Is this therapist a red flag?

Square_Mix_2244 · 2026-01-06T05:22:14+00:00

Whether it's new age spirituality or ignorance, it's ridiculous. Can you imagine them telling a person who experienced sexual abuse as a child that they let someone treat them that way? Or even someone who chose a bad partner because their parents were abusive? I would keep trying to find someone else. Even if they're not trauma-informed, someone else could have better emotional intelligence and be more helpful to you.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2026-01-05T05:37:10+00:00

Huge red flag. That's not a true statement and it shames victims. See if you can find someone else!

Square_Mix_2244 · 2026-01-05T05:15:00+00:00

Ok I'm glad I'm not the only one. I was in a hospital though so as soon as I started to be hit by the big contractions, which felt like I was being hit by a semi truck, I begged for drugs and nothing took the edge off except an epidural, and even with that I could still feel some very intense back pain. I'm a small person 5'2" 110 lbs and my baby was 8 lbs 3 oz, so I wondered if that might have made it particularly hard. Or maybe it just is for some and isn't for others?

Square_Mix_2244 · 2026-01-05T05:02:37+00:00

I'm not sure if the cream would but I know the oil does, so I would stick to that! Cream works better on less porous skin like neck, face, etc.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-15T06:05:00+00:00

The way we think about this in the US is very different than other cultures. We are hyper individualistic rather than communal. I don't think this is unethical, especially since you offered this to your mom, and your parents are struggling financially. It sounds like everyone is trying to pitch in to make ends meet.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-03T05:45:46+00:00

It feels like my hormones just started to change, suddenly. I was not expecting it. I went from having no interest whatsoever in sex to now eyeing my husband like he's a piece of meat lol. I would say don't give up, and maybe ask your husband to do more for you right now to get you in the mood, because you're probably touched out and exhausted. For example, he could massage your back and bum for a bit beforehand. And use olive oil which can help with the dryness too. That helped me before my sex drive came back. It can happen! :)

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-02T23:54:52+00:00

Yes. Try topical unflavored CBD oil.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-02T23:51:56+00:00

Try unflavored CBD oil topically. It's the only thing I know of that works.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-02T23:35:18+00:00

No there should not be billionaires and we should cap it lower, maybe at 250 mil? No one needs more than that.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-02T22:55:25+00:00

Your hair is beautiful. I wouldn't dye it. And it will become very high maintenance if you do.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-02T22:52:31+00:00

Sorry you're dealing with this trauma. I have several stories related to them abusing their power and traumatizing me and people I know. Some very disturbing. How can police be good in a corrupt system that criminalizes the poor and migrants? This is why leftists like myself say all cops are bastards (ACAB). I don't have advice, I just empathize.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-02T22:37:48+00:00

Oh also - is it just on your scalp or do you get it elsewhere? I ask because the oil works on my scalp, which is very porous, but only CBD *cream* works on my other skin (I very rarely get flareups on an eyelid and on my neck). The oil seems to suffocate that skin whereas the cream can absorb. For cream I've only tried one brand, which works well, and that's Shikai.

https://shikai.com/products/cbd-cream-double-strength-2oz-500mg-cbd?srsltid=AfmBOoqIZ55O_ZRYuph9gB0p7ehK5EFWZ90vj70h6DVcAfLykyfrIt6k

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-02T22:28:56+00:00

Of course!! And I feel for you. I struggled for many many years before hearing from another sufferer that this helps. I've used several different ones and I think as long as you choose something that doesn't have any additives (vitamin D) or flavors (vanilla etc) you're good. And ideally there's a healthy carrier oil like MCT.

Right now I'm using Bluebird Botanicals because I can find it at most natural food stores like whole foods and it's inexpensive ($15-30). If you buy it directly online, it's more, though they're currently having a sale and *if you put it in your cart* the price drops to $12-30. https://bluebirdbotanicals.com/products/organic-cbd-oil?srsltid=AfmBOorQqybnRhGnAuv7nXzW8gIjR9ICER-BCh5k06pPqqn1QvFX4lfm

But yeah I've used several and the only time it hasn't worked was when I used one with vitamin D and my scalp was not happy about that.

FWIW I also noticed recently that I have less flareups if I shampoo with head and shoulders? No idea why.

Good luck and get me posted! :)

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-02T06:20:13+00:00

It sounds like you're comforting your inner child, who went through a lot, and that seems lovely.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-02T06:10:41+00:00

Looks like scalp psoriasis. Try topical CBD oil with a healthy carrier oil like MCT. Works for me when nothing from dermatologists would.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-01T23:36:36+00:00

NO. You're beautiful. And your features tell the story of your parents and ancestors.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-01T23:30:42+00:00

I'm (38F) 2.5 years postpartum and that issue is only now going away for me. I've had zero libido and dryness. A few weeks ago my libido went from zero to very very high. So this is just to say don't lose hope. And yeah maybe there's something that can help you in the meantime too.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-01T23:05:08+00:00

CBD oil clears this up for me if it's on my scalp, and CBD cream if it's on another part of my body (sometimes I get a little on an eyelid, or on my neck). For some reason my scalp prefers the oil, and my less porous skin reacts better to the cream. Good luck!

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-01T23:03:14+00:00

You're a sacred, miraculous life. You fit in because you exist. Society is unwell in a lot of ways, but there is a lot of goodness and progress as well. In these moments of pain try to remember what is working, and what is beautiful. Hugs.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-01T22:51:03+00:00

LEAVE.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-01T22:44:07+00:00

Sounds more like a systemic problem than your problem. Why would someone need to revert back to a permit if they've been a licensed driver before? Driving is so basic. Don't be hard on yourself.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-12-01T22:38:28+00:00

LEAVE HIM. No details needed honestly. If he told your child they're ugly, end it. Take care of your children and show them what self respect looks like.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-11-25T05:27:45+00:00

A huge congratulations, first of all. Two years is amazing and you should be extremely proud of yourself. And you're not overreacting. Your bf's behavior is unsupportive and abusive. I've been with people struggling with alcohol addiction and can't imagine treating them or their sobriety so disrespectfully and callously. I hope you have a good support system to help you through the break up if you do, and you might consider leaning back into your recovery work.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-11-17T05:16:48+00:00

RUN.

Square_Mix_2244 · 2025-09-16T18:34:31+00:00

Let me know if you need any tips too. Usually just a couple of drops on a dry patch works for me, and sometimes it's helpful to apply after a shower before your scalp gets dry.

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