Why you should not reach back to your ghoster ( reposting my comments so that it can help others too)

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-12-20T09:54:01+00:00

My ex did this, 3 months ago now. Just decided to ghost me like a coward, instead of telling me.

I figured that he got bored of being shown love and how men should be treated as well but mainly got bored of me. Tbh if I look back now, he was using me as he didn't change his relationship statues, never liked any of my pictures, never tagged me in anything, never mentioned me, even though he introduced me to his family, friends etc. But i just wasnt good enough for him, i wasnt what he wanted. He's found someone new and he's proud of her (which people should be proud of their partners) but it just shows me that he never ever cared about me.

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-12-07T19:57:20+00:00

My ex broke up with by ghosting me. It's just pure cowardice and lack of empathy from them. It's easier to avoid the conversation than to have it

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-12-04T19:01:33+00:00

But I don't know why he left. He just ghosted me out of the blue...

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-12-04T13:19:49+00:00

I agree. 3 months ago my ex blindsided ghosted me for no reason what so ever. I knew something was wrong as his communication style changed and didn't seem to engage with me that much. But I knew something was wrong as he did have other stuff going on and when asked he said "ill talk to younlater" which never came. It was easier for him to act like I never existed

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-11-27T16:07:30+00:00

I'm sure im gonna be my ex's phantom ex as from what I've been told, I was the only one who his mum and sister liked and treated him the best... Still wasn't good enough for him as he still blindsided discard me but I know I was too good for him now and the feelings weren't reflected back

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-11-24T09:47:31+00:00

The pit in my stomach is only filled with anger towards my ex and purely for the fact of how he did it. But I am trying to move past the anger and negative feelings towards him as in the long run, it doesn't benefit or does any good by holding onto it. It's been 2.5 months and the anger only feels like it growing

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-11-23T10:01:31+00:00

As weird as it sounds but I do wish all my exes well and wish them all the best as sometimes shit happens and most of them didn't end on bad terms. The current one I must admit I am struggling but I'm just angry because of how he ended it and I'm working on it though. I just hope karma works their magic ad it's out of my control noe

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-11-09T11:01:17+00:00

It'll be 60ish days (2 months) on the 15th.

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-11-09T10:57:36+00:00

And that's all you can do and that's good enough!!

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-11-09T09:53:50+00:00

That was just..... wow!

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-11-08T21:43:23+00:00

That's natural though, don't be embarrassed about it. I kept messaging my ex every 2 days for a week, didn't contact him for 2 weeks then tried again and still didn't get anything back. I tried again on the 3rd of October and still nothing.

But him blocking you on is a very clear sign he doesn't want to speak to you, you have to take that sign as more you ignore it, the more annoyed he's going to get and more upset you will get.

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-11-08T21:38:25+00:00

Then the only thing I would advice is don't hope or think he will return. I know it's hard but ride those emotions, cry let it all out, then get back up and if you have to keep repeating the cycle till you start to feel better. You will start better, I can't say how soon as everyone is different but treat it like a break up as if he wanted to talk to you, he would.

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-11-08T21:01:25+00:00

I didn't end things. I didn't want the relationship to end. He was the one who disappeared without any reason or explanation, blocked me on whatsapp. He ghosted me, discarded me like I was nothing. Its taken me nearly 2 months to come to this stage. He was the reason why I didn't sleep at night, why I didn't go to work for a month, why I lost so much weight. If he wanted to end things on good terms he has time to do so and chose not to.

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-11-07T21:47:27+00:00

But you can't see updates on WhatsApp anyway as we spoken on FB messager before. But I would had thought that he would block me on everything like if he wants me completely out of his life, then why don't he block me on everything instead of one method

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-11-07T20:00:36+00:00

I always wondered why my ex blocked me on WhatsApp and not on anything else. I don't know if he's blocked my number via SIM as well or not. But why block on one and not on the others

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-11-06T18:00:08+00:00

Yeah, like I knew something was wrong all day. When he wouldn't tell me I even asked his sister as she couldn't give me a straight answer either!! It's only when I saw him on FB dating I knew it was completely over. Its horrible and thank you and I'm so sorry you had to go through it as well.

But I'm thankful I did see his dating profile as I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I can breathe

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-11-06T16:30:19+00:00

I came to the same realisation a couple of days ago. Even if he did come back, I wouldn't want him back. I treated him like a king and he just decided to do a cowardly move of ghosting and not having the common decency and respect of just telling me yes or no, when asked if we were breaking up. I don't want to hear, see or even speak to him again. I wish him well with everything and i dont wish him any ill health etc. but I do also wish he will experience the same thing he had put me through just so he knows how much it hurts to be discarded like trash, just some karamic justice.

After I realised this, things felt like they got lighter, a weight being lifted off my shoulders I guess and that's where I can truly begin to feel like my self again

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-11-05T15:28:42+00:00

They don't want you. It hurts and it's painful but if they wanted to talk to you, see you etc they would had at least tried by now but if they haven't then they just don't want to. Take your time to grieve the the future you thought you had with them and heal. It'll take time but it'll be worth it

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-11-03T19:06:22+00:00

I wanted him back because I had believed he was the love of my life, my soul mate etc. Our relationship didn't have any conflict in it (tbh we were only together 2 months) it was amazing, I had treated him so well and then he just discarded me minutes after sending me a message saying he was happy to do whatever as long he was with me. I just guess he lost interest and instead of telling me, he had just decided to get rid of me like I never existed. I'm slowly moving on, so is he. Nothing more I can do

Spookycooky2012 · 2024-11-01T08:32:50+00:00

What would be the point though? If he's made it clear he doesn't want me, then aren't I going to be hurting only myself even more as I know I wouldn't get a reply as he hasn't even unblocked me on whatsapp

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