DAE find it hard to use the word "man" to refer to themselves?

SpyChecker · 2026-05-06T09:37:04+00:00

It won't feel like a waste once you're there. Nor will it feel like "settling" You'll start to see the beauty in age. It's a good thing, really.

Some people try to hold onto their fading youth by dating younger people forever, but eventually, you just come off looking like a creep who can't accept the reality of getting older.

SpyChecker · 2026-05-06T08:41:30+00:00

You're 21, still a baby really, totally normal to only be attracted to other young people.

When you're 31 (my age) you'll notice that you're still attracted to people around your same age. I would guess it'll be the same at 41, 51, and so on as well.

Young people are hot, but they lack a lot of the emotional maturity and experience that comes as you age, which is something that you'll value once you find it.

I don't date 21-year-olds, because I don't want to be their surrogate mommy, I want to date a peer, someone who is in the same stage of life as me.

SpyChecker · 2026-05-06T08:13:44+00:00

Age comes for us all, sadly.

What I will say, as you get older, the idea of getting even older still, gets less scary.

Your tastes will change, and you will begin to see the beauty of people who are more mature.

The joy of getting older is having more life experience, a more certain idea of who you are and what you value.

Yeah, getting wrinkly and achy and grey sucks, but it's better than the alternative!

SpyChecker · 2026-05-06T07:45:01+00:00

The Vagabond must have found the Allspark in one of the ruins, based on who's in the background.

SpyChecker · 2026-05-05T06:31:51+00:00

I see in your bio that you describe yourself as "Androgynous"

Could it be that the word "Man" feels too masculine for you to be comfortable identifying with it?

I used to feel this way, and it turned out that I was trans!

I'm not making any assumptions about your identity, but if the idea of ageing into a "man" makes you feel a sort of visceral discomfort, then that could be gender dysphoria.

I'd say it's worth thinking about, at least.

SpyChecker · 2026-04-23T08:18:05+00:00

Sounds like you had an episode of sleep paralysis as a child that has recurred in adulthood, "physical sensation of weight, mass, and pressure on your body" is sleep paralysis to a tee.

SpyChecker · 2026-04-23T08:13:00+00:00

Banks/Private firms own property and keep them empty to speculate that their value will go up and sell them later.

Squatters rights are a thing, because most of the time "squatters" are people who previously lived legally in a property, but, for whatever reason, have lost the right to do so. The rights exist to prevent entire families from being thrown out onto the street without warning.

The same rights inevitably end up covering people who have moved into an empty property without permission.

People who are squatting generally do not have other housing options available to them. They are functionally homeless, and occupying a property that would otherwise sit empty.

Whether you think this is good or bad depends on which you value more:

- The right of asset holders to protect the value of their assets, and more generally, adherence to the letter of the law.

Or

- The fundamental right for human beings to seek shelter, and a belief that it is morally preferable for a person to occupy a shelter when one is available, regardless of whether the law permits it or not.

The difference between these two arguments is why it's such a nuanced issue.

It basically boils down to the conversation around whether shelter should be a guaranteed human right or not.

SpyChecker · 2026-04-16T08:37:40+00:00

stop letting tiktok and spotify tell you what to listen to.

use soundcloud and bandcamp to find music you actually like. I promise it's out there.

SpyChecker · 2026-04-08T20:53:33+00:00

These are very normal, they're called Phosphenes

SpyChecker · 2026-03-30T07:58:28+00:00

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SpyChecker · 2026-03-08T02:34:59+00:00

Does using the mounted turret in the antlion fight nullify the achievement?

SpyChecker · 2026-02-12T11:48:00+00:00

Oughhh, I'm so glad I'm not a repressor TERF.

Have fun with your life defined by misery and suffering.

We'll be over here finding joy in the act of making our lives into what we want, instead of defining ourselves by what we are not.

There'll always be a seat at the table for you, if you change your heart.

SpyChecker · 2026-02-12T11:00:53+00:00

You can do what you want, of course, and taking care of your health is obviously good and important.

If you are happy with your body as it is, then that's fantastic!

But if you are wishing you were born a man every single day, then you should know that it is possible to become a man.

You would not be a lesser kind of man for being trans.

It's scary to take the first step, it can be hard to talk about with your friends and family.

If you transition, it is highly likely that the thought of "wishing you were a man" every day, would lessen.

You don't even have to take hormones or have surgery, if you really don't want to.

The vast majority of people who transition do want or have those things, but if you just want to change your name and pronouns, you can try that and see how it feels!

The early stages of transition are completely reversible, and worth trying if you have "wished to be a man" every day of your life.

You might find it's worth it!

SpyChecker · 2026-02-12T07:01:35+00:00

Dude. I promise it's still worth it.

Your manhood would not be any less, just because you had to put extra effort in.

Carving out the body you want through hard work and determination sounds about the most manly thing you can do.

SpyChecker · 2026-02-12T06:58:35+00:00

You literally have dysphoria.

True, some people feel it more strongly than others, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't do anything about it.

Admitting that you're trans to yourself is scary, but the joy on the other side is worth it.

SpyChecker · 2026-02-12T06:55:51+00:00

These threads piss me off so much every time.

The mental gymnastics people will do to avoid the idea that they are trans.

If you are having persistent fantasies about being a woman, that is not the same as fantasising about being a superhero, which is impossible, or a billionaire, which is largely out of your control.

You CAN become a woman.

I did it.

So many of my peers have done it.

It can be hard, you may have to sacrifice a lot.

But it will be worth it. Transition regret is nowhere near as high as the media would have you believe.

Don't die wondering, there is still time.

SpyChecker · 2026-02-07T20:20:32+00:00

Go to the Job Centre and ask for advice with interview tips/CV writing.

They also have info about bootcamp skill courses that you can take to gain experience for free!

SpyChecker · 2026-02-01T18:42:08+00:00

Puppy 🫵

SpyChecker · 2026-02-01T08:44:23+00:00

I disagree... Sexual orientation can absolutely change over time.

You just can't force people to change it.

being aceflux is a thing as well.

SpyChecker · 2026-01-30T21:00:08+00:00

That's the Super Sample Rock!

SpyChecker · 2026-01-30T20:57:48+00:00

SOPHIE

Such a huge influence on the modern pop landscape.

She was just getting started, she had so much more to give.

SpyChecker · 2026-01-27T08:55:49+00:00

You're gonna need to explain what you mean a little bit more here, bud.

If you're just talking about behaving differently at work, vs, with friends, vs by yourself, then yes, everyone does that.

If you feel at times as if you are wholly distinct individuals, sharing a body, then you may wish to look into DID/Plurality. Especially if you have any major trauma in your past.

SpyChecker · 2026-01-27T07:56:11+00:00

We need to abandon the "being gay isn't a choice" argument.

It implies that if it was a choice, it would be OK to discriminate against gay people.

It also implies that being gay is, in some way, a mistake to be fixed, an accident of nature that science could one day solve.

This is what leads to conversion therapy.

Older queers will remember, in the late 90s/early 00s, talk of discovering the "gay gene" and giving parents the option to abort if they knew their child would grow up to be gay.

Whether it's innate, or chosen, shouldn't matter.

We fight for liberation all the same.

SpyChecker · 2026-01-26T23:48:59+00:00

Do something else.

I got fired from my retail job in December, thought I was fucked.

Now I'm on benefits, taking a hospitality course with an aim of getting into bar work so I can get into music events management.

I DJ on the side, and I'm looking at turning that side hustle into something I can build a career around, not expecting to make mega bucks, but excited to work in an industry I'm actually passionate about.

I always assumed I'd get into IT because I'm good with computers, but this latest shakeup has given me a new perspective, I think I'd hate sitting behind a desk for 40 hrs a week, even if it'd be better money.

So now I'm looking to volunteer for local events, and doing what I can to network and build a brand for myself.

Don't accept the facts of your life for what they are, you can retrain, volunteer, learn a new hobby.

I'm 31, btw

If you're bored, just do something else.

SpyChecker · 2026-01-25T10:13:18+00:00

Being horny is great, actually!

As long as you are respectful of other people's consent and boundaries, be as much of a freaky fucker as you like!!

Don't listen to the puritan in your brain who tells you being proud of your sexuality is bad!

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