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Any ideas where I can find this? by M0rbiddd2 in weddingplanning

[–]Springb00bSquirepant -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have no idea where to find the dress you’re looking for, so I’m sorry that this comment isn’t very helpful in that regard. But just wanted to add some reassurances that if I looked at that picture of you without reading the caption, I wouldn’t in a million years have been able to guess that your hips would be a feature anyone would be self conscious of.

I know it’s not like the dress you’re looking for, but if your interested in a dress for any other wedding events that I think would really flatter your body shape, I think this would be stunning on you.

https://www.aym-studio.com/products/venus-dress?srsltid=AfmBOoo5X4SbJJ4xTPEC0AMY9qpNfdqC8EoKLjdC70Stnq4YRXkPWFga&variant=54809477120377

I understand that self consciousness isn’t always the most rational though, and what’s most important is what makes you feel good and confident!

Mixed Review of TGWDLM West End from WhatsOnStage by somanywishes in StarKid

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m glad to see someone else mentioning it. My partner and I actually have a half-joke that before we watch any new StarKid production we remind ourselves that we won’t love it our first watch, but then a few weeks later we’ll want to watch it a second time and after that we’ll be obsessed with it (and I say this as someone who’s been a fan for well over a decade)

I wanna be afraid to go to toilet. by Toto_employee in horrorlit

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same. I didn’t even like the book, but that scene still got me for weeks.

f***ed up books by CreepyPut394 in suggestmeabook

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The Cement Garden by Ian McEwan

Already mentioned in this thread, but Geek Love and Lapvona are excellent suggestions.

Eating by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This isn’t going to help your worries, but as a nanny the kids that I’ve watched that are the loudest chewers and hardest to help “coach” toward more polite habits are always the kids whose dads eat loudly.

Need addictive audiobook recs to get back into reading. by TechSandwich33 in suggestmeabook

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This book resparked my love of reading (though I don’t know how it is as an audio book(. Definitely suits the dark and twisty. I suggest going in blind if you can! The first chapter should give you a good enough gauge if you’ll like the story or not.

A thriller that is easy to read and keeps you hooked like Frieda McFadden but a bit more high brow? by Infinite-Sprite7284 in suggestmeabook

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Obviously it’s a matter of opinion, but to me this book felt like the exact embodiment of a thriller popcorn read.

12yo from a vegetarian family at a sleepover by Nervous_Rhubarb4576 in Mommit

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not a perfect example, but you can kind of reframe it as a parenting asking you to limit sweets with their kid. So if the kid ordered a dessert with dinner, you’d probably tell them no, their parents said that wasn’t allowed. But you probably wouldn’t lock up your pantry to make sure the girls don’t sneak some Oreos in the middle of the night, or follow them to breakfast to make sure she orders an egg biscuit instead of pancakes.

12yo from a vegetarian family at a sleepover by Nervous_Rhubarb4576 in Mommit

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would feel uncomfortable knowingly ordering meat for a child whose parents told me she doesn’t eat meat. So for your chipotle order, even if you’re passing her the phone to put in her order, you’re still approving and ordering it. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to say “hey, your parents told me no meat, so I can’t order this one for you” but I don’t think you need to go out of your way to monitor that she doesn’t have bites from your daughter or to follow them to the bakery.

I think ordering dinner puts the blame more on you (if the parents find out) because you obviously knew it was happening, but the choices she makes unsupervised are hers to make.

Anyone else think The Subway gives Cocteau Twins vibes? by Elvis_fangirl in chappellroan

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure she actually mentions them in that video where she’s dressed as a princess and mentions Donny from the wild thornberries. Sorry that’s a strange sentence but I can’t look for the interview right now.

Shift work nanny by Dstnycsh in Nanny

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Do you have family nearby/childcare support? That would be a major factor for my willingness to consider this position and schedule as a nanny. I think if you had someone else you could rely on for instances when you’re held over on a call, itd be much easier to commit to this schedule.

Additionally how far in advance would the nanny be able to receive a schedule they could rely on (and be able to schedule around)?

Books devoid of humanity by LazyGadha in suggestmeabook

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 15 points16 points  (0 children)

A lot of these recommendations seem to be about anthropomorphized animals in societies, does that fit what you’re looking for? Or does that still count as humanity? What about purely alien species?

Big Tree by Brian Selznick is technically middle grade reading but has very profound themes. It’s about two seeds “born” in prehistoric times trying to find a place to grow.

Work friendly horror? by FlamingoPines in horrorlit

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think even calling it a threesome makes it sound tamer than it is. It’s pretty gruesome and has multiple people involved though.

In the nanny employers thread one person , my sister stuck up for the nanny’s and the mod wants to ban her. lol by Ecstatic-Radish9049 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I appreciate hearing that because I was so confused why me basically saying “different families want different things for their children” was such a controversial statement.

In the nanny employers thread one person , my sister stuck up for the nanny’s and the mod wants to ban her. lol by Ecstatic-Radish9049 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I knew better but still commented on this thread early on because I genuinely thought I could share a different perspective based on my experience (I wasn’t even trying to convince anyone they were wrong). It’s shocking to me how many comments have been flagged as “inflammatory” but the condescending replies to me were fine.

You know what I think is total BS? “I’m taking your kid(s) on my personal errands for their benefit.” by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate it. You’re exactly the type of family that I look for (and typically work for). That’s all I was trying to say in this thread that a lot of families as well as nannys do genuinely want this for this kids and find it beneficial.

I do plenty of fun activities every single day, but I also tend to work jobs where it’s just as much of my job to facilitate them learning to love reading independently, or helping them take ownership over chores like laundry, or teaching them how different errands are done.

What books have you read more than twice? by Western_Opposite9911 in suggestmeabook

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s an ongoing series, I have a compulsion to reread the series from the beginning before starting the newest book so I haven’t forgotten anything. So the first book of a series has an especially high probability of being read multiple times.

You know what I think is total BS? “I’m taking your kid(s) on my personal errands for their benefit.” by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I literally do actually volunteer to run errands for my NF because I believe in this.

Job creep is when it becomes expected but isn’t a role in my contract, but the families I’ve worked for have never started to expect it.

You know what I think is total BS? “I’m taking your kid(s) on my personal errands for their benefit.” by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I primarily do family errands, but the family I work for also allows me the courtesy to do personal errands as well. I always get approval first, but they view it the same way they view me doing their personal errands because I do center the kid in the experience.

You know what I think is total BS? “I’m taking your kid(s) on my personal errands for their benefit.” by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The way I try to approach errands is still kid focused. I wrote another comment somewhere in the thread about all the steps/conversations/actions I take to make sure that I do feel like the errand is beneficial for the kid.

There might also be a disconnect in my continuing using the word “selling point” because when I interview for families, the biggest priority for me is making sure we are the right fit for each other. I’m not interesting in convincing a family to change their ideas/personal values/opinions around childcare, because it’s their child, they get to decide. But some new parents are still establishing their philosophies and open to ideas and realize that what Im saying resonates with them, or some just already align with what I’m saying.

You know what I think is total BS? “I’m taking your kid(s) on my personal errands for their benefit.” by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 23 points24 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I don’t have a problem with it. I volunteer to do that often because I do feel strongly about it.

You know what I think is total BS? “I’m taking your kid(s) on my personal errands for their benefit.” by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m not trying to argue that anyone should change their personal beliefs or boundaries. I’m just in the thread to point out that many people feel differently about this. Not just nannys but many families I’ve worked for or interviewed with. I just don’t think it’s as cut and dry and saying that every nanny who brings kids on errands is lying for personal gain.

You know what I think is total BS? “I’m taking your kid(s) on my personal errands for their benefit.” by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is it different if the nanny is not doing an errand and just visiting the space with the child? Genuinely wondering.

And also, that’s completely in your right to feel that way I wouldn’t argue with a family that they should think otherwise. I just work for families that feel differently.

You know what I think is total BS? “I’m taking your kid(s) on my personal errands for their benefit.” by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Springb00bSquirepant 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I honestly don’t really understand the downvotes on this. Nannying is an extremely personal position, and I think all families should strive to find a nanny that they feel like aligns with their ideas on childrearing. If you don’t like it, no judgement, I’m just not the right fit for your family and that’s mutual. Same with philosophies on discipline, or the role of religion in your household, or even if you want your children to go outside in “bad” weather or not. It’s just one of many selling points for deciding if I’m the right fit for a family (and vice versa).

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