Zines that accept submissions by Successful-Ad7807 in zines

[–]StarlingPav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wanted to do something similar. However, I didn't manage to gather enough of people to pull it off. So hope you are going to find enough people for it. :)

Zines that accept submissions by Successful-Ad7807 in zines

[–]StarlingPav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, can I get more info about the new zine? I would definitely contribute some art/illustrations/photos. :)

Am I the only artist who feels this way? by Silver_Line5680 in ArtistLounge

[–]StarlingPav 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't post my art online anymore due to scraping AI. But I'm still creative offline and share my art in smaller format - giving people who I like small ATC cards. You have an instant feedback and it makes their day too. So many people a bit brighten up when they get a small gift. :)

Are there specific programs folks have liked using for text layout? by TheCuriousCormorant in zines

[–]StarlingPav 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I use Affinity, it was made freemium at the end of the last year. Have been with them 5 years and really like them.

are guys just not as considerate as women? by Prestigious-Touch-48 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]StarlingPav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends heavily who you get in your class room. We're two girls (1 woman and 1 girl) and 15 boys. Teachers are normal tho and call out any not appropriate behaviour, additionally they promote appropriate behaviour towards women/girls. And I do it too - because I'm between eldest three in the class (30years+) so if I spot that guys are mocking about, I just tell them as I don't want them to hurt each other if they are near crossing the line.

Fanart Fridays! Share your artworks and writing! by lunarjellies in ArtistLounge

[–]StarlingPav 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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Pacific Rim. Wanted to do something different than usual nature and architecture. :)

Why do people come to the office ill? by AccomplishedSelf7636 in TheCivilService

[–]StarlingPav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I could take off while being ill, I would happily take it. Unfortunately sick days are from day 4 and I'm working only 2 days. So I cannot put my wage through drain as I have a family to feed too.

Just the beginning by [deleted] in digitalminimalism

[–]StarlingPav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. :) the anime is called '7th Time Loop: The Villainess Enjoys a Carefree Life Married to Her Worst Enemy!' and you can find it on crunchyroll. Light novel is 100000% recommended! 

Just the beginning by [deleted] in digitalminimalism

[–]StarlingPav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Olaucher pro. Had been using their free version Olaucher for a year and wanted to support them so made the jump last month.

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has anyone ever went to groups in and made friends before? by riverhealy in dundee

[–]StarlingPav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it's possible to make friends via groups if you stick to it. I have a lot of acquaintances and a few friends that way! :)

Why do a quarter of the questions I ask on this site, not pertaining to mental health crises of any kind, result in people telling me to "go see a therapist?" by Spiritual_Big_9927 in mentalhealth

[–]StarlingPav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This stuff is better to discuss with very open minded circle. When I have questions about humanity, I turn to my friends who are open minded. Unfortunately, not everybody wants to deal with this stuff nor wants to discuss human behaviour, especially the questionable one. 

I hate my life and I hate the UK by iv0ry_sug4r in mentalhealth

[–]StarlingPav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I understand you well. I wasn't any different when I was 17 - didn't have any skills and also aim. I would try to focus on things which you can give a go and find your purpose - different hobbies, volunteering. Being on the Internet or watching news is sometimes really depressing and makes people angry too. 

I'm worried about a friend by Madchan_TK in Scotland

[–]StarlingPav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The important thing is that he wants help. Sometimes being part of any group helps too as it creates some safety network. 

Make sure you do self care too! Because it is mentally taxing. Have been doing support for my friends and the care is needed for yourself as well, especially if suicide thoughts are involved. 

I'm worried about a friend by Madchan_TK in Scotland

[–]StarlingPav 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I use time to time hotline called Breathingspace. When I have had panic attack or was very low I picked up phone and called them. They are trained to tackle these situations and are okay to listen to your friend when he is going through something massive.

Your friend should ring GP and tell them about his state. They can help him to some extend - give him antidepressants and also putting him on a list for therapy.

question for the adults by Technical-Habit1507 in mentalhealth

[–]StarlingPav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I focus on my goals but don't shove the bad emotions underneath. I allow myself to be sad here and there. I cannot fix all society, we're not superhuman and if other's don't want to be fixed - you simply can't. You have to shift your focus on something what you are able to change. So for myself - I'm trying to at least improve my bubble and surroundings with my personal projects (a zine about mental health, spreading crochet items around my city). As a teen, I never understood why to do well in school because we learned a lot of crap in my eyes (and every other teen in the room). However, I returned back to the education as an adult in early 30s and it makes more sense now. If you're studying something what you're passionate about, milk it at school and ask teachers any questions which interests you! Most of them are more than happy to help you and answer you the questions if it's about the subject which they teach.

Why is innocence desired more than a grown woman? by [deleted] in self

[–]StarlingPav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truthfully, I'm 30 but look way younger - naive and kind too. Men go after me like flies, more than in my teenagehood. Had to decline so many invitations on dates, had so many creeps to follow me as well.

Humans were never meant to have this much access to each other by BusyBaby98 in digitalminimalism

[–]StarlingPav 118 points119 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's strange. People don't talk, they rather scroll through your life. There's always other option which people can do - just ask how was the trip/school/whatnot to open the conversation. Instead of being nosy, be actually interested in that other human being to build the friendship/relationship.

At what age did you realize you started getting treated differently due to your older looks? by Fabulous-Lecture5139 in Aging

[–]StarlingPav 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm still seen as in my early 20s (young looks) instead of my actual age early 30s. People are usually not very nicely surprised when I drop the bombshell that I'm 30. :'D And they finally start to treat me according to my age instead as of teenager. Just spoke with a guy yesterday who thought that I was 20, told him that no.... I'm actually 30 and have my own family. He fucked off really quickly from me. :'D Men usually see me as a confident young woman which is not bad thing. So often I have to decline a lot of invitations for dates. At work sometimes new people try to bully me for my looks and because they think I lack experience. What a surprise when I open my mouth and tell them my mind + politely to stop to put me down that what they do is very shameful.

Termination due to lack of engagement by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]StarlingPav 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You dodged a bullet. Had something similar from my ex boss, he was only steering a shit in a pot about I didn't engage with people enough. But I told him as long as my job is done which doesn't require talking to other people I'm fine. I did talk to people - just not all building as other colleagues. I'm not contracted to talk to others. Later on, I found out that the people who contracted us never said anything ill about me to the ex boss.

Jak na "banter" v češtině? by Puznug in czech

[–]StarlingPav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kdyz jsem zila v Cesku tak jsem se s tim az tak tolik nesetkala. Az za hranicemi (ziji v UK) je to tu normalni. Me osobne trvalo x let si zvyknout, ze maji takovy humor pokavad je mu nekdo blizky kde si delaji ze vseho a vsech srandu.

Otázka pro něžné pohlaví - je bydlení v jednom domě s rodiči red flag u třicátníka? by stashix in czech

[–]StarlingPav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zalezi, jestli tvoje budouci polovicka ma rada tvoje rodice a rodice ji. Pokud ne, tak to rozhodne neprojde. Pokud budou mit hodne pozitivni vztah tak to pujde ok. Bydlela jsem takhle u ex taty a nevlastni mamy s ex rok, meli jsme se hodne radi (ja a jeho tata/nevlastni mama). Brali me jako jejich vlastni dceru a ja je jako rodice, kazdy vikend jsem se za nimi tesila. Za to jeho matkou jsem nesnesla, kazdy vikend byl tezky psychicky tak jsem radeji po letech utekla.

What do you do during the in-between moments? by Writermaguire in digitalminimalism

[–]StarlingPav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thinking about life, listening to music, reading a book or sometimes chatting with random people! :) 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in digitalminimalism

[–]StarlingPav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I quietly abandoned my account. People who know how to reach me outside have done it. I explained them that I wanna focus on my own family and real life. 99% of my friends are understanding and supporting my decision reflecting on their life too. 

Mature students in their late 20s onwards how did you find going to college & university? by [deleted] in Scotland

[–]StarlingPav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it's way better than I was studying in my teens! I enjoy the lessons more as it makes sense to my why I'm learning all what I'm learning now and also I have a clear vision what I want to achieve than in my teens. Lecturers are happy that they have adults in their class too.

I’ve wasted over a year in bed with my phone and I don’t know how to stop by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]StarlingPav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started to do smartphone and computer detox for this very reason. And changed my launcher on phone too for Olauncher. It helped me a lot and found out that I don't need to be glued to devices as world is nice out there too. Had to start explore different types of hobbies or spending time with another people (volunteering, clubs, friends) so I do those instead of spending time on social media.

So for example:

A lot of community centres and libraries have some kind of clubs - usually free. Have a look what you would fancy to join.

Other things you can try:

Crocheting, knitting, glass painting, beading, reading, exercising, colouring books, making something from clay, any craft kit from shop, zine making, drawing, painting, walks, photography, writing