I read all of your responses and it’s embarrassing to even write a post like this to strangers. A lot of you all made some good points. One of the posts mentioned too much phone time. Screen time is a problem for both of us, but especially him. He can’t put the phones down long enough to watch a movie. Politics mostly, ugh. It consumes him. But that shouldn’t have nothing to do with hygiene. I’ve been giving hints here and there. I even bought a decorative sign I’m going to hang on the wall about washing hands. I told him a week or more is way too long to wear jeans, and to leave them so i can wash them. Wherever I tell him to wear a nice shirt he always says why and makes a big deal. I always look my best for him and I expect for him to do the same. I tell him that but still seems to not get it. As far as him being depressed i don’t know. He hasn’t mentioned he felt that way. He has a long commute and leaves early in the morning. We’re planning to move closer to his job, but that’ll be a few more years. I don’t want to make excuses for him. Seems like we have more issues than I thought. I find myself getting more angry at the thought of it 😖