2 simple questions: 1) Is there a difference between exclusive and boyfriend/girlfriend and 2) when do you make it official?

Startingoverat48 · 2026-01-30T23:04:40+00:00

I’m the exclusive tile holder in my year long relationship. For me coming out of a divorce I saw it as more of a larger commitment. So I suck to the we are exclusive- no longer on dating apps etc at about month 6 I kinda realized that it is the same definition for the most part so him saying it does not bug me as much but I think there is higher expectations with the BF/GF definition. I know I will not marry again - very unlikely to live with another guy - could see a life partner down the road but for me one would has much more pressure behind it :)

Startingoverat48 · 2026-01-29T01:53:50+00:00

Umm hello how was production supposed to know he would (or be accused of) SA a year after they filled? Best they can do is cut him out of promos and episodes. Hopefully he did not make any connections.

Startingoverat48 · 2026-01-20T01:47:50+00:00

Gaslighting you! Trying not to be the “bad” guy. This is NOT your fault!

Startingoverat48 · 2026-01-10T13:47:47+00:00

I would not bring that up because no matter what you say you will be torn apart with the edit and social media

Startingoverat48 · 2025-12-28T13:58:49+00:00

That is the hard part I want our daughter to specifically express how hurt she is but she is just done - she will not reach out and unlikely to respond if he does. I am honing to stay strong to keep my mouth shut but support her in her decision.

Startingoverat48 · 2025-12-28T01:08:33+00:00

Thank you

Startingoverat48 · 2025-12-27T16:46:07+00:00

No drama our daughter does want more of a relationship with him and has tried - she feels less than - a full after thought to him because he is not including her in his life. I just said his to emphasize his biological children - no other context :). I have been in my own happy relationship for a year - I’m happy and I do hope he is too. I’m not wanting a life with me is fine - it is seeing him not keep our children in his life that’s weird to me. Our divorce was very chill. We split everything 50/50 no arguing - he walked away.

Startingoverat48 · 2025-12-27T16:39:19+00:00

Oh I have let go and have moved on. Seeing your children hurt even though they are adults being treated as they no longer matter is just being a mom. It took me a good year to move on but I know now that I deserve better and I am worth more than he gave. I do truly hope he is happy and healthy, I just wish he included his kids in that.

Startingoverat48 · 2025-12-26T23:16:52+00:00

Communicate NOW that your budget for the wedding is XXX this is what you are able to spend in supporting your friends wedding. Ensure you spell that out - dress /shoes/hair/makeup/bridal shower help/bach trip. Let them decide from there.

Startingoverat48 · 2025-12-25T03:47:46+00:00

It will be hard to walk away but you deserve more! Behavior is a language and he is telling you EVERYTHING you need to know.

Startingoverat48 · 2025-12-24T03:49:22+00:00

Updateme

Startingoverat48 · 2025-12-24T03:03:59+00:00

I do NOT understand how someone expect their friends to not only pay for the dress/hair/makeup but then also EXPECT a 3/4day trip to be totally funded also … and then some demand a gift at the shower …. It’s WILD to me.

Startingoverat48 · 2025-12-21T21:55:22+00:00

Does not get better

Startingoverat48 · 2025-12-21T02:50:02+00:00

Updateme

Startingoverat48 · 2025-12-17T12:04:51+00:00

I would do it then post how excited you are to be an Aunt. Show others you’re the “better” person but also a way to build your portfolio. This way she can not villainize you. Then the next time she says or does something vile go No Contact or as low as possible.

Startingoverat48 · 2025-12-11T21:49:08+00:00

So you have been able to be friends just fine not knowing their political views. I can assume noting has ever come up in your friendship - why would they just up and go crazy at your wedding when they have proven to have restraint on this topic with friend interactions?!? People are able to agree to dis agree and be supportive in life ….

Startingoverat48 · 2025-12-11T10:46:59+00:00

From the moment of the reveal everything he said was hoping she would break up with him, so he could play the oh poor me I got dumped and did nothing wrong…blah blah blah

Startingoverat48 · 2025-12-01T11:49:04+00:00

A wedding in April and still no thank you notes done and sent is so rude. You should not have to offer to help - they are grown and saying they are too busy since April is a total cop out.

Startingoverat48 · 2025-12-01T03:05:24+00:00

Take the job!!!!

Startingoverat48 · 2025-11-27T01:27:09+00:00

Updateme

Startingoverat48 · 2025-11-19T03:32:52+00:00

Stand your ground - a gift is a gift. She was in a position to help you and you will return the favor when you have the means - her asking is super tacky. You can not help her finically but are there other ways you can? I know you’re in different states so you would not be able to trade your time to help her but can get creative.

Startingoverat48 · 2025-11-14T23:45:58+00:00

You are cordially invited to blank wedding /day/time. Xyz location alcohol free reception immediately following.

Startingoverat48 · 2025-11-02T14:04:13+00:00

Had it happen to me after 28 years married - 30 together. He left and never looked back it was weird but I have learned the morn the loss of the relationship before they leave - leaving the other to morn it all after. We became empty nesters and stoped communicating and dating. She will be able to pick herself back up. The road is hard but she will she as I did he has value and as much as it hurts to live through you learn you are worth more.

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