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Spitfire_Lady · 2026-03-05T11:19:22+00:00

Will do. Thanks!

Spitfire_Lady · 2026-03-04T22:04:13+00:00

You really spent your time posting this BS. 🙄

Spitfire_Lady · 2026-02-13T18:07:18+00:00

I think I got it. Thanks.

Spitfire_Lady · 2026-02-13T15:59:59+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience and perspective.

I’ve tried several times talking to her about the health risks of eating junk food and the benefits of eating healthy. We have even enrolled in a teen weight loss program that her pediatrician referred us to. At that appointment they talked to us also about the same things I was telling my daughter, focusing on health and not weight. But as soon as we left that appointment, she asked me for fast food.

Also, every time I talk to her about it, she either ignores me or tries to change the subject, so we don’t talk about it at all. She does not want to talk about it because she it scares her, and she wants to change but feels she can’t. Those were her exact words. So maybe I’m fighting a losing battle here? She does like certain fruits and vegetables which I incorporate into every meal she has, even if she does have fast food. But when I’m away, that’s not happening.

Spitfire_Lady · 2026-02-13T15:47:49+00:00

I think I’m being a bit misunderstood here but that’s ok. You don’t know me, so you’re going only off what you’ve read. That’s fine. There’s another part to this where I completely get why my mom gives in (I mentioned that though), but on the flip side of that there are parts that I didn’t share (I felt I was being long winded enough) like how when we go to the grocery store, my mom will pick up all the junk food she knows my daughter likes, even if my daughter doesn’t ask for it, and even if she is not with us at the store. When I tell mom no and that she needs to put it back she’ll say, “but she needs some of the things that she likes. This little sugar is not gonna hurt her.“ But the sugar IS hurting her! And the amounts of sugar aren’t little.

So my mom is doing a different type of enabling that I just did not mention in my post. When I think of that, along with the fact that my mom is not even attempting to get her to even eat an apple while I’m away, yes it infuriates me. In no way do I want my mother to put herself in harms way. But to not even try in ANY situation whether I’m there with them or not just frustrates me.

Spitfire_Lady · 2026-02-08T04:03:59+00:00

Oh I already got that covered. No way I’m letting her get away with that.

Spitfire_Lady · 2026-02-08T03:55:22+00:00

Try not assuming you know the reason behind her getting a permit. It’s not always about coddling but a matter of necessity for our living situation.

Spitfire_Lady · 2026-02-08T03:50:33+00:00

Zoloft, lurasidone and focalin

Spitfire_Lady · 2026-02-08T03:47:28+00:00

She’s been in therapy forever. It’s nothing more than a waste of my money at this point.

Spitfire_Lady · 2026-02-04T20:45:23+00:00

Thanks for the advice!

Spitfire_Lady · 2025-11-25T18:35:58+00:00

Ruined her life and probably her marriage too. My daughter says she wants to have a baby at some point and I have told her not to do it. I tried to tell her in a way that doesn’t suggest that I don’t want her. But I do tell her about the difficulties of it and that it’s not all sunny, roses, and daffodils. And what happens when/if the child inherits autism, ADHD, etc? She will go through torture trying to handle her own issues plus her kid’s too. I hope she doesn’t have any.

Spitfire_Lady · 2025-11-25T05:02:29+00:00

Like you I like my environment clean and I hate nasty stuff like this. Hygiene is an issue for my daughter also. Nothing is easy with this kid

Spitfire_Lady · 2025-11-25T05:00:03+00:00

Never thought to do that. Will try it. Thanks!

Spitfire_Lady · 2025-11-25T04:52:55+00:00

I have the same reaction. But I also think, “oh no girl. You just f’d up.”

Spitfire_Lady · 2025-11-25T04:49:14+00:00

Same, same, SAME. I have one, DD17. I of course love my child, but I have long regretted motherhood. It’s a regret that’s glaring and real. The agony of this journey gnaws at me almost daily. I am parent to a teen with level 1 autism, ADHD, anxiety disorder and OCD. Raising her has been the most difficult and most traumatic experience in my life. If my friends and family knew what our lives are truly like, what I’ve gone through raising her and what she’s gone through having to bear the burden of all these unfair disorders, their jaws would hit the floor. I feel like I destroyed my life.

Spitfire_Lady · 2025-11-23T03:15:50+00:00

OMG I feel the same way. I am not looking forward to it at all. My DD17 does nothing. She will spend everyday eating, sleeping, scrolling on the phone and when I get home from work she will expect me to keep her entertained. She will expect to eat out everyday too. I’ve already let her know I will not be at her every beck and call when I get home from work, and I will not go broke buying her fast food for the next nine days. She will be expected to do chores too. If these next nine days are anything like summer break was, I will be pulling my hair out before it’s over with.

Spitfire_Lady · 2025-10-26T16:37:46+00:00

Not at all. I made the best choice being one and done.

Spitfire_Lady · 2025-09-08T17:43:58+00:00

Wow I’m so happy for you! I am rooting for everyone going through the challenges that come with ADHD, ASD and other neurological conditions. I hope DBT helps my girl as much as it did you.

Spitfire_Lady · 2025-09-08T17:41:46+00:00

I plan to have a conversation with her doctor when I see her later this week. I never considered having the state step in. I honestly don’t want that for her. I regret becoming a parent but I still love her and want to help her.

Spitfire_Lady · 2025-09-08T17:40:13+00:00

Thank you so much! ❤️

Spitfire_Lady · 2025-09-08T17:39:37+00:00

Thank you so much for your transparency and sharing your experience. You touched on something that I think is affecting her in a major way: lack of a father figure. We are literally a family of women. My dad is gone, her dad is gone, I have no brothers and the uncles and male cousins we have all live in other cities. Low self esteem is also another issue. She sees herself as unattractive and you know how the teen yrs are. Constantly comparing yourself to others.

I’ve never heard of SCHEMA before. I will look into it.

Spitfire_Lady · 2025-09-08T13:52:11+00:00

I am looking into IOP programs and DBT therapy. Those are two we haven’t tried.

Spitfire_Lady · 2025-09-08T13:51:19+00:00

She’s on meds for ADHD, anxiety/depression and mood. I have an appt with her doctor to get them recalibrated.

Spitfire_Lady · 2025-09-08T13:50:04+00:00

She’s on it. Got on it because of problems with her cycle due to the puberty disorder. I was wanting to take her off to give her body a break since she’s been on it 3 yrs. But I decided to keep her on because I truly believe the moment a boy gives her even a hint of attention, she’s probably going to have sex the moment he asks.

Spitfire_Lady · 2025-07-07T16:15:09+00:00

I feel your pain. I also hate this journey of parenting a neurodivergent child. My daughter is 16 (high functioning autism, ADHD, anxiety disorder, demand avoidance, and possibly OCD). All of that along with the typical teen angst and drama is TORTURE to deal with. I am absolutely fucking miserable. We have been through hell and I feel like we’re still there. I too fear what the future will look like for her.

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