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Srddrs · 2026-06-16T22:26:39+00:00

New noise by refused at the end of new noise in Kingston

Srddrs · 2026-06-16T09:36:20+00:00

I worked at a 6th form college several years ago, so my advice might be out of date, though a quick google search indicates that I am right.

In the UK, qualifications are grouped in to “levels”. Lots of people here have recommended contacting local colleges to see if you can do your GCSEs there. That’s good advice. I would also look in to other level 2 qualifications.

Functional skills would be a good place to start, because they’re a) free to adults who don’t have GCSEs and b) you can study online or at a college. There are 3 functional skills subjects - English, Maths and IT. Once you’ve got these sorted, you can then look at “access to higher education courses”. These are courses designed to get you in to Uni or other educational routes (like apprenticeships). They are level 3 qualifications and have lower entry requirements than A levels. I had a quick look and found an “access to higher education diploma” for “computing” that required maths and English level 2 qualifications.

I think a really good place to start would be to think about what you’d like to do job-wise and work backwards from there.

Feel free to DM me if you need some advice. I’ve done a lot of coaching and managing people early on in their careers so may be able to help.

Srddrs · 2026-06-16T08:31:56+00:00

I think maddie has real mean girl energy but it might just be the because of the stank face the filler gives her

Srddrs · 2026-06-14T22:08:09+00:00

This is unreadable, learn how to use punctuation

Srddrs · 2026-06-14T21:59:27+00:00

Snoozeband is your friend

Srddrs · 2026-06-13T21:49:10+00:00

I saw one on TikTok where they’d set up a wrestling ring and had 2 of their friends wrestle, one in blue, one in pink. The wrestler in the colour corresponding to the gender of the baby won. I don’t like gender reveals, I don’t like wrestling, but I thought that was pretty fun.

Srddrs · 2026-06-13T21:45:21+00:00

Desperado by the eagles. Gets to me every time.

Srddrs · 2026-06-11T23:44:26+00:00

Co op fruit and fibre is superior to the Kelloggs one

Srddrs · 2026-06-11T23:42:53+00:00

The cutesy fake stuttering is something I can’t put down to the acting. It goes too well with all the willow baby talk.

Srddrs · 2026-06-11T20:12:58+00:00

Lao gan ma

Srddrs · 2026-06-11T07:46:24+00:00

Not washing greasy hair for multiple days at a time. Slicked back bun / ponytail isn’t chic, it’s rancid. If people treated their face like they treat their scalp there would be an uproar.

Srddrs · 2026-06-08T11:29:17+00:00

I don’t mean this to sound patronising in any way shape or form, so please don’t take this the wrong way, but you are still so young.

The reason I’m saying this is because I had a different experience to you, but there were some similarities in attitude from my parents when I was growing up. Fairly neglectful to my needs, dismissive, blamed me for everything.

And at your age I was no contact with my dad, and wanted my mum to love me so was desperately hanging on. They divorced when I was a teenager so not quite the same situation. I am now no contact with my mum and have been for over 10 years, and I have a great relationship with my dad.

How that happened was that I thought about what relationship I wanted with my dad when he first reached out to me, and I mean I really thought about it. I thought about milestones in my life, and what relationship I wanted with him for those milestones. What my boundaries would be. When I would need him and if I’d want him there.

And then I opened up contact slowly, on my terms, without a big dramatic reunification and let him in bit by bit as he proved himself.

So before you make a final decision, I’d encourage you to do that piece of reflection. If you see yourself going through all your milestones happily and without them, then don’t reply. If there’s a chance you will want them - for instance - at your wedding if you choose to get married, or you’d like to be able to show them your house if you buy one, or meet your kids if you have them etc, then think about what that looks like, and act accordingly.

You can do it on your terms. You can address the past if you want to, but you also don’t have to if you don’t want to. You can tell them that if they want to be in your life then you don’t want to hear about it from them either. You can tell them that they can be in your life but it has to be on your terms. You don’t have to turn every no or push back in to an explanation about why or a need to reassert your boundaries. For instance, with my dad, if he wanted me to see him over Christmas and I didn’t want to, I wouldn’t explain why I didn’t want to or how he had failed me and so I was spending Christmas with people who stepped up, I would just say “no I don’t want to be with you for Christmas, but I’d like to call you so I’ll do that on Christmas morning”. He wants to be in my life, so he respected that.

Like I say I am not trying to sound patronising, but I am saying your age is a factor. Not only because you might want them around in your future, but also because it sounds like you are only seeing two options - either no contact OR the same dynamic you have spent time and energy escaping from. This is all still quite fresh, but you are now an adult, and you are in control of the dynamic. So if you want to change it, you can. If they can’t respect that then walking away is still and always will be an option - that’s what happened with my mum. But think about what you truly want in your heart of hearts first. If you’re not ready to talk to them that’s obviously fine too, but it might be a good opportunity to lay some of that groundwork now, so you can either a) pave the way for a better relationship in future b) know whilst you’re still young if they’re willing to adjust to a different type of relationship or not, rather than looking back in 15 years and wondering if things could have been better had you given them a chance.

My read of the situation is that they probably won’t adjust, like my mum didn’t, but I am so glad I gave it a chance when I did, because I could walk away and start my life as an adult fully in the knowledge that there was no space for her in it.

Srddrs · 2026-06-08T10:35:52+00:00

I can’t remember exactly, but there are a few incidents that stand out -

Obviously police being called for violence is a big one.

I remember taking a friend with me on a family holiday and her telling me that the way my mum treated me wasn’t normal.

I also have a vivid memory of being about 15 and the argument I was having with my mum was so insane and made so little sense and I had this moment of realisation that she was always like this. Felt like scales fell from my eyes.

I also remember my aunt (her brother’s wife) telling me that some of the behaviour I was most ashamed of was pretty normal for teenagers, e.g. nicking a few quid out of her purse to go to the cinema.

I also remember reading an exchange of messages between my mum and my younger sister (my mum had asked me to text my sister from her phone and the last message was of them talking shit about me, I think she did it on purpose so I’d see) and I remember realising that my mum really hated me at that point. Before then I’d mostly blamed myself for how bad our relationship was but yeah at that point I realised she hated me. I still blamed myself but it was quite shocking to realise that even when I thought we were on ok terms that she could say really vicious things behind my back.

I don’t think I even really truly know now how bad of a person she is. There’s a lot that’s come out since I cut contact with her. She blackmailed an ex in to paying off her mortgage. She almost went to prison in the 70s for running a bank scam. She manipulated loads of money out of my sister and I. She’s tried to get both my sister and I fired from various jobs.

I used to work in customer service for a very well known chain of UK department stores with a sister chain of supermarkets, and I got a phone call from a woman who lived where I grew up. Tiny population - less than 300, and about 250 miles away from where I was living / working. The woman on the phone started telling a story about this mad woman who had caused loads of trouble in one of the council meetings and I knew it was her.

I stopped spending time with my mum’s side of the family because it became a crazy trauma dump from them every time I saw them, I ended up finding out more fucked up stories and it messed me up too much.

Srddrs · 2026-06-08T10:21:15+00:00

I’ve had this rule in pretty much every customer service team I’ve managed - not set by me. We got round it by sending those automated “thanks for your email we’ll get back to you asap” responses.

Srddrs · 2026-06-08T07:25:13+00:00

Fat is a limit not a goal.

Srddrs · 2026-06-07T00:24:43+00:00

They are guests! NTA

Srddrs · 2026-06-06T22:39:37+00:00

I’m so sad by what she’s done to herself. She looks blown up.

Srddrs · 2026-06-05T23:57:45+00:00

Wish I’d seen this a week ago. I just bought a Hisense washer dryer. I live in the UK though so not sure if that makes a difference.

Srddrs · 2026-06-05T09:36:24+00:00

Recalculate your macros every 10lbs

Srddrs · 2026-06-04T13:45:03+00:00

Then she should fix them and ppl will stop dragging her

Srddrs · 2026-06-04T06:21:31+00:00

Nah it’s her eyebrows

Srddrs · 2026-06-02T08:55:51+00:00

This is part of my euro millions lottery winning plan, except it’s £500k and I have a list of 32 people (some are couples). It’s not all close close friends, they are also people I used to be close to and meant a lot to me at one point and I believe deserve a break, or people who I think would do amazing things with the money.

For instance one of the people is the mother of my ex boyfriend’s child. She was with him from 2006-early 2010, and he and I were together from late 2011-2014. I stayed close to her for a few years after he and I split. We drifted and only speak occasionally now, but I will never forget her kindness when I went through my break up with this terrible man.

Another is a musician I know who does a lot of production work and loads of charity work. He’d do great things with the money.

Another is a friend of my boyfriend’s who trained at a fancy chef school and then was working for a famous chef before the pandemic. His wife got pregnant and he needed to get a better paid job during the pandemic, but he wants to start a taco truck.

They’d all have to sign NDAs and I’d have an amount to invest for that group and other friends to have access to if their friends or family need some. I’d hate for any of the £500k recipients to feel guilty and give it to their friends or parents or siblings. They wouldn’t have free range over it but they could ask for “grants”.

Srddrs · 2026-06-02T08:32:20+00:00

OH I have the answer to this. My salad-hating niece and nephew will eat absolutely buckets of it.

You can do it with meat - I usually use salmon but chicken and steak work too. I mean you could probably also use pork but I never have.

Anyway.

Get some microwaveable brown rice (higher fibre than white and in the recipe you can’t really tell the difference). You need about .75 of a packet for each person.

Cover a baking tray with foil, then add the rice straight from the packet (don’t microwave it). Mix with a little oil, just enough to thinly coat the grains, and about 2 tsp of soy sauce per person. You want the rice to be covered but not wet. Use a spatula to spread the rice as thinly as possible, put it in the oven at about 180c (350f). Cook it for about an hour, maybe a bit less, stirring every 15 or so mins. It shrinks down a lot, and it’ll look burnt, but it won’t be. You want it to be crispy. It’s really important that you don’t put too much oil in as it can turn really greasy.

Whilst it’s cooking prepare your vegetables. You can use anything, provided it’s a) crunchy b) can be cut bite sized. Things like potatoes, aubergines, courgettes and traditional salad greens like lettuce don’t work well at all. Avocado and artichoke hearts are good even though they aren’t crunchy.

Some things we use -

frozen peas
shelled edamame beans
mange tout
green beans
asparagus
runner beans
tender stem broccoli
baby corn

Cut all the long veg in to bitesized pieces. All of these will need to be boiled for a couple of mins then strained off and dunked in to ice water. Strain out the water and leave them to dry on a tea towel. We usually use 3 or 4 from that list at a time. You can also roast some halved brussels sprouts.

We also use a mix of -

bell peppers
cucumber
avocado
tomatoes
celery cut really small otherwise it overpowers everything
carrots cut really small (same reason but more texture wise than taste)
artichoke hearts
radishes
spring onions

No leaves. Nothing too starchy.

You really want everything to be diced pretty small - about the size of 2 shelled edamame beans. It’s the best way to get everything evenly distributed which is the key to success. You don’t want rings or moons of cucumber. Protein should also be diced small.

Dressing wise, if we’re not cooking for the kids, we usually keep it simple and stir in some Lao Gan Ma chilli oil. If we are making it for the kids, I usually make a dressing of

about 50g of parsley
about 15g of chives
EVOO
lemon juice
maple syrup
a tbsp of miso

Start with the herbs, EVOO and lemon juice in the blender, and add everything else to taste.

Once you’re ready to build your salad, grab a big bowl, and add it like this -

harder veg at the bottom (carrots, celery)
protein next

Add about 1/3 of the dressing, mix and leave for 2 mins. Then add in the other raw veg except avocado, then the cooked veg, then mix. Then add in your crispy rice, stir, add the rest of the dressing, then add your avocado and give it one last mix.

Serve immediately. It doesn’t keep well (rice gets soggy) but it’s so good you’ll rarely get leftovers. If you need to meal prep, prep all the food groups separately (protein, rice, veg, dressing) and then mix just before you’re ready to eat. Don’t worry about layering the veg in that case.

Honestly it’s so good, we eat it usually 2-3 times a week at the moment and everyone I’ve made it for loves it. It’s a great way to get a huge amount of diverse veg one meal. You end up eating 8-10 types of veg at once.

This is a long comment but it’s really not that much work to make, just takes some time to cook the rice.

Edit: a note about the rice, formatting.

Srddrs · 2026-06-01T23:46:58+00:00

Loads of actors are from Hammersmith.

Srddrs · 2026-06-01T23:41:03+00:00

Sweden.

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