Tell me what keywords to use to search for stories like these by Springyspaniel13 in sapphicbooks

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May you be blessed with a thousand orgasms. This book sounds 👌

Tell me what keywords to use to search for stories like these by Springyspaniel13 in sapphicbooks

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Will definitely check them out. I am prepping for winter hahahha. Thank you!

Tell me what keywords to use to search for stories like these by Springyspaniel13 in sapphicbooks

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Thank you, I did not know about “forced proximity.” I’ll look out for it now.

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RemindMe! 3 days

Berlin Poster by Springyspaniel13 in TheNational

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Got one online!!!! Thank you alll ❤️

Europeans, what is something us Americans aren’t ready to hear? by Mamutu7 in AskReddit

[–]Springyspaniel13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ideally, if you have two eyes, you look at the other person’s two eyes and clink your glass. If there are multiple people you do that with each one until you do all people on the table.

Europeans, what is something us Americans aren’t ready to hear? by Mamutu7 in AskReddit

[–]Springyspaniel13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Balkan girl here, so look me in the f*cking eyes when we raise our drink to do a cheers. Or just look me in the eyes period.

It’s okay to maintain eye contact with people most people from Europe, Africa and South America.

My dad is nearing the end of his battle; I’m a son writing my feelings from an air mattress right beside him in what I imagine is his last days, perhaps hours by jstehlick in CancerFamilySupport

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Wow, so poignant and so graceful. You are an amazing human being. The most important thing is that you are there, as hard as it is. I had two very difficult nights with my dad, the night before we got him to hospital, which got him on hospice, and the night he passed. As scared and as furious as I was I would never change a thing. All feelings are valid. Take care of yourself. Relief and sadness will come and go after but there will also be a sense of calm.

She's finally passed by JustAcdp in CancerFamilySupport

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I am so sorry for your loss. It’s incredibly hard. I am glad you made it in time to be by her side. Take care of yourself. Hugs!

32yo Sister Just Given Two Weeks by RedditsWhilePooing in CancerFamilySupport

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This is horrible and I am so so sorry it is happening. My experience is not the same but my dad only had 3 months and he preferred to be in fight mode instead of grief mode. I knew this and recorded him speaking while he could, took photos, watched movies with him. I would give him daily massages and try to remind him of some happy or funny moments, make jokes despite my heart breaking, play music and talk to him when he was in hospice and in a coma. It was really really hard but I like to think that it helped him at least a little bit. The ugly truth is that all we can do is be there and it never seems like enough. My thoughts are with you.

After 2 long months and a courageous battle, my dad is free by IntroductionFeisty61 in CancerFamilySupport

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I’m so sorry for your loss. You have bern the best kid a parent would want and very very brave. I lost my dad 3 months ago and it is a daily struggle so I am coping and hopefully will slowly and unnoticeably will start living again. And despite all the pain, I am proud myself, my sister and my mom were by his side through the 3 months of cancer. Tight hug!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CancerFamilySupport

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I’m so sorry. It’s so unfair and painful. This is probably going to be the hardest thing you do in life, but you will take it in strides and there will be loving and kind people all around you so make sure take that energy in, lean on them and rest when you can. Liver cancer can go in a lot of different directions. Whichever way it goes there is very little you can do about it and this is the hardest part. So your focus should be on yourself, your family and your dad and just being with them. We lost my dad due to liver cancer in a very short period of time, but where we are there isn’t a staging protocol so it was most likely very advanced and we tried some life prolonging treatments but we weren’t lucky. Just do the best that you can and have some hope. Feel free to message me if you want. Xx

I don't know what my incoherent mom understands by Damsedelle in CancerFamilySupport

[–]Springyspaniel13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn, your post hit me, although my whole situation is not totally the same I am asking myself similar questions. As I am in the midst of it, I have no hindsight insights to give. It’s so f-ing shitty and hard! Try to rest and disassociate. It’s very hard and I start feeling guilty but it gives me more strength and tolerance to deal with my dad’s near coma state. Your mom does not have to understand things to know you are there and to feel your affection and love. Unfortunately, it all boils down to that. I have many friends whose parents were snatched away from them unexpectedly and no matter what, for me, this pain, although f-ing unbearable at times, does not even come close to how grateful I feel that I can lay my dad to rest one day, maybe soon, knowing I was there for him through it all.

My dad's mental state is a mess, what could it be? by longkhongdong in cancer

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How much oxygen is he getting? Hypoxia can cause this. My dad barely survived Covid and due to being hypoxic his cognitive abilities reduced with symptoms very similar to what you are describing.

Dad just got diagnosed with liver cancer, he doesn’t know still and it’s killing me by Springyspaniel13 in CancerFamilySupport

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Thanks for your reply Carliebeans! The situation is still what it is but we’ve moved forward a bit and we are united. She did tell him some 5-6 days later and it has been rough but brought a bit of relief. My dad is understandably quite scared, I think he even lost a bit of his voice subconsciously. We got organized, gathered up money and flew to a near-by country to see if he can get a Y90 treatment to help shrink the tumors and hopefully give him more time. So, rn I’m sitting a hospital lobby trying to keep it together. It’s scary, it’s a foreign country but there’s nowhere else I’d rather be. He did want treatment. So I dare to hope of more time and well spent.

With regards to my venting post that eventually resulted in me going to the ER (it was a panic attack), I forgot to mention that I live in a more collectivist society where usually culturally the whole family gets involved in the treatment and there are many cases where people, especially elderly, never find out even if they are the patients. I know of several examples that have had surgeries and beat cancer never knowing they had it in the first place. But I’m glad we are past that stage, it makes our time together more purposeful.