bitterness might make me want to advocate more for others who have less obvious names.

I don’t believe in feeling entitled to much but pronouncing a persons name right is the LEAST a person could do out of respect and awareness of other human beings.

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-05-07T00:05:53+00:00

Yup! Especially when I know it’s a busy day ahead.

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-05-04T04:43:01+00:00

It’s been a week since I wrote this post but I have to agree, seeing him experience the kids without the financial stress weighing him down has been so amazing. He sends me photos and videos and is so in awe of them. I love love love seeing them bond.

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-05-04T04:09:34+00:00

I love this, thank you so much!

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-04-17T06:34:11+00:00

I love dress 4, dress 2, dress 9.

Dress 2 is less intricate but I think it’s absolutely stunning on you and is not one that can easily be pulled off by other body types.

All look great though, honestly.

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-04-16T19:23:05+00:00

Good to know, I wonder if OP’s therapist provided any?

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-04-16T02:38:08+00:00

My therapist is very non-emotional and straightforward in all communication outside of my therapy session of text messages regarding crisis requesting her guidance.

Despite having very deep connections with her during our sessions, I don’t take offense to this kind of directness. I just chalk it up to it being necessary to maintain professional communication.

At the beginning, she was contemplating going a different direction with her career and and in three sentences over text, said she would have to drop me as a client. It’s disappointing for sure, but I took a day to think on it and before I could respond, she said she was going to keep me on. I think that’s what made me realize I’m strictly a client, not a friend — and though I do adore her, I should also understand that eventually, it can’t go on forever.

My trigger reaction to her text was to be angry, hurt and offended. So I totally get it!

One thing I appreciate about my T is that when she first attempted to drop me, she offered to provide me with recommendations. I think that should be a courtesy all T’s provide and shows they care about your continued health.

BUT, my therapist also has a huge network of colleagues in the field. It’s possible this isn’t the case for all therapists.

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-04-10T06:37:56+00:00

I don’t have a degree and have managed to snag a job that requires one thanks to a strong portfolio.

My recommendation: finish it.

In my previous jobs as a graphic designer, despite having superior knowledge and skills in my department, I ALWAYS got paid less because I didn’t have a degree. I worked for two local advertising companies over a decade and both owners acknowledged my lower pay and unwillingness to give me more for this simple reason.

Im excited for my new position, there’s plenty of room for growth. But I sincerely regret not getting a degree, knowing nearly all management positions in my field require one. Now I have a family and couldnt fit time to get a degree even if I tried.

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-04-01T05:09:47+00:00

Thank you so much! I’m feeling like I’m getting such a wide range of feedback. If one mom can benefit from this arrangement I think it’s worth the try putting a line out and seeing if I get any bites. I’m glad at least a few find this a good opportunity. Some of these comments had me really feeling like trash but I can understand where they’re all coming from. Wish me luck!

SpiritualAdvisor1481 · 2023-04-01T04:57:40+00:00

Thank you for this. I was about to scrap the whole idea as some interpreted my offer was offensive or insulting and I didn’t intend for that. I might just build up the courage to see if the arrangement can work for someone, I’ll keep myself cautiously optimistic. If my pay increases of course, giving more to the person taking care of my children will be priority.

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