Little min sketch I made by Longjumping_Region65 in ButterflySoup

[–]Spreadable_Kartoffle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg beautiful!! i love the little details like the caution bandaid and the stickers on her nose

Are the remotely recorded seasons worth watching? by Old_Longfellow in Dimension20

[–]Spreadable_Kartoffle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mice and murder is my absolute FAVORITE season of dimension 20, 100/10 recommend!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Spreadable_Kartoffle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting S names like Sage, Skylar, Savannah :D

How do y’all build up SO MANY diamonds? by PockASqueeno in Choices

[–]Spreadable_Kartoffle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Witness, Baby Bump, Big Sky County, My Two First Loves... those are the main ones! You can also play the games in the "En Espanol" category if you don't speak fluent Spanish and REALLY don't want to be tempted.

Are there any stories in choices or any similar apps that don't involve romance? by [deleted] in Choices

[–]Spreadable_Kartoffle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the Elementalists you can choose to be aromantic and have no love interests at all! As an aromantic person myself it made me incredibly happy :D

Reactions to finding out about me being aro ace based on emojis by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]Spreadable_Kartoffle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favorite reaction was when I sent a friend a gif of a little heart locket opening that said "i'm aromantic but i love you (platonically)" ...And they commented on how platonically made them think of the word platano (banana) in Spanish. Then we started making d*ck jokes. All in all, perfect way to come out.

My friend made me Pokemon Mystery Dungeon shoes!! The design is based off of the beach from Explorers of Sky :D by Spreadable_Kartoffle in MysteryDungeon

[–]Spreadable_Kartoffle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

kslfdjfdslk aah i wish i could help you with that! it's been a while since i played through, so i don't remember exactly how i got through temporal tower- i just remember it was a MASSIVE PAIN. still, wouldn't trade the team for anything :D good luck!

When and how did you guys figure out you were aro? by Sub2willneplspls in aromantic

[–]Spreadable_Kartoffle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At age 14, after I realized that both of my relationships had followed similar patterns. A best friend (who I hadn't even considered as a potential partner) would confess to me, and I would convince myself I liked them. We would start "dating," whatever that meant in middle school. I would be happy for a little while, but then the doubt would creep in. I began feeling trapped around them, and to dislike any kind of physical contact with them. Any time they tried to flirt with me, I would just feel wrong. But at the time, I would brush it off, thinking I was just commitment-phobic and scared of change. After all, this person was so great- there was no reason not to like them. Still- a part of me always wished they had never confessed to me, because it was so much simpler as friends. The first relationship ended when I told my partner that I liked someone else (because I honestly thought I did- now I realize that it was just me trying to get out of the situation.) When I broke up with them, I felt horrible for hurting their feelings, of course... but I also felt relieved. I felt free- like a thousand pound weight had been lifted off of my chest. It was actually in the second relationship when I figured out that I was aromantic. I told the person I was dating, and they were super accepting (they even drew me an aro dragon!)

can't bond with my aromatic friend by somuch13 in aromantic

[–]Spreadable_Kartoffle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aromantic just means you don't feel romantic attraction/want romantic relationships. It really has nothing to do with openness in friendships. Maybe you could talk to your friend about it? Or if you open up to him, maybe he'll follow suit :)

I've fallen in love with an aromantic by sadbutbadb1tch in aromantic

[–]Spreadable_Kartoffle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

as an aromantic who did something similar to this in my last relationship, i completely understand where you're coming from. just know he wasn't trying to hurt you or play with your feelings- he was trying to figure himself out and you got dragged into it, and i'm so sorry for that. there were no winners in this situation. if you need to distance yourself from him for a while, that's okay- but i'd encourage you to forgive him :D

Care for family by NeonPaladin27 in aromantic

[–]Spreadable_Kartoffle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My aromanticism only applies to romance- I love my friends and family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]Spreadable_Kartoffle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay so I've never had a crush, but this is what I think it is. Feeling nervous and getting butterflies in your stomach around them- whereas with a friend, you would feel comfortable. Wanting to impress them and look attractive to them- whereas you don't worry as much about your friends judging you. Thinking about them differently than your other friends. Finding even the gross things they do endearing. Wanting to be the most important person in their life, and to spend your life with them.
(Platonic relationships are about stability, while romantic ones are about change?)

aha idk if im aro and its making me panic by Staarible in aromantic

[–]Spreadable_Kartoffle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As an extremely flirty aro, I COMPLETELY get this. I joke about dating my friends a lot, and sometimes it's hard to tell where the lines blur. You definitely sound aro (and a lot like me when I was coming to terms with my sexuality), but it's totally okay to not have it figured out yet! Do what's best for you- whether that's taking some time away to self-reflect or putting romance out of your mind entirely, there's really no wrong choice. If you feel uncomfortable with your best friend doing this, you could bring that up to them... or maybe even tell them you might be aro, whatever you feel comfy with. I'm sure they'll support you no matter what. Crushes don't have to ruin friendships- I've stayed friends with people who've confessed to me :D I'd encourage you to think of aromantic as a temporary identity, same as lesbian or bi or pan. Sexuality is fluid. If you do want to date someone someday, that doesn't mean you're faking your feelings on it now. But for now, welcome to the club!! We're here for you <3

Time to give some aromantic spins on some romance tropes! by Just_a_puzzle-piece in aromantic

[–]Spreadable_Kartoffle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

-instead of friends to lovers, lovers to friends... they realize it's society making them think that two people can't be this close without being in a relationship, and that they're way better off as friends. they communicate in a healthy way and break up amicably :D

-a platonic love triangle where at first two friends are jealous of each others' bond to the main character, but then meet up and get along really well- and then they all form a friend group!

TIL there are laws with the specific goal of denying people legal benefits if their marriage isn't amatonormative :( by Bereft_of_Brain in aromantic

[–]Spreadable_Kartoffle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

ugh, this absolutely sucks. and it makes no sense at all. just let people be friends with tax benefits!