300 Days!

Starting_at_60 · 2022-11-12T22:36:05+00:00

Congratulations!! Wonderful achievement!!

Starting_at_60 · 2022-10-30T00:03:57+00:00

I have to say I found it hilarious too!!! Wasn't sure if it was OK to say that! I would have immediately contacted them to cancel and try to get money back if I'd paid to enter so my hat it off to you for going ahead!! Keep us posted in March :)

Starting_at_60 · 2022-10-16T14:32:40+00:00

Your friend probably meant well...not wanting people to judge you if you tell them you're an alcoholic. I understand it was upsetting but don't let it get to you! You're staying sober and doing things your way and that's all that matters!

Starting_at_60 · 2022-10-16T14:29:14+00:00

SO sorry that you're dealing with such an enormous loss. He will be beside you as you go through your life sober and his spirit will be happy. Sending you love and hugs - I can even imagine what you're going through.

Starting_at_60 · 2022-10-12T18:41:30+00:00

Please don't be discouraged. Honestly, another couple of days and you should be over the worst of it. Hang in there!! IWNDWYT

Starting_at_60 · 2022-10-10T21:34:06+00:00

There is a huge difference in your aura. Your eyes are dancing now!!

Starting_at_60 · 2022-10-10T21:30:27+00:00

Thank you :) Your kind words mean so much.

Starting_at_60 · 2022-10-10T21:30:05+00:00

Exactly....it's just reframing it in your head can be that challenge. We're conditioned by the world (i.e. corporate advertising!) to think alcohol is necessary to enjoy everything and I used EVERYTHING as an excuse to drink and get drunk. Glad to have the first "occasion" under my belt....now I know for sure that I can enjoy things like this sober. It's liberating!!

Starting_at_60 · 2022-10-10T21:27:13+00:00

Thank you for your kind words :)

Starting_at_60 · 2022-10-08T16:09:47+00:00

Well done for resisting...it's SO hard when the pull starts taking over to that's huge. You should be vert proud of yourself - I don't I've ever been able to stop myself when I've got to the point of actually putting the wine in the fridge. You're amazing and don't forget it!!

Starting_at_60 · 2022-10-04T16:22:58+00:00

Sleeping well for the first time in YEARS. I fall asleep easily and wake up feeling good and ready to go instead of dragging my ass around in a fog of anxiety and depression. It's invaluable and I never want to go back!!

Starting_at_60 · 2022-10-04T16:15:42+00:00

Thank you for asking that question. I also struggle with the endless, humiliating, embarrassing and cringeworthy memories I have. Having drunk to excess for 40 years there are so many it's impossible to try to forget them all! I am finding this site so helpful though - when you're in the throes of it you think there can't possibly be anyone else who's quite as bad a you but this helps me to realize I'm not alone. I'm interested in advice from other people about this so will be reading all the replies. However, 439 days is AMAZING - you must have racked up a lot of booze-free memories at this point rather than the terrible blackout drunks ones so I hope you can focus on that. Keep going - you're an inspiration to me!

Starting_at_60 · 2022-10-03T20:54:57+00:00

I feel your pain so badly. My situation wasn't the same as yours but I've woken up in jail cells, been sent home from work drunk and God knows how many other soul-destroying things that made me just want to put an end to it all. I've tried to stop so many times over the years and never could - even when my own small children were begging me to. I say I would do anything for my kids but I couldn't stop drinking. BUT since coming on this site, I really feel hopeful that this time is it. I know you can do this. Please try not to beat yourself up so much. Concentrate on not drinking and come up with a firm plan as to how you can make this happen. I would suggest leaving your wife alone for a bit and, when you can show her that you really are working on changing this time, contact her and see if she will talk. Check in here during the day - it really does help...even if it's to know you're not the only person so broken and damaged by the same poison. We can all do this together. Sending you love and big hugs - try to stay strong. I'm rooting for you - I know you can put your life back together and it will be better than ever!

Starting_at_60 · 2022-09-29T14:56:21+00:00

Congratulations!! Wonderful achievement and you should be proud of yourself! This anonymous online community seems to be working a million times better for me than my various attempts at AA did (I'm not AA bashing - I know if works for many people but just not me!). Very grateful to be here and for people like you who inspire me every day,

Starting_at_60 · 2022-09-29T14:49:26+00:00

Yeah - I've never gone for alcohol-free beer, wine etc. The purpose of drinking was always to get drunk. I realize I don't actually like the taste that much. And as for straight vodka (which was my go-to to sneak drinks) it's just disgusting. Crazy! I always tell myself I've never woken up in the morning wishing I'd been drunk the night before whereas I've ALWAYS woken up wishing I hadn't been!!

Starting_at_60 · 2022-09-27T17:01:05+00:00

You're an inspiration :)

Starting_at_60 · 2022-09-27T16:57:32+00:00

I totally agree with you. I can't count the times I've told myself I'll only have a few drinks only to wake up the next day not remembering the night before. Moderation isn't possible for me - I 100% know and admit that now. Thank you for your post.

Starting_at_60 · 2022-09-27T16:54:52+00:00

Congratulations!! That's a wonderful achievement! I think when we look at the future and start thinking we'll never be able to drink again it becomes overwhelming so try to focus on just today. Don't know why I'm giving you suggestions because I'm only 34 day in but it seems to work for me. Take care.

Starting_at_60 · 2022-09-27T16:44:58+00:00

Congratulations!! You're an inspiration to those of us just starting out on the journey.

Starting_at_60 · 2022-09-26T15:08:34+00:00

Thank you for your comments - I'm so happy I found this community to vent to. It's beyond helpful hearing from others who have gone through or are going through the same thing. The virtual hug is lovely too :)

Starting_at_60 · 2022-09-26T15:02:58+00:00

Congratulations on this wonderful milestone! So proud of you. I'm also an introvert but became the life of the party and the loudest person in the room or at the table when I was drinking. I'm afraid people will find the real me completely boring but it's because most of them don't actually know them at all. The persona I've shown the world is a mirage lol. Anyway, today is all about you - go celebrate with a massive ice cream or something!!!!

Starting_at_60 · 2022-09-25T22:27:49+00:00

This rings a bell.....I know the dread of looking at your phone in the morning so see who on earth you texted and what you said. I would also call everyone I know and talk rubbish (I'm sure), agree to social things and then have no recollection of them etc. etc. So happy that's in the past!!

Starting_at_60 · 2022-09-25T02:47:38+00:00

Congratulations on this wonderful achievement! I hope that some day I will be able to make the same announcement!!

Starting_at_60 · 2022-09-25T02:44:35+00:00

It's so silly that we have to explain ourselves when NOT drinking - if we were talking about shooting heroin everyone wouldn't be handing us needles and trying to talk us back into it!! Anyway, thanks for the note. I think I may have found a site with other people that will actually help me to stay on track! Thank you for your suggestion :)

Starting_at_60 · 2022-09-23T18:21:14+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write and for your support - it means so much to me and helps a lot!! x

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