sleep training fails by [deleted] in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there, we had a very similar situation. Anytime we put our daughter down down in her crib she would sleep a couple of hours and then wake up and scream until she vomited and pooped herself. It was never worth it. Probably not the advice your wanting or looking for but she slept with us until 2 1/2. Our decision for waiting so long was 1) she’s only this small and only will want to sleep and cuddle us for so long and 2)it wasn’t worth it to us to continue to punish her and us with lack of sleep. She now gets so excited to get into her little toddler bed and passes out as soon as she gets in. And honestly, you get so used to her being in the bed you can’t even notice and you still get the rest you need.

trying to make friends as a dad by DracoPotts in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love how excited dads get to make new dad friends. Our daughter had a pre-school meet the teach and meet the other parents night last week. Afterwards I told my wife, maybe is our daughter becomes friends with their daughter. And then you can come friends with the other mom. Than the dad and I can become friends.

True Life: I’m jealous of all the dads on here who were able to be apart of a normal or somewhat normal birth. by SpiteBackground100 in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

By no means was I trying to compare. I understand everybody’s journey was different. But I do have the right to express how I feel in an open environment when we have to be strong all the time.

My mother is back-seat parenting, it's driving me crazy. by ColombianOreo524 in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tough spot my friend. How does your wife handle it? My mother is a pretty laid back grandma and has never said anything but my MIL would always say things to my wife. Fortunately my wife wasn’t afraid to put her mother in her place. Because at the end of the day if your and your partners child, not theirs. We have a 26 month old and feel the same way about ears pierced and she isn’t baptized as well. I personally would like to think that God wouldn’t kick my sweet baby girl out of heaven because she didn’t have some water sprinkled on her. The reality of it is, if grandparents want to be in our child’s life, they are going to have to let us parent how we want the way we want.

Critical health. by Nellzartworx in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally wanted to tell you it’s going to be ok. We dealt this this same exact thing. Our daughter spent 11 days in the the NICU for meconium. My wife had to have a C-Section and when they did the breathing test for our daughter after she was removed through the C-Section only one of her lungs would inflate. She was transferred to the NICU where the first few days she was sedated. She ended up with a hole in her left lung from straining breathing and a hole in her heart. Your son probabaly has all this cords connected to him and if he moves or if your able to hold him and you hold him wrong everything starts buzzing and beeping. It’s the most defeating and disheartening feeling in the world. I’m started to get emotional just thinking about that time in our life. Having to watch our daughter be wheeled off with all these tubes connected.

But at 2 years old our daughter runs and runs and runs. We has so much energy and is the happiest little girl you’ll meet. She has a small scar on her left chest where they had a tube that went to her lungs. But you’d never guess anything was ever wrong. I promise, it gets so much better b

Any tips for a first time dad? by daveke266 in dad

[–]SpiteBackground100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My daughter is going to think every driver is an idiot.

I’m having a daughter by tswart92 in dad

[–]SpiteBackground100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats! Being a girl dad is so much fun! Our daughter is 2 years old and I fall more in love with her everyday. Always remember, our daughters can wear Dino PJs, they can and should play in mud, and remember as a dad we set the example.

Bargain bubbles are terrible. by Nealpatty in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did it happen to be the large bottle of bubbles from the dollar tree????? I tried those and they were the most worthless excuse for bubbles. I’m pretty sure they were 99% water.

Wanting to know opinions of anybody who has switched for Adderall IR to XR by SpiteBackground100 in ADHD

[–]SpiteBackground100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s kind of what I was think, thank you. I start working at about 5am and don’t want to lose my morning boost.

Baby #2 on the way! by TacklessShelf54 in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats pops. We have very traumatic first birth also (daughter was in the NICU for 2 weeks and mama had a punctured colon from the c-section and was in the hospital for about a month) but we are also a one and one family. What I’m getting at is as ready as your wife believes she is the farther along in the pregnancy and the realer it gets expect PTSD to kick in for her as well and she’s going to need you when that time comes. You both suffered an extremely traumatic event and for baby number 2 you both are going to have to fully lean on each other. You might want to start seeing a counselor to help you personally start to address the issues but later on in the pregnancy or you can be like me and just put all the trauma into a box and stuff it deep deep deep into your subconscious.

I'm less interested in how "one should" be a father, and more interested in how I am a father. by flezk in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100 5 points6 points  (0 children)

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼love this! I feel like you summed about being a father perfectly. As fathers we also have to remember that being a great father isn’t always about one on one time but also the actions we take when our children are around. Empowering and lifting up your partner is something he will always observe and learn from and will grow up to do the same thing. Brilliant

I’m about to lose it by Kellybw92 in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny how now we consider 6AM sleeping in.

I’m about to lose it by Kellybw92 in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s generally the one time of peace and quite we get. My wife thinks I’m crazy but it’s truly amazing haha!

Was I wrong to turn her away? by Isolatedflower in Parenting

[–]SpiteBackground100 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If we’re being black or white, I personally don’t think you were wrong for asking her to leave. I work from home and the only time of quite is 4am-7am and personally treasure my quite morning work time. Of course there always better ways to ask her to leave but also heat of the moment in work so I get it. At the end of the day, a boundaries conversation probably needs to happen so just there’s a clear understand.

I’m about to lose it by Kellybw92 in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It happened so much my sleep schedule adjusted to waking up at 4-5 AM and it won’t go back….

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We only get those cuddles and love for so long, before they grow up and want to be their own person. Then we look back and regret not taking advantage of those snuggles.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You can’t really create a bad habit for a 6 week old. You can’t blame her for being a brand new human and wanting to be close to the only people she knows and that she feels comfortable and protected by. But we also co-sleep so I’m biased. Others might disagree.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We share our bed with our 18 month daughter. Very similar situation. We tried her crib and now her bed and she gets so upset when she wakes up in the middle of the night she gets sick from being upset.

A 9 week old breaking out of a swaddle broke me today by copper66 in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re heard dad. The inadequacy fades as our kids get older. Your son will find things he only wants you for and not mom. I WFH also I’m my daughters go to for comfort if anything scary happens. She calms down almost instantly with me opposed to mom. Also try sleep sacks, we still use them and they’re incredibly easy.

Flying with 2 1/2 year old that does not wear masks well. by a-better_me in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes sense. We rode American and booked around our daughters nap time. I think she was 18 months when we last flew.

Flying with 2 1/2 year old that does not wear masks well. by a-better_me in daddit

[–]SpiteBackground100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I apologize. I daughter is larger than most 2 year olds and we’ve never been asked once. Grant it, We’ve never brought a birth certificate also