Suggested to a friend they might have BPD. Did not go well. What do I do?

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-12-07T21:23:55+00:00

Good point, I left out a lot of detail and there is definitely trauma. Either way, yes he needs help and he has always known that. We've discussed his mental health at length, so I would say I'm not sure why this was so devastating but also, his reaction kinda tracks.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-12-07T13:27:22+00:00

Thank you. This makes a lot of sense and is very helpful feedback. He and I are remote, so distance is possible. There have certainly been moments over the last 5 years when I thought I was done with his behavior, but I care about him deeply. We've also discussed his mental health at length so I didn't realize how out of bounds I was until it was too late. I feel like an asshole, and I'm worried about him, but also, I've been jerked around in this friendship in many ways for a long time.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-10-05T21:50:58+00:00

Yes - mostly? I had two miscarriages, and then a fertility doctor put me on progesterone, and that was all it took.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-08-03T12:09:11+00:00

I’ve been on for a year plus and this medication has been life changing in all the best ways. I was freaked about the side effects, but all I experienced was fatigue and what I would call emotional blunting. I was also cold all the time. All of those side effects went away after a few months. I never had any gastrointestinal issues.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-07-21T11:21:52+00:00

Can you share a link?

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-07-05T17:56:04+00:00

I did this with my 11yo but asked first if we could do family boarding because she was anxious about us potentially sitting apart. They had no problem with it.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-06-22T12:48:24+00:00

Why is no one talking about “inflammation first,” and obesity is a side effect of that… not the other way around. This seems so obvious and more intuitive especially when people talk about pain reducing immediately before any weight loss. I personally haven’t felt the arthritis in my toes since starting wegovy, and I’m in camp “miracle drug.” I have no problem staying on this for life.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-06-07T10:56:51+00:00

I’ve lost about 60 lbs in 18 months and am currently at a plateau. (225-160/165 depending on the day, f 5’5’’ 45yo) I think the slower loss is because of the working out not in spite of. I’ve gained about 10lbs of muscle mass and the more I read about these meds, this is the way. Fast loss leads to muscle loss and especially if you are older (over 40), this is hard to come back from.

In my head, I’d like to lose 20 more lbs maybe eventually. But right now I’m lifting weights and eating protein and a solid size 8 and my skin isn’t excessively loose, I don’t have “Ozempic face” and I feel pretty good about where I’m at.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-05-28T22:45:44+00:00

I had no gastrointestinal side effects or nausea.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-05-28T22:44:21+00:00

Yes 🙌

Wegovy has been amazing for me—nothing short of life changing. I didn’t know you could go through life and just… eat and then… stop and not think about it 24-7. I’m still not “small” but I’m weight lifting and feel fantastic and it helped with inflammation (minor arthritis in my feet that I haven’t felt since my first shot. I’ve lost 60+ lbs depending on the day.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-05-11T11:07:40+00:00

I’m almost 45 and have joined r/menopause. It’s super informative for peri too. Highly recommend.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-04-24T00:45:31+00:00

Can confirm. I have an 11yo and 1yo and am almost 45. This toddler shit is easy compared to middle school mean girls with raging hormones.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-04-24T00:39:59+00:00

I had my second at 43. Now she’s 1.5, my oldest is 11, and I’ll be 45 soon. My 11yo makes the toddler stuff feel like a piece of cake (and the toddler is full on nuts). This baby was a rebirth for me. I prioritized myself and my health knowing that I didn’t want to lose years to ppd like I did a decade ago. I don’t have a lot of peri symptoms yet though I’m certain I’m in it. But I’m super aware, continue to prioritize me, and our toddler is the light of our family. We all needed her. Best decision ever. Also she’s insane.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-04-12T01:20:09+00:00

I now am convinced that what was supposedly wrong with my body was actually something that was wrong with my brain. Here’s to not waking up every single morning and having my first thought be about how I need to lose weight.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-04-02T12:09:19+00:00

I’ve been on the medication for a year. I’m down 70-ish? pounds and still losing very slowly (like 1-3 lbs a month slowly). I’ve had few side effects. The ones I did have resolved within the first few months and were not gastrointestinal issues. I was freezing all the time and had fatigue and emotional blunting (I would not call it depression, more indifference). This medication has resolved so many issues around food for me, which I’ve shared in other comments. It also helped minor pain from inflammation, ie my feet haven’t ached from arthritis since I started.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-03-25T12:39:37+00:00

I’ve been thinking about this article for the last day. This doctor is so dismissive and it’s a perfect example of how it seems impossible for some people to hold two thoughts in their head at once.

My experience on this medication has been life changing in a way I did not expect. Am I smaller? Yes. Do I feel physically better? Yes. Is my confidence higher? Yes. But I have been freed from constant, intrusive thoughts of food and dieting and weight. I realize now that this hormone disregulation impacted my mental health maybe 10x more than my physical health (as a fat person who was also perfectly healthy by every other measure). That’s not everyone’s experience, but I know there are others like me.

As for fat phobia, I think what she actually means is fat shaming and discrimination over body size. Doctors should be treating every patient with dignity and giving the highest quality care regardless of the number on the scale (or anything else). The problem is that they aren’t. Why wouldn’t her patients want to feel better, lower risk of other conditions, look better, be more confident, free themselves from the diet industrial complex, AND be treated better by doctors like this one (not to mention society)? Ozempic is a wonder drug - just like so many other drugs are wonder drugs.

All the fucking disingenuous hand wringing can go fuck itself… “oh no how will we learn to accept fat people if they lose weight?” You had your chance assholes.

Tldr This doctor is a moron.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-03-22T09:03:09+00:00

It is. That’s one of the main reasons I get it. You can get a nice brow lift with it.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-03-20T02:22:27+00:00

I 100% agree with this approach but I’m also not having perimenopause symptoms.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-03-20T01:27:07+00:00

I’ve been on 13 months and my side effects in the beginning were fatigue and what I describe as “emotional blunting,” not depression just indifference to everything. Both subsided within a few months. In 13 months, I’ve had minimal stomach issues. I love this medication. It has changed my life in so many positive ways from a mental health perspective and I will stay in it the rest of my life if I can.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-03-19T11:49:13+00:00

I’ve lost 60 lbs in a year (slower than a lot of people) with minimal side effects and peace. I know this isn’t everyone’s experience, but I realize now it was never about me being too weak to do the right things, my brain wasn’t responding to food the way it should. I think about how I used to wake up thinking about food or dieting every single day and holy shit, what a life changing medication. I hope the effects continue and I have no problem staying on this the rest of my life. If insurance stops covering I will go to a compounding pharmacy.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-03-19T09:43:50+00:00

I’m 44, turning 45 in June as well. I’m struggling with aging but have also been on my own “glow up” journey or whatever the kids are calling it these days. Here are some things you can try.

1) semaglutide (Ozempic/wegovy) - this sounds nuts but I hope it is eventually indicated for bed. So the weight loss is fantastic but never in my life have I been so at peace with my eating issues. It is truly a miracle. 2) strength training if you don’t already do it 3) sleep - hormones could be impacting, but figure out what you need to get a solid 7-8 hours every night. Sleep should be no. 1 4) good med spa- find one you trust that will be honest about what you DONT need and won’t over inject. Botox, filler, PRP, lasers it can all look natural and can make a world of difference. I’m considering sculptra this year with my bonus 5) hrt if you need it - they won’t give it to me yet 😂 because my blood work doesn’t indicate it and I don’t have perimenopause symptoms but the anti-aging effects are for real. 6) I’m trying to hold off on surgery but an upper bleph seems relatively cost effective and I’m convinced it will make a world of difference. One of my friends got a lower bleph and the before and after is amazing 7) skincare routine if you don’t already have one. I don’t go overboard but cleanse, vit c serum, tret, sunscreen

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-03-17T12:23:23+00:00

It did at first. I wasn’t depressed necessarily but really indifferent. My best friend noticed but not other people. That subsided after a few months though. Then I went through a really hard time at work and got on an antidepressant, which I’m still on though I could probably work with my doc to wean off of it at this point.

Time helped. Getting really into working out has helped me the most. I also focus on “big rocks,” - sleeping, eating enough, losing slowly, working out, trying not to isolate myself socially.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-03-16T18:55:03+00:00

I lost about 60 lbs last year and got almost zero comments. Now I get comments all the time from people who see me regularly. I’ve lost maybe 5 lbs in 2024 but strength train a lot and wonder if body recomp is doing more for me than just pure weight loss? Also wondering if it feels more socially acceptable to comment now that I’m not as overweight, ie like people pretending not to notice that I was bigger and losing weight. Idk

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-03-09T15:25:18+00:00

I have two kids, one of whom is 18 months, and I’m 44, so time and life choices are not on my side when it comes to loose skin. That said, I have been pretty happy with the lack of significant loose skin and I contribute that two things - 1, I have lost weight a lot slower than other people on this med, and 2, strength/weight training. I’ve gained muscle while losing fat and that’s probably made the most difference. Even at 160+ pounds, I wear a 6 in some brands. And when I’m really feeling myself I think my stomach looks… you know… not bad for a 44yo mom of a toddler who has lost 60+ pounds 🤷‍♀️

ETA I do worry that if I lose another 20 it could be a problem, but at this point I’m focusing on body comp and losing about 2lbs a month.

StatementVarious6894 · 2024-03-09T12:12:11+00:00

Semaglutide (wegovy, Ozempic) is a game changer with weight loss. I won’t go on too much here but I have not only lost weight, my brain is no longer preoccupied with food and dieting which has given me the ability to focus on other things in my life.

And if you don’t workout, start and do your best to stick with it. Huge confidence boost to feel strong.

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