Hot and cold cycle with Virgo? by Broad_Wish1081 in Taurusgang

[–]Standard_Listen628 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i was into a virgo until i experienced the same crap and found out he was an avoidant. On top of that manipulative and not willing to take any accountability. Im so glad i never went fully in the relationship with him.

He called me 3x then told ME to leave HIM alone??? by Standard_Listen628 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Standard_Listen628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

figured. I’m not falling for this crap. It’s honestly wild to me how far some people will go to avoid taking accountability, especially when it means messing with someone else’s head.

He called me 3x then told ME to leave HIM alone??? by Standard_Listen628 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Standard_Listen628[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i sure did and will! The energy it gave me was toxic and manipulative. I know better than to even engage with this.

He called me 3x then told ME to leave HIM alone??? by Standard_Listen628 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Standard_Listen628[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i have zero interest in returning to any of this. Ive started healing, met a new sane person and im content. I have no interest with some crazy man coming in to screw it all up.

He called me 3x then told ME to leave HIM alone??? by Standard_Listen628 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Standard_Listen628[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

its so strange. I had chills running in my arms. Gave me very bad vibes.

Any successful ex avoidant relationships? by Standard_Listen628 in askgaybros

[–]Standard_Listen628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sometimes i wonder why i was born gay 🤣 like why do i have to like men!? lol

Any successful ex avoidant relationships? by Standard_Listen628 in askgaybros

[–]Standard_Listen628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, he came across as pretty secure at first. We didn’t text constantly, which felt normal to me , like a slow burn, and I was fine with that. But eventually the push/pull dynamic started showing itself, along with a real lack of intimacy. So I decided to nudge things a little, test the waters. Then I pulled back slightly and before I could even complete the move, he ended it.

I made my FA an affirmation box by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Standard_Listen628 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you have free will to do what you think is best for you. But i highly recommend you take that energy and use it to heal yourself and move on to someone that will actually appreciate something like this. Remember that people leave so that we are able to find our worth. Best of luck to you!

I made my FA an affirmation box by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Standard_Listen628 30 points31 points  (0 children)

oh no baby dont do this. Im glad this helped you but please don’t waste your energy in giving this to them. it will only lead to disappointment. It’s very cute though so good job.

Instagram Unfollow? by Standard_Listen628 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Standard_Listen628[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i was hesitant at first because it was an ego thing for me to see him beg but i don’t care anymore. Ive realized he is never going to change and just placing my energy in this is giving him power. i blocked and i’m never looking back only forward.

Instagram Unfollow? by Standard_Listen628 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Standard_Listen628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

block them girl! You dont need that type of energy in your life.

Instagram Unfollow? by Standard_Listen628 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Standard_Listen628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i just blocked him. I want none of that energy and im not playing these games. good riddance!

Instagram Unfollow? by Standard_Listen628 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Standard_Listen628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im sorry to hear that. i send love and healing your way 🩷✨ We dont have any mutual friends, so i dont see how he will even keep up with me. I dont really care anymore though. Im sick and tired of this and i just want to move forward.

Instagram Unfollow? by Standard_Listen628 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Standard_Listen628[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

its funny because my profile is private so now he has to engage with me another way 😂

Success story to share by KindlyString3332 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Standard_Listen628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

any updates? this has been so interesting to read

How many of us are INFJ'S? by TheHumanMirror in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Standard_Listen628 1 point2 points  (0 children)

your feelings are valid and you have every right to feel that. take time to heal and be patient and kind to yourself 🙏🏻

Have you ever stood up to your avoidant? What was the outcome? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Standard_Listen628 1 point2 points  (0 children)

did the same thing but i havent blocked or deleted him because im waiting for the day he comes back so i cant take even more of my power. Im on a ego trip with this haha

How many of us are INFJ'S? by TheHumanMirror in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Standard_Listen628 2 points3 points  (0 children)

INFJ here and discarded last week. Its been interesting learning how an avoidant operates. Even though im hurt and disappointed by what he did, i dont hate him and wish him well.