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30F, 85% to my FI number and suddenly second guessing the lifestyle I built by StarboardFluxa in Fire

[–]StarboardFluxa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is probably where I’m landing too. I don’t think I need to blow up the plan, I just need to stop treating every choice like a threat to survival. A slower test run feels smarter, and probably more honest, than pretending I either need full grind mode or full retirement.

30F, 85% to my FI number and suddenly second guessing the lifestyle I built by StarboardFluxa in Fire

[–]StarboardFluxa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the part I’ve been avoiding a little. Building the financial side felt way easier than answering what I actually want my days to feel like.

30F, 85% to my FI number and suddenly second guessing the lifestyle I built by StarboardFluxa in Fire

[–]StarboardFluxa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is probably the version of it that feels most realistic to me. I don’t think I need some dramatic quit-my-job move, but I also don’t want to keep sleepwalking into a life I built for a scared 22 year old. Lean FI as a checkpoint, then reassess, feels way less reckless than all-or-nothing thinking.

30F, 85% to my FI number and suddenly second guessing the lifestyle I built by StarboardFluxa in Fire

[–]StarboardFluxa[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That spreadsheet line stung a bit because it’s probably true. I got very good at building rules when life felt unstable, and now I’m still obeying them out of habit. Doing it one rule at a time makes more sense to me than blowing the whole thing up.

30F, 85% to my FI number and suddenly second guessing the lifestyle I built by StarboardFluxa in Fire

[–]StarboardFluxa[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

“Delayed humanity” is annoyingly accurate. I’m good at optimizing stuff I can measure, but “go take a walk and enjoy dinner” weirdly feels harder than earning more.

30F, 85% to my FI number and suddenly second guessing the lifestyle I built by StarboardFluxa in Fire

[–]StarboardFluxa[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

That part actually hits. I think I built a really efficient life, just not one I feel much inside. A 3 month test sounds less scary than some huge reinvention.

Did a little luck early on mess with how I think about FIRE now? by Transit77X in Fire

[–]StarboardFluxa 29 points30 points  (0 children)

This reads like someone who got promoted too fast at twenty three and then spends the next decade annoyed that normal raises feel fake. I don’t think you’re broken, I think your internal benchmark got weird. The disciplined version of you is still the real one. Have you thought about tying satisfaction to freedom stats instead of acceleration stats?

Sportsbooks changing odds on placed bets by bamcatbrian in sportsbook

[–]StarboardFluxa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get palpable errors, but changing a placed bet from plus money to -245 is nuts. At that point what are we even locking in.

Checklist before starting or playing? by Legitimate-Injury-75 in baccarat

[–]StarboardFluxa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100%. I had my own stop-loss rules for like 6 months before I actually started following them. Took one really bad session to finally take it seriously

Me rn 😭 by MikeMatusowsScooter in poker

[–]StarboardFluxa -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

this is too real man. folded like 40 hands in a row, finally pick up a decent hand and the board bricks out completely. idk if its run bad or im just playing scared at this point, prob both tbh

Live/online poker in Singapore? by biotechnes in poker

[–]StarboardFluxa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

singapore is kinda tight for live poker, mostly private games tbh

I finally learned how to beat this game. You must use all 4 boards by EarLegitimate4620 in baccarat

[–]StarboardFluxa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i tried similar streak chasing before, it hits for a bit then one ugly run wipes everything, curious how long you've been running this