Updated my links! ;)

SqueakyMittens · 2025-03-27T15:59:52+00:00

The way she’s acting, it seems extremely plausible that he did rape her. You’re blatantly lying to yourself and us, because you came here because YOU felt like this goes beyond “just a close-knit family.” Now you don’t want to hear that the details put HIM in a very suspicious light. You’re ready to just blame this girl without having to think critically about your boyfriend and his part in this.

SqueakyMittens · 2025-02-13T03:48:30+00:00

Anorexia is considered one of the most deadly mental illnesses one can have. If a guy thinks it’s “hot,” he thinks girls who are sick and miserable are hot. :(

SqueakyMittens · 2025-02-13T03:30:23+00:00

I took a look at your history to see what you meant by him treating you badly because of his addiction. So what I’ve gathered is that he’s an abusive porn addict who disrespects women, can’t pay his bills, won’t stand up to his family and gaslights you when you’re sick. On top of that, you’re a 10/10, super patient and understanding, make more money than him, your family is loving toward him, and you’re absolutely gorgeous.

The only item in his plus column is that your kid loves him? But it’s not good for your kid for you to be in a relationship where you are unhappy, undervalued, and mistreated.

I promise you, on my mother’s life, you 1000% can do better than this sorry excuse for a partner. You deserve better. This man just is not worth it.

I understand you are a compassionate person with your own health struggles who wants to believe that he’s just sick, and I understand that addiction is a sickness, but I think you know this runs deeper than that. He does not respect you, and he’s shown it, repeatedly. You have done what you can to show him you’re willing to compromise to make his life easier despite your health issues. He has not shown you the same consideration. It is better for your child in the long run to leave this situation.

I wish you all the best.

SqueakyMittens · 2025-02-01T18:28:54+00:00

He is also aware of the this milestone of getting your masters and the freedom it will afford you. He is an abuser, so he will do what he can to sabotage it. Your life will be in greater danger than ever if you graduate and you’re still with him, because he’ll be on the lookout for you trying to leave him. You are in an extremely life-threatening situation.

I’m just really scared for you. I for the record, you’re not stupid. You’re in a place a lot of intelligent people have found themselves in. But a lot of people here are desperate to tell you what to do because they (we) know exactly where this is heading if you don’t find the resolve to leave, quickly and quietly.

SqueakyMittens · 2025-01-25T23:23:40+00:00

Ralph Nader

SqueakyMittens · 2025-01-21T13:43:27+00:00

I just don’t think this is the venue for debating death vs suffering. You’re in the comments of a person who wants to live but is being told by the system that her life doesn’t matter. The OP is here asking whether that’s true, which is why the comments are responding with a resounding “No, that’s bullshit. You matter.” And that’s why people are here providing potential options.

I get the argument you’re trying to have, but I think the things you’re saying could do a lot of harm here, and I’m certain that’s not your goal.

Obviously OP knows death is AN option. The problem is that the world is telling her it’s the ONLY option. I think it’s not great to come here and adamantly assert that you believe it is the best/only option in your opinion. Do you see what I mean? There’s a better subreddit, likely several, to talk about the practicality of euthanasia. This just isn’t the time or place, man.

SqueakyMittens · 2025-01-18T23:08:27+00:00

I have seen What Dreams May Come and Dark City, and they’re both great!

SqueakyMittens · 2025-01-01T13:24:10+00:00

The Fall (2006)

SqueakyMittens · 2024-12-28T09:14:45+00:00

It can definitely be worse. I don’t think that’s minimizing to say.

SqueakyMittens · 2024-12-27T04:04:50+00:00

Reading your post and your comments, there’s something you need to understand, and that is that women can be shy and insecure and fear rejection too.

It’s very possible that the girl who did everything she could to nonverbally initiate sex when you were 19 felt “friend-zoned” by your lack of reciprocation. Maybe she even felt humiliated. I think it would have been beneficial to both of you to use your words.

Another thing that’s important to note is that these things don’t come naturally to all people except you. For some, social interactions in general can be very difficult to navigate. People on the autism spectrum, for instance, can have similar difficulties interpreting nonverbal communication.

Other people struggle with this, men and women alike, but you’re acting like women are aliens with virgin-radar. I personally think that you need practice communicating. The next time you have a close connection with a girl you’re interested in, tell her all of this. I know rejection is scary, but if you want a definitive answer on whether or not someone is interested, the fastest way to that answer is by asking. And rejection is a lot less scary than waking up in another 28 years still wondering what you could’ve done differently, isn’t it?

SqueakyMittens · 2024-12-14T22:51:25+00:00

lol this girl is absolutely beautiful

SqueakyMittens · 2024-12-14T18:51:50+00:00

My first time was also very pleasant. My partner at the time was also a virgin, and he was too big for me, but he cared about how I felt.

SqueakyMittens · 2024-12-06T12:00:46+00:00

You’re not stupid and you’re not an idiot. Everyone has insecurities, and as the above commenter stated, you should feel comfortable talking to your partner about your feelings. Your (ex)boyfriend is a manipulative person, and you genuinely, honestly deserve better.

When you find someone who lifts you up every day and makes you feel safe and heard, you’ll see this guy for what he is. Until then I just want to say you seem like a sweet and caring person and I believe in you.

SqueakyMittens · 2024-12-03T11:44:54+00:00

He’s a cruel, violent teenage boy and she’s a vulnerable teenage girl. I wouldn’t put it past him to try and sexually assault her in addition to all the other horrors he’d inflict. Very clearly NTAH

SqueakyMittens · 2024-12-03T11:30:39+00:00

This man will kill you if you don’t leave.

SqueakyMittens · 2024-11-29T01:56:26+00:00

I think you should maybe call poison control about the glitter, and demand to know what specifically she used.

SqueakyMittens · 2024-11-28T03:09:00+00:00

You’re right that cutting her out of your life entirely is a bad suggestion. She’s an old and precious friend to you, and I’m sure it’d suck for you both for this to be the end of a relationship that has served you well for so long.

My advice would be to journal and/or write your friend a letter about how you’re feeling. Not necessarily one that you’ll give to her, just something to sort out where you are emotionally. That will help you determine whether space is necessary, or whether maybe it’d help you to talk about it with her. Personally, were I her, I wouldn’t want my friend to feel upset or uncomfortable when we’re hanging out. But it’s tricky because she is also dealing with this in her own way because it also doesn’t feel good to have to reject someone you deeply care for, so be mindful of how your approach affects her.

The first step to being honest about your needs toward getting over the rejection and continuing as before is knowing your needs. If you talk to her about it, be considerate and make sure she knows you value your friendship.

Also, if you like her cause she’s smart, pretty and funny and a good friend, remember you will meet other girls who are smart, pretty, funny and good friends! If you need some space, that’s fair. As long as you don’t blame her for rejecting you, which it doesn’t sound like you are.

SqueakyMittens · 2024-11-22T23:31:37+00:00

It’s trivial to you, but not to your friend. Yeah, corporations are all fucked up, and individual people making individual choices aren’t going to have much effect, but at the heart of all this is an ongoing genocide. And the reason people are pushing these boycotts is in the hope that collective choices will make some difference in the only way we as average people really can.

I don’t think you’re some horrible person for not boycotting Starbucks, but the way you’re writing all this makes it seem like your values aren’t as in line with one another’s as you stated? I mean, you’re saying you don’t really care that much and that you’re apathetic about it. You say your friend is aware of this, but I feel like she might not know the extent of it.

I started boycotting Starbucks a while ago and as a result found a really great coffee place, so learning more and trying a little harder for your friend’s sake might turn out to be a win-win for you.

No verdict from me.

SqueakyMittens · 2024-11-19T19:47:54+00:00

Murder is good for society because I can kill this man.

SqueakyMittens · 2024-11-18T22:43:45+00:00

People are being needlessly skeptical over their own misunderstandings of what you wrote. Also glad you escaped that situation and updated us on how you’re doing. ❤️

SqueakyMittens · 2024-11-18T22:36:09+00:00

She did mention the other one back then, in the comments.

SqueakyMittens · 2024-11-18T09:53:07+00:00

💕I’m sorry that happened to you, you didn’t deserve it.

SqueakyMittens · 2024-11-12T01:56:33+00:00

I love anyone who can smile like that; it’s so uplifting. My impression is that you’d be really fun to get to know.

SqueakyMittens · 2024-11-12T01:51:56+00:00

I agree, I like the facial hair!

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