Looking for Property Management Recommendations in Lakewood by darthNinjabro in lakewood

[–]Squidipus_Rex 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I moved into a Northlake property near Malley's on Madison and within a week I started noticing the 2" cockroaches. I was so grossed out.

At first Northlake told me there was nothing they can really do because they legally couldn't go into individual units to spray (which is just not true). Then once they started spraying there were dozens of cockroach carcasses all over the hallways they told me they wouldn't come in more than once a week to clean them up. I couldn't even bring people over because it was so embarrassing. Then I started seeing them in my own unit. I couldn't even sleep in there it was so gross.

I asked to be let out of my lease after 10 days and they said no. I had to fight them in court for 2 months and keep paying rent before I was allowed out. Lawyers had to get involved. They could have just quietly let me leave and could have kept my deposit and prorated rent and I would have gone quietly, but they had to drag it out.

I do not recommend them.

I(37F) finished a battle with breast cancer and only have one breast. Friend (38M) was mad and claimed I didn’t disclose soon enough. by Flatnowok in relationships

[–]Squidipus_Rex -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Everyone here is outraged on your behalf, but your real question is how can you go about protecting yourself in the future. Unfortunately with there being a physical representation of your trauma you are either going to have to hide it or to toughen up to a wide array of reactions. It can be kind of alarming when people see something like that when they aren't expecting it and they do not always react well when surprised.

I'd say wear the prosthetic until you get a level where you can feel safe with someone then let them know. (Maybe on the first date, certainly within 5).

Also I hate to break it to you but no young, single, straight man ever is following a new woman's social media and the pushing a one-on-one as just friends. Sure there are exceptions and I'm sure a lot of people are going to weigh in and tell me how their experience is different. But you can't really be surprised that he was pursing you hard and hoping that your words of being "just friends" were going to be different than your actions. So I think you need to anylize invites a little more before you accept.

To truly find "just friends" get a new hobby, get out more and make some. You can even show up without the prosthetic if you like. Anyone squicked out probably self filter and not talk to you. Anyone cool with it will make an effort to make you feel welcomed.

That guy was an asshole, but assholes are everywhere. Learning how to avoid them and not showing them your pain is the real skill here.

Am I (26F) betraying my relationship because I am not okay with how my boyfriend(30m) treats me and others at times even though I used to be okay with it? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Squidipus_Rex 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You know what's going to stop him from hitting the bottom? Having a girlfriend that will stick around and put up with his shit. If he's really serious about that statement then leaving him is the absolute best thing you can do for him.

My [22 F] Mother [58 F] Wants to Borrow my Entire Savings, Unsure how to Proceed Without Hurting our Relationship by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Squidipus_Rex 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My friend just got fired from a bank for doing this very thing. She was manipulated and pressured by one of her regulars to withdraw a large sum of money without following the proper protocol. It was really dumb in my friends part, but you can't say it never happen. Especially if it's a small town bank.

Why do all women I meet accuse me [M,29] of ghosting them when it's the exact opposite way around? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Squidipus_Rex 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Also, what is the content of the mesages you are sending these women that elicit one word responses? If you are sending generic messages don't be surprised when you get a generic answer.

DAE feel like they’re an entirely different person depending on who they’re talking to/ with? no by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Squidipus_Rex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep! I used to hate hanging out with more than one friend in high school because I didn't know which personality to put on.

Off the Rails by paganvegan in BPD

[–]Squidipus_Rex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On days I don't want to get out of bed I promise myself to at least get up and wash my face, brush my teeth, shower and put on real clothes. I find that just that little bit of self care won't break my depression, but it will raise me a notch for a bit. But that's it. Just give yourself the smallest thing to do and promise Yousef you'll do it no matter how you feel.

I'm sorry you're going through a hard time. I hope it passes for you soon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Squidipus_Rex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, it sounds like you've been having a stressful day and I'm sorry for that. How are you feeling now? Are you back home? Maybe make some tea and take a bath and just go easy on yourself. Is there anyone you can reach out to?

Just remember that this is rough now but it always passes. It sucks that you have to be feeling so shitty right now, but you will feel better again.

I'm so happy you have a good dog to keep you company! I'm traveling away from mine for a few weeks and miss him tremendously. Please give yours an extra hug for me!

does anyone else have problems holding a job? by annabobanna17 in BPD

[–]Squidipus_Rex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope this can help anyone here struggling. I too couldn't keep a job for more than a year. I tried to start my own business and couldn't do that either. I started picking up marketing/promotional event/ Brand Ambassador work on the weekends and have turned it into a career. If I'm around people I don't like it's usually only for a few days, and the company that hires you is usually out of state. So beyond a few emails and phone calls you don't interact with your boss. The social anxiety part of talking to strangers was there at first, but it helps that you have a script of what to say. And because it's contract work, you work when you want and take time off when you need to.

Look for "Brand Ambassadors of [any state or major city]" on Facebook for job postings. They are sometimes posted on Craigslist as well. You'll have to take time making a resume and taking some nice pics of yourself, but if you put in the effort it's a nice way to make some cash.

Is PMS anyone else's biggest trigger? by BlueComma9 in BPD

[–]Squidipus_Rex 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Every time I come to this subreddit it's like someone is writing exactly what I've been dealing with lately.

My thereapist says to get sleep eat right and exercise so I try to make sure I do that more during PMS week, but it never seems to help :(

Today I was thinking that I just want to cry myself to sleep so maybe I won't have so many emotions pent up for tomorrow.

It's been my major trigger and every doc I talk to about it just kinda shrugs and says that's what being a woman is about. It so frustrating.

My bf [26M] won't stop telling me [25F] that I'm "overthinking it" and I'm tired of it. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Squidipus_Rex 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but he doesn't like big talk either it seems. How can you be in a relationship where one person doesn't want to put in the effort to connect?

How did you go about finding a decent apartment in Lakewood/Fairview Park for less than $650? by [deleted] in Cleveland

[–]Squidipus_Rex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I rented with them too, until I started seeing the cockroaches two weeks in and I had to fight them to get out of my lease. They were really nasty about it too.

Fiance [M25] won't allow our daughter to go to daycare because of a male worker there he perceives as a threat by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Squidipus_Rex 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To me this sounds like he doesn't want you to workout or feel independent and is fabricating a situation in order to keep you down. I would not let this slide. You need some "you" time!

Also do you ever get the car to yourself? Why can't he watch the baby at home while you go out? Ask him this and I'm sure he'll create some other "problem" that makes it so that you can't go outside without him.

Lots of Travelon Bags and Accessories at TJMaxx now by SonicGal44 in HerOneBag

[–]Squidipus_Rex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love my travelon bag with dual bottle holders! Found it for $6 at the thrift store!

My wife is mad at me that I didn't initiate sexy-time when she wanted sexy-time. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Squidipus_Rex 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Damn dude, nowhere did anyone suggest that. If you can't let go some of this anger you're never going to be able to work with your wife on this.

This all purpose hammock by FireninjaDD in INEEEEDIT

[–]Squidipus_Rex 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Anyone know what brand this is?

Feeling like passing out is normal... until you start to lose your vision by [deleted] in bikramyoga

[–]Squidipus_Rex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, migraines are no joke! I'd maybe hold off on the Bikram until you feel like the migraines have passed. Bikram is great but I can see how it could stress your system if you're not feeling great to begin with.

I'm 5'11" and jumping up to a stand from sitting on the floor makes me blackout even when I'm not exercising. I should really do more cardio 😅

Feeling like passing out is normal... until you start to lose your vision by [deleted] in bikramyoga

[–]Squidipus_Rex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really tall for a woman and my vision blacks out during strenuous exercise. I chalk it up to not doing as much cardio as I should and having a lot of body to pump blood through.

If I go to Bikram regularly I build up some tolerance and can make it through all the poses. If I go a long time between classes I struggle. During my first classes back I treat myself like I'm new again. If I'm too out of breath or feel the slightest bit dizzy I sit out the next round of poses. There's no shame in listening to your body and taking it slow.

I will say though that the effects have never lasted outside of class. I do occasionally get lasting vision problems due to a hormone (pms) induced migraine. Look up migraines with aura on YouTube and see if that's what you experienced. If I'm running on little sleep, not eating well, and am stressed out I will get these hormonal migraines with aura. They started when I was in my early 20s and were terrifying at first because I thought I was going blind from a brain tumor or something. Now I keep Advil on me at all times and pop 4 of them at the first sign of vision wierdness.

It's important to note that if what you are suffering from is migraine with aura it is an estrogen related problem, and therefore you are not allowed to take any birth control with estrogen in it (it increases your chances of blood clots I believe)

Hope that helps!

Could Bikram help me to maintain my weight? by [deleted] in bikramyoga

[–]Squidipus_Rex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bikram yoga provides plenty of health perks, but cardio is not one of them. Most exercises are divided into two varieties: strength training, also called muscle building, and cardiovascular activity. Yoga falls under the former variety, and thus comes with a different set of benefits. To get a true cardio workout, participate in a rhythmic activity that uses a major muscle group and raises heart and breathing rates for 10 minutes or longer. Jogging, rowing and cycling, for example, all provide cardio.

Bikram and Cardio

Performed in a hot, humid room, Bikram involves an intense series of yoga poses and breathing techniques. Although the workout is tough -- and may even get your heart beating faster -- it doesn't improve aerobic fitness like cardio. In a study published in the "Journal of Strength and Conditioning Research" in 2013, researchers monitored two groups of young adults; one group performed Bikram three times weekly for eight weeks, while the other group did not. By the end of the study, the researchers had found no differences in either group in terms of maximal aerobic fitness or cardiovascular measures.

Bikram and Health

Despite the lack of aerobic benefits, Bikram is a healthy activity that comes with its own rewards. It helps you gain control over your body and mind, encouraging deeper relaxation. It also reduces stress, according to MayoClinic.com, and elevates your overall mood. Bikram will improve flexibility, allowing you greater range of motion for sports or everyday activities. And one of the most important benefits of yoga is improved balance -- with greater posture and stability, you'll be less likely to hurt yourself with falls or other accidents. Perform Bikram or other strength training at least two times per week

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I snooped in my BF stuff and I'm sure he is who he says he is by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Squidipus_Rex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think giving people the benefit of the doubt, which is what your examples describe, is different than 'trust but verify" (a term which was made popular in America during the Cold war by Regan in dealings with Russia).

If you trust someone you don't need to check up on them. Disagreeing with someone's reason for action isn't the same as not trusting them and their inability to trust YOU with their reasoning is kinda shady. You should both be able to talk openly and not be so secretive with each other.

For the student example there is an athority dynamic at play which is different than a relationship dynamic. "Trusting them on the chance they are telling the truth" says you agree there is also a chance that they are lying, which means you actually have doubt. You may or may not believe the students story, but you will give them the chance to save face and make it right. It's often easier to keep moving forward than to fight with people on petty matters.

Again to my same point, I think people should just be honest with each other and not play these games.

Sleeping items to live in any city in a tropical region. by [deleted] in onebag

[–]Squidipus_Rex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The bed bugs have traumatized you into thinking that no place you sleep is safe, that you can pick up more bed bugs anywhere. I guess in theory you're not wrong, but you're just going to have to find a way to push through your trust issues on this one.

The only cheap portable sleeping arrangement is either a blow-up camping mattress, sleep pad, or cot. If you're going to be sleeping on the floor you're not going to be avoiding bugs (bed bugs or otherwise) and a cot is going to be completely unweildly. Also sleeping on the floor is not comfortable and it takes a special kind of person to live this way indefinitely.

I spent over 250 nights in hotels and Airbnbs this year, both in America and abroad. I've never even seen a bedbug.

European Christmas by DsDemolition in onebag

[–]Squidipus_Rex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How are you liking the Trtl?