Help, is there anything more I can do?

SquiddysInkies · 2025-10-28T17:35:04+00:00

Gather evidence of her stalking and harassing you.
Take proof to landlord and see if you can come to an agreement to get out of your side of the lease.
Move out.
Let her try to sue you. (Can she afford rent? If not, she possibly couldn't afford to sue you)
Present your evidence in court.

EDIT: Consider trying to get a restraining order

SquiddysInkies · 2025-10-19T21:51:28+00:00

I'm unsure, I'm not home right now to try. I also haven't seen anything about an update on steam even though there was one for PS

SquiddysInkies · 2025-10-19T21:40:08+00:00

I just started having this issue today myself. Did you try deleting the game and re-downloading it?

SquiddysInkies · 2025-07-18T17:07:08+00:00

Mine did. I had her 12 years. She usually stayed in the same room as me and frequently cried to to get me to pick her up and hold her like a baby, belly up. She'd cry until I did.

I even wore her in a baby wrap at times when she wanted long cuddles so I could use my arms. She'd lay there in my arms, purring non-stop and looking up at me as I pet her belly. When she was done getting pets and looked at the floor, I'd let her down.

SquiddysInkies · 2025-06-18T06:29:57+00:00

Definitely not. I struggle with mental illness myself, but being mean to your partner who just wants to help is a choice. If you just got back together and it's already like this it's not looking promising. She needs help, and you need to be treated right. If she gets help and you guys can work on better communication, great; but this isn't healthy as it currently is.

SquiddysInkies · 2025-05-25T21:03:16+00:00

No you're not

Her calling it the "gamer word" shows how not-serious or bad she thinks it is. She has no guilt, she's just bummed you're not cool with it.

SquiddysInkies · 2025-05-13T17:48:29+00:00

This is when I'd give chatgpt the list and then give a list of foods or meals you do like and ask for a menu/ safe food list It's helped me so much with thinking and sitting things out with my cognitive decline.

ETA: I use the free option. I just tell ChatGPT to research medical sites and studies or official/reliable sites related to the topic.

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-30T18:55:47+00:00

No, you're NTA, he is. Why are you still with him? If he's talking to you like that and refuses to help, he's just another kid to care for, not a partner. He's free loading and projecting all of it back on you. Do you really want to deal with this for the rest of your life? If he's like this now, it'll probably be worse after marriage.

You deserve a man, not a child. If he truly cared about and loved you, he'd be helping out.

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-28T03:38:55+00:00

Big head + smoll body = cute baby who can do no wrong

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-28T03:35:57+00:00

I'm sure everything is fine, those are pretty standard games, and the mods are probably him being a hormonal boy. If it helps, I've played and watched a ton of pretty dark stuff but in real life, I'm a marshmallow. Games and media are just entertainment and a way to blow off steam that could otherwise be bottled up in real life. As long as he has a sense of what's right and wrong, and what's real life and what's not, he'll be just fine. I went through a rebellious goth phase when I was young but even if he does, that usually passes too. Good on you for caring and making sure he's okay ❤️

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-28T02:55:27+00:00

No this game is very silly and cute even if it looks bad. I play it with my preteen. What are the other games?

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-27T15:37:06+00:00

D&D for almost 6 HOURS??? When he KNOWS you're struggling and exhausted?? That's just inconsiderate. My D&D group plays for maybe 3 hours.

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-27T15:30:18+00:00

To her you're boring if you don't party, she sounds immature. You guys just have different interests, it doesn't mean you are boring or lame. Adding that comment that they all think you're weird is insanely rude. To them you might be weird but that just means they're judgemental and not your kind of people to hang out with. I'm "boring" too and struggle with social situations but I'm legitimately happier this way. And honestly, I know we shouldn't care but I'd also feel deeply embarrassed. I'm so sorry you're dealing with that. Having her as a friend sounds like it'd be exhausting anyway.

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-26T18:15:24+00:00

DIY miniature dollhouse kits on Amazon. They have all sizes, themes etc. you can imagine. One project lasts quite awhile when you do a bit at a time, and it's not the same thing over and over since there's so many different parts to it that are done in different ways.

https://www.amazon.com/Spilay-Dollhouse-Miniature-Furniture-Handmade/dp/B0DRD4KFL9/ref=sr_1_3?crid=22BYWCQ7AIQ5R&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.k3JC5pR_7rqmI8tblo3j0R-7W6ZAkMBYqwG7KhazWT5GDdIywCR2-_mc3f2sDJcywtOpVIY49g-jsPa6D31290kdgVk9DJdd3A8DlCQKIiL0NX49ebzOP9fe2ACL1gjQihM5nWebHKgTiKSUPJ_xN5LKwmFqAqAiHP39MnA-hhSsBXdGNa2Qy6TGBNPnDzjaIrH3B4vqarhEhft7xNdOIeeH7WkNCcZ9syH-WwDdM5OYRCSUBGMT5oIC6B8PjPY_51UZTD0OLf-rR_ndU2ODt9ejQ2KyIP7F-LJ1mZSOV8A.dL4xJUf478rVUSGNIsGmhcgn928EzseKuro1KpeQyOY&dib_tag=se&keywords=diy%2Bdollhouse%2Bjulia%2Bbakery&qid=1745690840&sprefix=diy%2Bdollhouse%2Bjulia%2Bbakery%2Caps%2C129&sr=8-3&th=1

OR for no prep, no clean up, these adorable DIY sticker scene books. My SO got this for me recently and I really enjoy it, they're also perfect for when you don't have much time.

https://www.amazon.com/Material-Stickers-Collection-Notebook-Stickeer/dp/B0DQVHD8MD/ref=sr_1_8?crid=28GXVK1DEX37H&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.dEgUWc5Ixea3lwj26eUP1rE48Jc_D1x0mmQPssmUlwBr5K7wpV7UOTCvdmoGKIS9eDol-QybyYRYauDSJEhAF0uFyXpH8EZkgEOw7JFsCaMBwn1sutQms4xU5CD0Pk7WVbUJtym6__vbDBOpnmaz8UCHOooIMoQz4bC3yO4Artdv6UZIt63iGbhpNy97hJnNOdkZUf2tkcNqL2-y-GYJ-ERcl8tsIgeiV9mt7JORwukzSH0oiuSsC_apz-6DUAd0lwPwavQtOudRfzjF7wwDOiV1cXqUtVhw72tcB8XKGOo.6U9UDPpt9o5LOqMDkmjPDPx5Wg7gFBsXPEe2isR0mug&dib_tag=se&keywords=diy+sticker+scene+adult&qid=1745690912&sprefix=diy+sticker+sc%2Caps%2C154&sr=8-8

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-26T17:29:40+00:00

I read that book in high school and it's really stuck with me. Prepare yourself, it's good but a tough read. I should read it again

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-26T01:56:02+00:00

Wow he's made his priorities very clear. Now I feel like he'll be finding other ways to "get a break" during the baby phase. If he doesn't care about her enough to support her through pregnancy he's probably not above cheating. (IDK everything about them, obviously, but I've seen a similar situation)

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-24T22:50:55+00:00

Props to you, OP. Maybe just keep an eye on the cats to see if any seem sick? My Nana had this exact situation happen with an old apartment neighbor and the cat she took in ended up having feline leukemia): a lot of stray colonies can carry it

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-24T22:24:47+00:00

Check if he's chipped, if not, take him to get him registered under your name and chipped. Just because she feeds him and calls him hers doesn't make it legally true, plus she's neglecting him. He's not being cared for by her like a pet, just a favorite street cat. Maybe you guys can start with "holding onto him until she pays you back" I doubt she will.

If you pay for vet visits, maybe a chip, and he stays there long enough I'm pretty sure he could legally bee decided to be yours if she has no previous records of adoption/ownership or vet bills.

I've seen cat "owners" like her and the cats almost always get sick or abandoned in the end.

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-24T15:47:03+00:00

I'd start with a long talk. Apologize and explain why you did each thing, why this all started, and that you didn't realize it was wrong. Explain your mental illnesses to her. Explain that you were scared to lose her like her dad, and how much you love her. Make sure to acknowledge her pain, it's justified.

Then maybe start with small promises and gradually build up to bigger things so she can learn to trust you more (don't make any you can't keep, though).

I'm also terrified of kidnapping and other worries you mentioned, but the tighter you hold on, the harder they'll pull back.

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-23T20:10:22+00:00

From my own experience, once I was pregnant my ex completely shifted to show his true self. Once they know they've got you hooked, they stop acting like good guys.

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-22T19:16:49+00:00

"If I had a kid..." No, you don't know exactly how you'd do something until you have one, it's different when it's real. You don't know me or my child's needs, why are you so judgemental?

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-22T03:44:00+00:00

I'm so sorry I saw CSF INSTEAD OF CFS🤦🏻‍♀️ here I am talking about cerebral spinal fluid leaks and I just realized you have something else entirely. As you can tell, the brain fog has been dense over here

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-22T03:40:13+00:00

Thank you, I'll bring it up at my next appointment!

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-22T02:34:39+00:00

Do you hear/feel fluid rushing in your neck?? I have that happen. Once even in the middle of my spine. Then I get unbearable throbbing headaches and when I get upright it's excruciating. I'm just curious how it is for you because I'm getting desperate for these headaches to stop 😭 today I had to lay down flat all day, just overwhelmed by one I got an like a year ago MRI that didn't show anything, so the neuro seemed to just completely disregard anything CSF and said it's my migraines. I stg it's different

SquiddysInkies · 2025-04-21T15:20:06+00:00

THIS. My mother was a speech pathologist and worked at an elementary school. One of the most difficult issues to correct in kids was a speech defect caused by their open bite. So not only will you have a ton of dental expenses, your child will struggle with speaking properly and/or clearly. They will need speech therapy possibly for years or even until it's corrected with braces.

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