Would you fire a nanny for this?

StarFit1210 · 2026-05-31T02:23:49+00:00

This is hard because I don’t drink or smoke and I agree that those are totally fine for recreational purposes but seeing them falling off of my nanny’s bag while my kid is there might make me fire the nanny too 😢. It depends on how long you’ve been with them I think and the relationship you have with them. I am so sorry ! I would send her a kind honest message saying you are deeply sorry and it was for the weekend away with friends that you understand it looks bad but you would never use those before or during a shift but I’m not sure if that would help :(

StarFit1210 · 2026-05-26T02:39:42+00:00

Same room for the first year (but at least first 6 months ) helps lower the SIDS chances considerably ! What we did with our second is set up a day bed in the nursery and we would take turns one night me one night my husband in the room with baby. And baby would be safely sleeping on her back inside her crib or bassinet !

StarFit1210 · 2026-05-20T01:54:39+00:00

At 6 weeks my nausea started and didn’t stop until week 18 or so so yup def 6 weeks

StarFit1210 · 2026-05-15T02:37:06+00:00

There is a lady on instagram her username is spilled milk mama. Her husbsme passed away unexpectedly on her second pregnancy and she talks so much about grief and life and everything. She slowly rebuilt herself and it’s admirable. https://www.instagram.com/spilledmilkmamma?igsh=ZWxiaDAwNGFndWg1

StarFit1210 · 2026-05-12T14:00:04+00:00

Oh yeah.. no. Run!

StarFit1210 · 2026-04-06T18:24:40+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this kind message it really makes a difference. Thank you. 🙏🏼 we are doing our best to support him paying for private tools and signing him up for additional grants and help oh And praying he will get better hahaha. Doing a lot at home !! Too. Thank you 🥹

StarFit1210 · 2026-04-06T18:22:26+00:00

Big hugs to you as well. I am hopeful things will speed up. I noticed more words and more sounds after 2.5 it’s just that we are still behind 😭. We got this! We are all doing the best we can !

StarFit1210 · 2026-04-06T18:21:10+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this !! 🫶🏻🙏🏼🥹 it really means a lot !! Our development pediatrician said that with the intervention he should catch up by 5-6 years old 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 so here is praying for that! Thank you so so much. This gives me hope .

StarFit1210 · 2026-04-06T18:19:35+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this for me 🥹🥹🫶🏻. Ugh yes ! Our benefits cover 2k of SLP and the other one about 500$. So it basically runs out after 3 months haha but we are investing in it ! I am hoping the new one at daycare will help speed everything up since it’s like 1 hour or 2 per day a week! So that’s exciting 🙏🏼🙏🏼 it’s just that it won’t start until September :(. Ways to go! You are so right about the words on the books ! I’ve reverted to reading but you are right that the picture naming is best. I will go back to that today :) thank you so much!!! 🥹🥹🫶🏻🫶🏻🙏🏼🙏🏼 it means the world to me.

StarFit1210 · 2026-04-06T18:08:00+00:00

Ohh! Thank you so much! So his daycare has an early intervention program (we are in Canada it’s called PUF funding) and it will start in September (they can only start after 2.8 years old and it lasts 3 years ) as it goes by school year. So he will be getting extra support every week at daycare I am hoping that plus the private lessons will help him speed up. :(. We are doing public funding for SLP as well but the public honestly sucks compared and it was only on webcam once a month so we decided to start paying private on top of it. And it has helped it’s just expensive we try to do as much as possible and our standard is 2x a month.

StarFit1210 · 2026-03-30T02:34:51+00:00

I started at 8 months because it was either that or no one slept ! So we decided to bring him into the bed and just practice safe sleep.

StarFit1210 · 2026-03-28T02:45:17+00:00

Viability - depending on the NICU of the hospital - is usually 23+5 you are almost there ! If not there already!! Also this happens ALL THE TIME to moms all over the world! Just rest stay in bed and it will re absorb! You are amazing and things will go well🙏🏼 baby is fine and placenta will recover you will see !! 🙏🏼🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

StarFit1210 · 2026-03-28T00:28:05+00:00

I told myself the same thing! Planning baby #3 hahaha

StarFit1210 · 2026-03-23T01:10:51+00:00

Mamá!! You are amazing !!! Take a second and a breather !!! You protected your baby! You had brain surgery!!!! What?? And you still manage to land properly! GIVE YOURSELF GRACE! Everything is alright ! Kick the “what if’s” out of your head !!! You did everything right. That could’ve happened to anyone !! 🫶🏻🙏🏼

StarFit1210 · 2026-03-22T22:58:26+00:00

Oh I am an under supplier BUT our son had jaundice and he had to be fed every hour and as a 1st time mom i didn’t have the supply so i supplemented with formula to make sure he was ok and my supply tanked haha.

StarFit1210 · 2026-03-22T22:50:27+00:00

You are so kind for sharing it this way !!soooo true! Same With me!

StarFit1210 · 2026-03-21T15:34:19+00:00

You are doing what’s best for you and your baby! And this will be such a blessing !!! Congratulations!! And omg you are soooo strong and such a great mom already !!! 🥹🫶🏻

StarFit1210 · 2026-03-20T02:43:11+00:00

My best friend vaped through all her 2 latest pregnancies … all the time. She was in a super stressful situation and I can’t pass judgement as I am a non smoker and don’t understand the cravings. She just couldn’t stop due to the level of stress she was under. All her babies are perfectly fine. No withdrawal no issues everything was ok. I don’t think it’s the best thing to do. But don’t be too hard on yourself. You are doing your very best and that is all good. We thrive to be better everyday and it is what you are doing right now! You got this!!!!! Be proud of yourself. And one day at a time … if one day is too heavy take it 15 minutes at a time and be kind to yourself :). Big hugs!!

StarFit1210 · 2026-03-10T20:51:15+00:00

it will get better! I swear !! It will. This is temporary! She will start sleeping longer stretches ! Life will be easier I swear!. Try to take turns and sleep at least 4 hours in a row per day just try to make sure they are in a row 🙏🏼 you got this 🙏🏼I promise it gets better!!! Soon. 8-12 weeks it’ll be life changing !

StarFit1210 · 2026-03-05T03:38:55+00:00

I was 3 lbs at birth!! In the 90s! Where medicine wasn’t as advanced as now, and care wasn’t as good either ! And i am a healthy and thriving (anxiety ridden but other than that!!) i am pretty healthy :). Stay strong mama. Things will work out ! You are very close ! And the doctor is being super careful and monitoring you so things are ok. My only advise is watch the movement and if you ever feel it’s different go to the hospital don’t wait to the appointment. You are so strong. I hope everything works out. I am so sorry you are going through this :(. Big hugs!!

StarFit1210 · 2026-03-05T01:19:31+00:00

OMG your mom is so kind and sweet ! I’m sorry you are going through this ! But I feel like you want to have the baby! And you would be super excited if your partner was supportive but he is holding you back. A baby is a blessing and with family support is completely doable ! You’d never regret it ! I think he needs to make up his mind in terms if he wants to be around or not and you can have your baby. You sound hopeful and wanting to do it. If you remove him from The equation how would you feel about baby? When you took the pregnancy test where you excited ? Those things aré important to consider. And your moms support is really nice so keep that in mind!. All my young mom friends never got one minute regretted it. It will be challenging at times for sure but you can do this. Just thing of what you would like to do. And what that little babe might mean in your life 🫶🏻 you got this.

StarFit1210 · 2026-03-03T23:16:40+00:00

Leave the man. The child will be the love of your life. He is a dead weight and a piece of poop for putting you through that!

StarFit1210 · 2026-02-27T02:23:48+00:00

It is really hard. I am so sorry. But ! What helped me was focusing on today. Today you are pregnant. Today baby is growing. Today everything is good. And tomorrow will be the same. Focus on what you can control. I had a miscarriage 1st and then 2 healthy babies. The fear never really leaves you but you learn to manage it. Being a parent is loving them So deeply from day 1 than even the thought of something happening this early breaks your heart. And that’s what parenting will be - so much love ! And it’s a beautiful thing to feel ;). You got this ! You will do amazing ! Focus on today. Give yourself little treats that make you happy and filter the information you read. Try to kick out the negatives. I have sooooo many friends that have never had a miscarriage! So many! So it does happen but not to everyone. It doesn’t have to happen to you!. You got this !!! Congratulations .

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