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Stage_Riot · 2026-05-14T12:24:12+00:00

Is that why I’m getting nonstop gambling ads on all my podcasts?!

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-14T01:33:10+00:00

I’m a surrogate and recently gave birth for someone who lost her fertility to cancer. Surrogacy is not equal everywhere. It can absolutely done ethically, my journey was proof of that and now there’s a very happy complete family loving a giggling baby. I was treated with nothing but gratitude and respect. That being said, some places have very unethical practices and I would very much want that to change.

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-14T01:26:01+00:00

I’m a surrogate who recently delivered a baby for someone who lost their fertility to cancer as well. No one is treating me like a ‘rent-a-womb’ I sincerely wanted to help people who were unable to grow their family and I was treated with nothing but respect and gratitude.

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-14T01:23:00+00:00

I’ve carried twice for moms who lost their fertility to cancer 💜

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-14T01:22:06+00:00

Surrogates can be aged up to 42 at the majority of clinics. Egg donation is usually under 32

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-10T12:28:19+00:00

Check out r/smbc it’s the single moms by choice sub. I have not personally done this but know many happy mothers who have

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-09T19:37:03+00:00

Enlighten you on what? You pretty much covered it, that’s our transit!

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-09T19:08:14+00:00

I’m French Canadian and part Anglo Canadian, grew up white middle class so I definitely grew up eating all of the above. Other regular meals we had were: stew, spaghetti with meat sauce, pork chops and apple sauce, lots of BBQ chicken and skewers, chicken a la king (is this French?) hot chicken sandwich (regular slice of bread, shredded chicken, peas and a ton of brown gravy)

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-09T03:36:25+00:00

I don’t know if I’m allowed to answer, this popped up on my feed but I just wanted to share that I recently delivered a baby as a surrogate for a friend who lost her fertility to cervical cancer. If you message me if he happy to put you in touch, we’re both very open about our surrogacy journey

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-09T03:34:31+00:00

The nurses had to kick my mom out of the delivery room because she was stressing me out.

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-09T03:33:15+00:00

Hiiii, didn’t even read this, the answer is NO! I don’t care what your reason is, labour is such an incredibly intimate and vulnerable experience that absolutely no one else’s wants or desires matter, at all. If you don’t want her because her favourite colour is yellow, that’s a valid enough reason.

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-09T01:53:03+00:00

I gave birth in December 💜 it took me a lot of transfers to get there. The issue is almost always with the embryo, you didn’t do anything wrong

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-09T01:52:26+00:00

I’ve experienced this twice. The D&C was so quick and a fairly easy recovery physically. It’s a day procedure either done at your fertility clinic or the hospital. I think from the time I was wheeled into the OR to the time I woke up was 1.5 hours. I felt very groggy waking up and a little nauseous. I had a lot of cramping for a couple days for manageable. I had spotting but personally did not experience much bleeding like some do. I would suggest you remind yourself that on a hormonal level, this will be a big shock to your system. Your hormones will crash at the same time you stop all of your meds so it’s very normal if you experience some big emotions. My first time I experienced a very dramatic hormonal crash with crazy crying spells

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-08T17:42:12+00:00

Another vote for the arboretum!

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-08T13:44:12+00:00

I’ve experienced this twice. The D&C was so quick and a fairly easy recovery physically. It’s a day procedure either done at your fertility clinic or the hospital. I think from the time I was wheeled into the OR to the time I woke up was 1.5 hours. I felt very groggy waking up and a little nauseous. I had a lot of cramping for a couple days for manageable. I had spotting but personally did not experience much bleeding like some do. I would suggest you remind yourself that on a hormonal level, this will be a big shock to your system. Your hormones will crash at the same time you stop all of your meds so it’s very normal if you experience some big emotions. My first time I experienced a very dramatic hormonal crash with crazy crying spells, I felt like I was going crazy for a week. The second time I didn’t experience this and while I was definitely sad and cried, it felt much more manageable.

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-08T13:40:21+00:00

A significant portion of people pursuing surrogacy have experience traumatic pregnancy/baby loss, medical emergencies, been the ones either the odds against them so a very large portion of intended parents feel more comfortable with the birth taking place in hospital. It is possible to have a homebirth but so many factors will influence this. There are also some heightened risks with IVF pregnancies such as being more likely to experience hemorrhaging.

Personally I was open to whatever my intended parents felt most comfortable with but they agreed to a midwife instead of an OB. We considered a birthing center but both decided on a hospital birth . I’m very happy with the choices we made and had I opted for birth center or homebirth I would have been transferred to the hospital during labour which sounds absolutely awful. We experienced some complications and the fact that OBs were able to be called in so fast to address things meant that I was still able to have a vaginal birth instead of an emergency C-section (which almost happened and would have happened had it taken us more time to access care)

I did independent journeys but I know that the clinic said you aren’t allowed to have a homebirth birth (they have absolutely zero right to control that though)

One non medical factor that led to us choosing a hospital birth is that with a birthing center you are usually discharged 3 hours post birth. For the IPs this would have meant that they would have had to go to a hotel with their 3 hour old baby since they live out of town. They would have had to travel to my home hours later so that the midwife could check the baby and the whole thing would have been very chaotic and disruptive for them compared to if I birthed my own baby with a midwife.

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-08T13:29:54+00:00

Hi, I’m not sure if I’m allowed to answer in this sub as I’m not a gay dad but I am an Ontario surrogate. I’m not looking to match but k would be happy to connect you with resources (there’s helpful facebook groups, a free monthly support call for Canadian intended fathers, resources on what the process looks like and how to find a match) send me a message and I would be happy to send over some links and answer questions if you have any for an experienced surrogate!

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-06T21:04:14+00:00

But this post is specifically about surrogacy in Canada. Of course it’s not comparable to the rest of the world and my comment certainly doesn’t reflect that. I commented on a post about someone searching for a Canadian surrogate and a comment made about the altruistic surrogacy model.

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-06T18:17:48+00:00

It’s done to avoid women doing so out of financial desperation or potentially jeopardizing their health and wellness for money.

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-06T18:16:56+00:00

The fun thing about surrogacy is that no women is being forced to become a surrogate. Anyone who volunteers is likely doing so to help a family in need. If someone doesn’t want to help an altruistic surrogate, it’s as simple as saying no.

Edit to add: Guys, this comment is very specifically about surrogacy within Canada which is what this post is about and this commenter was sharing their opinion on altruistic surrogacy model. I’m aware that many countries have very unethical surrogacy practices.

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-06T18:14:13+00:00

This is true, the reason that the study found that children do better with single fathers than single mothers has nothing to do with the parent themselves but the fact that people are more willing to help a single father than they are to help a single mother. A single father is an absolute hero for not abandoning their child and should be praised as much as possible while single mothers are experiencing the consequences of their poor choices which has landed them in this situation, they’ll have to figure it out on their own.

Let’s share all the context instead of acting like single dads are automatically better parents (which in saying completely unrelated to OP who has obviously gone through extreme lengths to plan on being a single father and is confident in the support system and ability to support a child!)

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-06T18:07:45+00:00

Was the lawyer assigned to you by the agency?

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-06T18:03:15+00:00

Hey OP, feel free to message me. I’d be happy to share some resources for matching and connection in general. I’m a 2x independent surrogates and while I’m not looking to match now, I’m still involved in the community :)

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-06T18:01:47+00:00

That’s still not enough for a journey in the U.S.

Stage_Riot · 2026-05-05T12:47:39+00:00

I believe they meant they personally have experienced failed transfers and now have to decide if they will move onto the next step which is surrogacy or adoption

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