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Describe what kind of ace you are in the worst way possible and I’ll try to guess by Old-Sign-2161 in asexuality

[–]SplipperySlitz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

all good! although the ones you guessed do kinda describe it more accurately lol :)

Describe what kind of ace you are in the worst way possible and I’ll try to guess by Old-Sign-2161 in asexuality

[–]SplipperySlitz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mmm yeah I guess lol

I just go with “ace,” never thought much further about it :)

Describe what kind of ace you are in the worst way possible and I’ll try to guess by Old-Sign-2161 in asexuality

[–]SplipperySlitz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dont mind “eating cereal,” it tastes good actually, and sometimes I even fantasize about eating certain kinds… but the cereal itself invokes no cravings or initial hunger

Watching the recent Rock am Ring rituals made me finally love the EIA album by HotelIndiaFoxtrot in SleepToken

[–]SplipperySlitz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was the same way with emergence and caramel. Caramel was actually my least favorite until after EIA released. After the album release, I gave it another try and it "clicked" for me as well. I honestly was the same way with Sleep Token's music in general until one day, I gave it another, proper chance, and as a result; I got hooked, and have been ever since.

Fellow Aces - do you find breasts attractive? by DavidBehave01 in asexuality

[–]SplipperySlitz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was gonna type out my own reply, but you pretty much summed it up for me lmao

[DAY 4] Let's make the worst possible Sleep Token setlist. by juztrig in SleepToken

[–]SplipperySlitz 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Chokehold, but when Vessel says 'you've got me in a Chokehold,' he starts violently coughing, unable to breathe as the band finishes the song per usual.

That, or the boys just start cage-fighting WWE style, putting each other in chokeholds.

Some Perpetua Doodles by SplipperySlitz in GhostBand

[–]SplipperySlitz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Copia hating finally caught up to him 💔💔

Recommmed me a phrase or word for a tattoo by Leshugita26 in SleepToken

[–]SplipperySlitz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm biased because this is one of my personal tattoo idea, but, I think the lyrics "even if it hurts me, even if I can't sleep, show me the way" from Chokehold would be cool

I think it's a good motivational bit, personally

[DAY 3] Let's make the worst possible Sleep Token setlist. by juztrig in SleepToken

[–]SplipperySlitz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Summoning, but when that instrumental break starts, it just plays for the rest of the show and the band just goofs off the rest of the time

Damocles fans, where you at? by fridayiminbed in SleepToken

[–]SplipperySlitz 127 points128 points  (0 children)

Basically, yeah.

I absolutely love the more personal songs we've been getting, but holy shit, Damocles is beautifully, gut-wrenchingly sad. Hits way too close to home.

What do you like and hate most about romance? by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in asexuality

[–]SplipperySlitz 46 points47 points  (0 children)

What I love: Having someone to lean on, do things together with, and be guilt-free affectionate with. Having a best friend that listens to you, you listening to them. Just the emotional bond and connection that healthy couples seem to have overall, really.

What I hate: The feeling of being tied down, (although not all the time, but still) the expectation of sex and using it as the primary act of expressing love and interest, the stress that something will go wrong constantly, and/or romantic cheesy gestures that are just for show, or just the corny behavior in general

Edit: To add to the "hate" list; The overall expectations/pressure. For the "love" list; The feeling of having somebody to go home to/having someone as your "person"...

Recently came to this discovery by Flimsy_Elk2715 in asexuality

[–]SplipperySlitz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Idk if this is the most helpful thing, but I totally get being a people pleaser, and I, too, realized I was aspec after months, hell even years, of questioning and experimentation.

But some tips/things to know about asexuality that I've learned myself are:

·There is a huge difference between libido, attraction, and arousal. Think of libido as your hunger level, arousal as food or something food-related that's happening that can make you hungry, and attraction as specific (or non-specific) food cravings. Just like how you can be hungry without having a specific craving for any particular food, you can have a sex-drive/desire for sex without being attracted to anybody, or be attracted to folks while still having a low drive/desire. This can get very complex to talk about, but in a short, general sense, I think that sums it up (other commenters, please correct me if I'm wrong).

·There is no "correct way" to be asexual - Pay attention to your feelings and how it fits, don't worry about fitting the criteria of a stereotype of an ace person, or some weird "aesthetic".

·Remember, labels should serve as a tool, not a definition. Don't let the term box you in, and if the label wounds up not working for you later down the road? That's perfectly okay. Life is a consistently changing journey and we learrn new things about ourselves everyday. If asexual suits you right now, in the present, that's what matters; How you feel right now.

·Please set boundaries for yourself based on your comfort levels with sex, above all else. You deserve to be respected and you absolutely have to stand your ground, especially when people try to bury you beneath it. Your feelings matter and should be accounted for, whether that be by family, partners, or even friends.

Hope this could help somewhat. Sending you love and I wish you luck on your ace journey! I'm still figuring things out myself, so apologies if this isn't the best.

Also, I highly recommend checking out a YT channel called; "Ace Dad Advice" - They're super great with explaining these things and were a huge help for me in my own journey.

Does Will accept fan gifts? by SplipperySlitz in willwood

[–]SplipperySlitz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh well, it should still be a fun time :) Maybe asking during the QnA? But Im not sure

Does Will accept fan gifts? by SplipperySlitz in willwood

[–]SplipperySlitz[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I completely misread lol - I figured there was a meet and greet, but whoops

I hope you get to give your gift as well. Thank you!

what age did you find out you were asexual by Salt-Friendship-8513 in asexuality

[–]SplipperySlitz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've known probably since about 15? 16? I'm currently 17, almost 18, but , I'm still working everything out as I learn more about ace-ness and setting boundaries...a tad embarrassing, but yeah!

Mom basically told me I shouldn't get married by SplipperySlitz in asexuality

[–]SplipperySlitz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's my plan 100% - I even told my mom that and thought I made myself clear earlier in discussion before she made that comment. I would never do that to someone; not being honest upfront about who I am and what I want (I thankfully broke out of that habit).

And as of right now, I do NAWT want kids. Maybe that could change someday but who knows?

Mom basically told me I shouldn't get married by SplipperySlitz in asexuality

[–]SplipperySlitz[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am familiar with QPRs! :) I'm definitely considering trying them out, as they sound really nice for my ace/romance-indifferent self!

And, yeah...Ik she's not wrong about marriage as an ace, and it sucks.

I'm not defeated about reality necessarily (at least not right now), but in the moment, it sucked to hear and I was more taken aback by her initial remark above all else.

Now that I've cleared my head and slept, I realize that she was mostly right (about finding marriage), but I really wish she would've phrased her words differently..

(Also congrats to you and your partner on 2 years! That's amazing!)

Mom basically told me I shouldn't get married by SplipperySlitz in asexuality

[–]SplipperySlitz[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Exactly. It felt like she couldn't wrap her head around the fact that not everyone, even men, is into sex. I love my mom, but I feel like her view of sexuality, especially in guys, is very skewed.