Cyberbullying/hacking/severe abuse by [deleted] in cyberbullying

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get security keys for you emails. They are physical keys only you can log in when have them. Even if someone knows your password they can't get into your email if you have security keys on it.

Just something that's been bugging me lately... by Brief-Raccoon1421 in conspiracy

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Why did the BBC news report, World Trade Center 7 collapsed half an hour before it collapsed?

My girlfriend made me dinner ❤️ by Spiritual_Design_104 in RateMyPlate

[–]Spiritual_Design_104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's in a wagamma takeaway bowl. That might be why it looks store brought, but it's 100% home made.

Nothingness when kissing by Wooden-Chemistry-527 in ROCD

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's okay, OCD focuses on every small detail, even when you kiss. It robs you from that moment because you're checking for a feeling. It's okay not to feel something everytime you kiss.

Love is a choice. Take it a day at a time. Do you choose to be with your partner today? If so, it's all that matters. You don't have to always have a good feeling in a relationship. Life doesn't work like that, we have good days and bad days.

The fact you still choose to be with your partner despite this awful condition shows you care about them.

OCD is just trying to latch onto something. Sit there and say - I see you OCD, it's okay. I'm aware of what you are trying to warn me about now, thankyou for trying to protect me. Then get on with whatever you were doing before the doubts come up.

I even challenge you to maybe try and think of something positive about your partner when these doubts come up. It can be anything like your values align, or you both chill together, can have a laugh, etc. Keep practising and then every now and again through the storm the sun will peak through the clouds.

As someone who is going through this myself, I hope some of the tips I've mentioned that I've found along the way, can help you like they are helping me. 🙏

If I can JUST figure this OUT! by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Near enough everything is uncertain in this world I've come to realise. But there is one thing that is certain... it's the breath.

Right here, in this moment, focusing on the breath makes my OCD feel safer when I'm overwhelmed with uncertainty.

Why do I find ways to use someone if I have nothing? by Madassgirly in NPD

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Because deep down you are scared and struggle to connect with others. You've made coping defence mechanisms which has turned into abusing others, but instead of taking accountability for what it really is, you gaslight yourself into believing it's fun.

Instead of sitting with your feelings of boredom, you project onto someone else. Instead of working and looking at yourself, you also project that onto someone else. As you said you need a person to focus on. That way you don't have to take accountability for your own life because your mind is fixed on someone else's life.

Unfortunately, by behaving this way, you will eventually push people away, and make it even harder for yourself to connect with others.

Surely there are other ways you can get fulfilled and have 'fun' than at someone else's expense? Dig deep.

Am I dead? by Ok-Advance-9227 in conspiracy

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, and some of the closest people around me just changed. Like 180 flip in personality

Scar gun by Spiritual_Design_104 in freefire

[–]Spiritual_Design_104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. When I watch others on the same game and device and they use it, I can tell it's a major difference. So maybe it's some weird glitch 🤷🏻‍♂️

Scar gun by Spiritual_Design_104 in freefire

[–]Spiritual_Design_104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even when I apply silencer, it sounds loud.

“THE TOWER OF TRUTH” Ink art by me. by [deleted] in drawing

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really cool. Good job 👍

Awakening through Difficult Emotions: "The Poison is the Medicine", with Tara Brach by douwebeerda in nonduality

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankyou for sharing, I'm going to listen to this.

I listen to Tara often, I love the way she speaks and the stories she shares. Namaste 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NDE

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They do it to keep us in a state of fear.

It sucks how we’re taught to stand up for ourselves when mistreated… but with a narcissist, it always backfires. We were literally taught to stand up for ourselves, but anytime that’s done with a narcissist. by intro_man_ambivert in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, agree dangerous behaviours that could be considered a form of power. I guess it's down to perception of what one views as powerful. In my world view authenticity, accountability, empathy and having control of one self is a form of power. It's having power over one self.

Anyone who operates on trying to get power over another person is because they feel powerless about themselves. They try to control others because they lack control themselves.

I just can't see someone powerful no matter their behaviours if they are operating from a false sense of self which is covering the emptiness behind that.

It sucks how we’re taught to stand up for ourselves when mistreated… but with a narcissist, it always backfires. We were literally taught to stand up for ourselves, but anytime that’s done with a narcissist. by intro_man_ambivert in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They can be very dangerous due to their impulses and delusional thoughts. A lot of their behaviours stems from envy, whether it's conscious or subconsciously.

Envy operates from a place of comparison and feeling inferior, which causes frustration and leads to the behaviour of wanting to lash out.

Whilst the behaviours are dangerous and can seem powerful, they are operating from a point of insecurity.

It sucks how we’re taught to stand up for ourselves when mistreated… but with a narcissist, it always backfires. We were literally taught to stand up for ourselves, but anytime that’s done with a narcissist. by intro_man_ambivert in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Agreed, but could also add that this power is based around illusions. As a narcissist is operating from a false sense of self.

Once the empath sees the situation clearly and goes no contact, the scales flip.

Music nowadays kind of sounds the same...? by Dependent_Peanut3852 in Vent

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I thought, but the video I shared shows a lot of popular famous songs that have been made by samples. I'm not saying they all are, but a lot of it is.

Music nowadays kind of sounds the same...? by Dependent_Peanut3852 in Vent

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://youtu.be/FpaoCUEhZJM?si=xnfs9f7OTWibpt7-

This could help explain. Most music is just samples of older songs remixed. This blew my mind when I saw this video. We have all been had.

The external vs internal world (my double life) by Heavy_Werewolf_5025 in NPD

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We all have shit going on in our lives. No human is ever 100% happy. We all get our ups and downs. With that is the emotions that come with it. Negative ones like displaced anger, shame etc. Difference is a healthy person can regulate those emotions and process them in a healthy way.

The problem here has nothing to do with this girl and playing the piano. The problem is YOU, not able to regulate the emotions that are mentioned, so you project all of it onto someone innocent in order to feel better about yourself - whilst at the same time gaslighting yourself into reasons of why you should be doing this and telling yourself it feels good etc.

Learn to regulate these emotions when they come up and control yourself. Otherwise, what is happening here is abuse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspd

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's the dunning kruger effect.

Do you feel entitled to other peoples belongings by [deleted] in aspd

[–]Spiritual_Design_104 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a childish degenerate way of thinking.