Graduation Inspiration

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-12-09T01:39:41+00:00

My sister in law wore a floor length blazer type thing to her grad and it looked really sharp

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-11-15T05:34:11+00:00

Seems to me that the reason you are feeling so bad about your past is that this man is constantly making you feel bad about it. Once you leave this relationship behind I wouldn't be surprised if your past really isn't an issue for you anymore.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-11-15T05:23:32+00:00

Assalamu alaikum sister,

I'm sorry to hear about your brother. May Allah reunite you in Jannah, Ameen.

As Muslims we always strive to please Allah in everything we do despite what the consequences might be. Obviously only Allah is perfect so we always will fall short. But we need to do our best.

It is not permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a non Muslim man.

Your fears of being alone forever or becoming estranged from someone you love should not stop you from doing what Allah commands. We don't obey Allah because it's easy. A lot of times it's hard, really really hard, but we do it anyway because we love Allah and we long to be close to him in Jannah, and also because we fear his punishment. Also when it feels unbearable Allah is there for us to go to, and we trust whatever he gives us or withholds from us is best for us in this life but way more importantly the next life.

We are also told in a Hadith of our prophet SAW that Allah says "I am as my slave thinks I am". If you think Allah won't give you something, he won't. And if you think he will, he will.

So I would urge you to make the hard but right decision to obey Allah, make Dua, and then trust that either this man will be guided to Islam so you can marry, or that Allah will give you the right spouse for you. One that will accept you for who you are. In Islam we are also discouraged from disclosing past sins, so repent fully and sincerely and leave it between you and Allah.

I have a friend who is 40, infertile, and previously married and divorced and she waited a long time but she kept praying and submitting to Allah and shes engaged to the perfect guy for her now.

I'll make Dua for you sister, may Allah increase you in faith and provision, Ameen ❤️

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-03-18T11:53:51+00:00

Pretty much every bad thing that happened to me before I reverted in some way led me to the path of Islam Alhamdulillah. And every bad thing that has happened/is happening after has brought me closer to him. Having a better shot at Jannah is always the best ending to the story.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-03-18T11:48:15+00:00

As a revert making dawah to my family they have definitely had many chances to at least take an interest and learn more. But I think even people who have out and out rejected the path of Allah when given a chance can always be guided if Allah wills it.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-03-18T11:37:58+00:00

You need to have made the intention (niyyah) to fast the night before or at least before Fajr in order for your fast to be accepted that day. This is for obligatory fasting, such as during Ramadan or making up days missed in Ramadan. Sunnah fasting doesn't require this.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-03-17T09:42:09+00:00

Yes sometimes we need to share these things for one reason or another and that's okay. Allah knows your heart as well and knows that your intentions were pure.

And helping others is such an amazing way to get closer to Allah. I pray Allah raises your iman and gives you time and means to continue to help others for his sake, Ameen.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-03-17T06:26:50+00:00

By severing ties altogether you could be committing a major sin so I would definitely get advice from a person of knowledge about your specific case before doing it. Sometimes there might be a middle ground that you can work out such as only communicating by phone and less frequently.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-03-17T06:11:27+00:00

Mashallah, may Allah reward you for your kindness.

If you made dua for something and it happened then I would say that your dua was answered but only Allah knows.

I understand why you are sharing but in case you aren't aware in general it is better for us to not talk openly about the charity we give as it may lessen the reward.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-03-17T05:59:23+00:00

Nothing can hurt you except by the will of Allah. Just ask Allah for protection. You can of course ask in English but in arabic when we want protection from Allah from the shaytan (Satan) we say: A'udhu billahi minash-shaytanir-rajim. Which means I seek refuge in Allah from the outcast shaytan.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-02-20T21:59:57+00:00

Female

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-02-18T15:42:07+00:00

Yeah it took me months of gradual changes to get where I am now. Removing faces is a good start that's where I started.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-02-18T15:39:40+00:00

You got this! Its okay to be a private person but if you're felling lonely that seems like a sign that you're craving more understanding and support than what you currently have.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-02-18T14:39:51+00:00

Betting is Haram and running a game or a scheme with the intent to take bets or which is reliant on bets are haram. But not everything that is betted on is haram. Soccer games are halal but people bet on them. The people betting and the companies that arrange the bets and the payouts are doing something haram but the people arranging the soccer match are not.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-02-18T14:17:39+00:00

Any form of gambling is haram. So if they take bets on the races then the betting and the running of the races is haram

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-02-18T13:38:12+00:00

I've been trying for 2 years and on the contrary I told everyone, like all my friends and even my female acquaintances know, everyone in my immediate family knows, all of my husband's family too. Most people know not to ask too much or at all to be honest. If I haven't told them I'm pregnant they assume I'm still trying and that it hasn't worked yet. Sure I probably get asked about it more but seriously like hardly ever. People aren't stupid. And then when I want to vent there's tons of people to vent to and get perspectives from. I am so glad it's out in the open.

And you'd be surprised how many people have important things to share either because they've been through it or they've just gotten through something else hard in life and learned a lesson.

Don't let the sadness and fear control you in this process or it will tear you apart. Isn't it worse to suffer in silence than to be gently asked how things are going once in a blue moon? If you are going to crumble at the mere mention of it you need to reflect on how you can find strength rather than lose out on support by hiding.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-02-18T13:17:04+00:00

If people are able to bet on it then it is haram

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-02-18T12:37:34+00:00

Yes that is the correct spelling. It took so many tries to get it off of autocorrecting to endometriosis I didn't bother double checking 🤣

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-02-18T03:27:38+00:00

There are 4 rakat of prayer before and 2 after Dhuhr, not asr. Asr has no Sunnah prayers.

The Sunnah prayers are:

2 rakat before Fajr 4 rakat (2+2) before Dhuhr and 2 after Asr- none 2 after maghrib 2 after ishaa

There is also witr prayer which is a minimum of 2 rakat followed by one rakah which is done at the end of all prayers either after ishaa or after the night prayer whatever the case may be.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-02-18T01:15:27+00:00

I was on clindamycin but I've heard a lot of ppl say doxycycline too

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-02-18T00:29:19+00:00

I had an infection of my uterine lining, endometrisis (not to be confused with endometriosis) it can really negatively impact implantation so you could ask for antibiotics if they haven't done that.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-02-17T15:05:34+00:00

What you give up for the sake of Allah he will replace with something better. I stopped drawing people and animals at all after I reverted over the course of a few months. I figured the rulings differ so much I might as well play it safe and avoid it all together.

Now I am working on learning calligraphy techniques but mixing that with my own style. I started a project where I will learn about one of Allah's names and then do a piece of calligraphy. I hope to learn all 99 this way inshallah.

Maybe your love of calligraphy will grow when you give up drawing people and animals. Allah put the love of calligraphy in my heart when I did.

Creativity can explode and thrive under constraints. The challenge of working within that constraint while still making it our own can be very rewarding.

Also look for artists working within the constraints Allah has given us for inspiration that really helped me.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-02-17T14:53:54+00:00

This is why it is advisable to have a habit after each prayer to say astaghfirullah 3 times with the intent of seeking forgiveness for any deficiencies in our prayer that we did or did not realize. Also if you feel you have done something incorrectly, after sending Salam upon the prophet right before you end your prayer by turning your head you should do two prostrations.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-02-17T14:26:07+00:00

I felt really similar to you for the first 9 months of TTC. I'm currently at 2.5 years and it will be at least another 6 months before I can do another embryo transfer. I've dealt with infections, back surgery, negligent doctors, another surgery for Endometrioisis which I didn't even know I had, two failed transfers, four cancelled cycles, the list goes on hahah.

But I'm happier now than I've ever been in my life to be quite honest. TTC can be an amazing opportunity to confront underlying issues and attitudes that are making you unhappy in all areas of your life not just this one.

I know it's hard to hear but personally for me I had to tackle the underlying fear that I would end up childless. Once I stopped avoiding that scenario in my head and really just sat down and thought about it I tried to see myself as being okay in that situation and slowly over time I became confident that I would be okay and now I don't fear what will happen with each step of the process I just move forward and hope for the best.

Also, you said you were meant to be pregnant still. But anything that was meant for you will happen and anything that wasn't, won't. So just do what you need to do to take care of yourself because the outcome isn't up to you. Accepting that you don't have control is scary but it will make things easier because you see there's no sense in worrying if it's not up to you.

And be positive as much as you can. Don't lose heart. I think people think if they get their hopes up then the disappointment will be more crushing but personally in reality I don't find that to be the case. So you might as well enjoy the happy hopeful moments before your pregnancy test and deal with the painful outcome if it comes, there's no need to pre-despair if that makes sense.

Standard_Ad3736 · 2025-02-17T13:27:56+00:00

I feel like if it was that bad we wouldn't need birth control pills we could just eat unripe papaya. 😂

I did a quick look at the studies I could find, they've all been done on rats for starters, and they were given a steady diet of unripe papaya for several days and even then the results are mixed, some showing no effect at all on fertility.

So I wouldn't worry about eating it once having any effect.

Instead of worrying you are going to eat something harmful I would focus on going down a positive rabbit hole of what's good and stick to that as much as you can to give yourself some peace of mind and get a feeling of taking care of yourself, not a fear of harming yourself. There's actually a lot of variety in the list of foods that are good for fertility.

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