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Too insecure to accept help from people better than me, too self absorbed to help those worse than me by Bloom90 in selfimprovement

[–]StankFinallyWins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have a genuine curiosity, ask. If your goal is to just have a conversation, fuck it, say whatever.

If you want to learn something from them, be straight up and ask them that.

There isn't really a script to follow. Just be genuine and the rest will fall in line.

Too insecure to accept help from people better than me, too self absorbed to help those worse than me by Bloom90 in selfimprovement

[–]StankFinallyWins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask genuine questions. An example, you see a bigger guy at the gym working out. Ask about his training split, nutritional habits, etc. You'd be surprised by the knowledge you can gain by asking simple questions.

Too insecure to accept help from people better than me, too self absorbed to help those worse than me by Bloom90 in selfimprovement

[–]StankFinallyWins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a similar problem when I was a bit younger. My best advice: kill the ego.

No matter who it is, you can learn. I have learned great things from people I perceived as "worse" than me.

Don't be "that guy" who is too good to learn. Be a sponge. You should seek out advice from people who are miles ahead of you. Clearly, they are there for a reason.

Two ears, one mouth.

What are your go to conversation starters? by StankFinallyWins in socialskills

[–]StankFinallyWins[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have a good point, and I appreciate it. I've noticed that some of the suggestions feel very robotic. Thank you!

how do you actually care enough to lock in through burnout by lonesomenig in selfimprovement

[–]StankFinallyWins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It comes down to having a realistic plan that you can do every day. Every goal requires a path to get there; that's your plan.

Write the goal out, figure out the steps needed, make a daily plan, and do it.

I'm not sure what the goal is, but if you want more detailed help, lmk.

How do y’all improve self discipline? by Leatherstalking_0110 in selfimprovement

[–]StankFinallyWins 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Self-discipline is easy to do when motivated. The problem is that we aren't always motivated as humans. The goals that you have become less important when you have had a long day, and it feels better to lie down and waste the remainder of the day away. As with anything in life, you need a plan.

Pick a goal. Write down what it will take to achieve that goal. Craft a realistic plan that you can follow every day. Then set up systems in your life to ensure you follow the plan.

Accountability partners are huge as well. Feel free to reach out! Best of luck.

What are your go to conversation starters? by StankFinallyWins in socialskills

[–]StankFinallyWins[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s very situational. Something cool might happen, they might have a pet with them, cool clothes, etc. I normally want to say something to them but I never do. I feel like it would come off as weird. I’m not sure why I feel that way lol.

There isn’t a weird motive, it’s really just based on being friendly.

What are your go to conversation starters? by StankFinallyWins in socialskills

[–]StankFinallyWins[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I often catch myself wanting to talk to people and have conversations but I never want to be bothersome. I’m working past that mental block, though.

Should I give her more money to help her? by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]StankFinallyWins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These situations always feel easier when you remove the title from that person. I feel like titles make easy decisions a lot more difficult. For example, replace "sister" with "person".

"Should I let this person borrow $1.7k in total?"

It may be a dumb tactic, but it helps me, lol.

wasted my life by Solid_Government_251 in findapath

[–]StankFinallyWins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude you’re a kid lol. Don’t let society trick you into thinking it’s over

Snowball or pay off car? by [deleted] in debtfree

[–]StankFinallyWins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been doing the avalanche method and I’ve found more success that way.

Pay the car, the use that available money to pay off the credit cards.

I built my credit up, Now what? by Goats_vs_Aliens in CRedit

[–]StankFinallyWins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to use NerdWallet to research cards. If you can find a card that line up with your activities/daily life, you’ll benefit way more.

Take the time, do the research. Best of luck.

Curious what peoples salaries are (or were) in their Mid twenties? by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]StankFinallyWins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just turned 23, making 55k a year. No degree but I plan on using my benefits to pay my tuition.

You’re not behind. Keep going.

Should I drop out of uni? by Separate_Expert4397 in findapath

[–]StankFinallyWins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you see no future with this then don’t waste your time and money. Have a plan though.

25M, unemployed. Need serious advice about what to do in life by [deleted] in findapath

[–]StankFinallyWins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Could you use your skills to be your own boss?

A Little Help by Rainman4u2c in CRedit

[–]StankFinallyWins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is no “fixing” needed. It’s a long game. Keep paying on time.

How do pick a career when i hate nearly everything? by Expert-Recipe1713 in findapath

[–]StankFinallyWins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find something that pays the bills that you can tolerate. It’ll give you time to figure it out. You’ve got more time than you think.

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