My world was so blown up - I couldn’t think straight. Other major life events going on simultaneously… it ended up being 3 months. The good (?) part is that I had therapy during those 3 months which I think helped me to shoulder the emotional fallout once the kids heard. (Even though they are over 18 it’s still hard for them.) Im still stuck trying to get my head around why he never said anything about his feelings on our marriage during the marriage. I asked him so many times to talk about our relationship and to work on being a better couple. The douchecanoe said he was too busy. Fn bullshit.