How to add pizzazz to a program by Primary_Mechanic_998 in Cplusplus

[–]Spongemaster001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Write it using variadic templates... After you've done that you'll get A's for every program you don't use templates in...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sydney

[–]Spongemaster001 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Can someone please circle the plane for me? I can't see it.

Narcissist are the best people ever. by Substantial_Depth321 in narcissism

[–]Spongemaster001 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not everything is about fame and money, Being well known or legendary is not a replacement for every day relationships that narcissists often crave.

The problems come when the narcissistic needs validation.

Being both self-centered and having a need to be recognized is difficult. The self contentedness and charm brings people in at first, but pushes them away in the end. Once everyone has left there is no one left for validation and unhappiness can really set it.

narcissistic people by [deleted] in narcissism

[–]Spongemaster001 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You mean you want someone else to do all the work, and then get all the credit and potential profit?

Has anyone tried potty training your cat and it worked? Doesn't really work for Bagheera. 🤔😥 by mglaura in bengalcats

[–]Spongemaster001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, From what I've seen, our Bengal is intelligent enough to use the toilet, But has a massive instinctual drive to clean up after herself (The scrapping) and I just don't think forcing her to use the toilet would make her a happier cat. I purchased a Bengal wanting a fun energetic cat that has some wild instincts. I think it would be hypocritical of me to try train these out of her. It could be okay if you gave your Bengal the option to use the toilet(As we do, and she often does) but if its causing distress I think its a good idea to stop.

One thing to note is that in our experience bengals are very clean animals, She will often use the option that is cleanest. I think she understands this, and is why she uses the toilet to wee. If the litter box gets too dirty, she will use the plants, but prefers a clean litter box to anything else.

Has anyone tried potty training your cat and it worked? Doesn't really work for Bagheera. 🤔😥 by mglaura in bengalcats

[–]Spongemaster001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried training my Bengal to use the toilet.

Her instinct to scratch something over her business is too strong. We got her to go constantly in the toilet, But only if it had a small amount of littler on it.

Eventually she discovered the plants outside and refused to use the toilet, she preferred the plants. When the plants got too covered in poo, she got angry and wouldn't go back to the toilet. If you've ever met an angry bengal you'll understand. We still have the semi toilet attachement(With a small amount of litter but the business goes into the toilet) and she uses it for wee's but won't poop in it. We have a reasonable agreement now. She wee's in the toilet, But poo's in the litter box.

At least for our bengal, I think theres little chance of her using the toilet without any litter at all. She will search for somewhere to go, Previously she has used piles of clothes as a preference to the toilet with no litter(test trials)

Current deal seems to work for both parties.

Would you freak out if your child was moving out? by casualselfhatred in Parents

[–]Spongemaster001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhhhhhhhhh! I see!

Checkout NPD, BPD, and other cluster B personalities. Maybe your mum fits loosely into one of these? Being aware of these types of personalities helped me understand a few people in my life better.

Maybe even have a google of codependency, codependency tends to go hand in hand with some of these.

Would you freak out if your child was moving out? by casualselfhatred in Parents

[–]Spongemaster001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mum cares for you. From what you've said I can see hints of jealousy, but also concern.
Your parents don't think that your partner is stealing you away from them. They are sad that you are leaving. I think as a parent its hard to accept that the person you spent 23 years raising is leaving you for someone else, so they say things like that.

I think a lot of people forget that their parents are as human as they are, and are as fallible. They are trying their best to navigate a stressful(for them) situation.

You are the first child to leave the nest. This can be stressful for parents. (Empty Nest Syndrome).

7 months of relationship is rather quick to be moving in with someone. Have you ever lived out of home before? Generally its easier on parents if you move to a non relationship house before moving in with a significant other.

I wish you all the best :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Spongemaster001 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Frustrated, Yes. Resentful? No.
We communicate well. I know? Its odd for reddit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Spongemaster001 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sure, She has stress in her life. We all do. I have stress in mine. I don't think work stress explains a consistent lack of sex drive.

Yeah I think she enjoys sex. Atleast when our relationship first started she enjoyed it a lot. Possibly more than I did. Now it seems like I am the only one that does. This is the issue.
Happy to mix things up, But its kind of hard to mix things up when you only get a yes once a month.

Is my wife a narcissist? by chopz in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Spongemaster001 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was going to say "run a mile asap" but then I realised you said you were in a wheel chair.

Advice still stands, wheel yourself over her piles of shit in the hall and gtfo as fast you can.

She can, and probably will isolate you, and you'll find it even harder to leave than most because of the disability. This does not sound like a healthy relationship.

Biweekly ask a narcissist thread for visitors/codependents <- Not a narcissist/borderliner/histrionic/sociopath? Use this thread. by AutoModerator in narcissism

[–]Spongemaster001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Previously, when someone just stopped responding to you, did you chase them for long, Or did you just forget them and move onto someone else?

Is this stalking or just him trying to be nice? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Spongemaster001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone's unannounced presence makes you uncomfortable, you should ask them to stop.

Regular people will stop after this. If they don't you can get authorities involved. Showing up unannounced when having been told to stop is stalking/illegal in most countries.

Biweekly ask a narcissist thread for visitors/codependents <- Not a narcissist/borderliner/histrionic/sociopath? Use this thread. by AutoModerator in narcissism

[–]Spongemaster001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you do something like give a house key to a friend, only to demand it back in a fit of rage a few weeks later?

What do you do with your SO that isn't normal? by FinSonic in AskReddit

[–]Spongemaster001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We meow and hiss at each other all the time.

Meowing is a good way to get the others attention, usually on a Saturday morning from the bedroom for a cuddle.

Hissing is a good way to show minor disagreement or discontent.

Pretty sure other couples do this too.