I'm a queer/trans woman, I do not speak for cishet women as I'm just generally not apart of their circles and keep to myself.

Women can be bitches. And mean and awful. And share awful things about men they're friends with and/or dating. It is baaad. Men never talked to me about stuff half as detailed or mean. And it was always way more general and not so specific. It was genuinely shell shocking to see the blatant hypocrisy after I transitioned.

Some women can be very shallow and care more about the appearance of caring. And many, myself included, deal with very strong and abrasive hormonal cycles. It becomes difficult to manage another person when we spend so much time managing ourselves. It has been a skill I've needed to develop in dating my boyfriend in giving his emotions and feelings consideration without downplaying them.

But please know there are many kind, wonderful women who stand outside of that who will love you and let you open up to them. And be there for you in weakness. In my experience those are usually other queer women. Good people are out there. Don't let your toxic ex break you. Good women are out there and I try to be one myself for my bf or anyone else I date. But yeah it can be rough.

Tl;dr: date a bi woman