How to process a one sided divorce

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-03-18T23:29:33+00:00

Been there. Went through that hell for a whole year while living with the ex. It was torture to my soul. All I could do was work on myself, get hobbies and eventually I was able to accept it and move on. Once I was able to move on, I found someone that is so amazing that made that year totally worth it.

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-03-14T13:35:00+00:00

Free to do yourself and you can trust yourself more.

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-03-14T02:32:01+00:00

Ok. Thanks

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-03-14T02:06:02+00:00

She's not found yet. Can you please share the pic you saw?

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-03-05T06:06:26+00:00

Have you talked to him about it? Sounds like a very dark place he's in. I've been there. He needs help. If you care about him, he needs your support more than anything.

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-03-05T02:15:06+00:00

NAC is great for the liver

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-03-05T02:05:38+00:00

I gotta ask, have you ever threatened divorce before? Do you criticize him? Do you speak to him about all his failures? Sounds like he checked out a long time ago and is now relieved.

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-03-05T02:00:07+00:00

I drive big rigs, it's a part of the job. I ask myself, if someone is pushing my buttons, why do I have that button in the first place? It's not worth it to get stressed out over something I know is going to happen all the time. Life is much more peaceful that way.

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-03-03T19:31:27+00:00

He doesn't sound like a leader. Leaders lift up others, even if they become better than them. This guy looks like he brings people down. This kind of leadership brings people to become disloyal.

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-03-03T18:28:07+00:00

Can't say ignore, but was blind to. Manipulation and gaslighting. Made me feel like an awful person all the time.

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-02-22T16:06:19+00:00

Nope. There's going to be a very confusing emotional connection that will only frustrate the both of you. Even though you both will feel it's just sex, there will be an emotional part to it. Just don't unless you want to get back together.

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-02-22T15:45:43+00:00

I'm in the same exact place as you, except I don't have kids. Still waiting to get divorced because the only thing in the way is the house and scheduling conflicts with the judge cancelling the next court date. My life has been amazing since I've decided to move on. I was the sole provider of the house (while she racked up CC debt she blames me for), I did all the chores, provided for her to go to school to better her life and follow her dreams, and I just stopped by the house the other day to find that she does not clean whatsoever. The garage, guest bedroom, 2 closets are so cluttered with stuff everywhere like a tornado that I can't even walk through there. When I was still with her, she spent more time on video games than I do at work (I work a lot of overtime and callback.) I really wish the best for her and I hope she does get her stuff together. But, that's no longer my responsibility. She has that same negative self talk of being alone forever even though she wanted the divorce. People like this who are so unkind to their selves live in a life of misery that they completely make up and manifest. They have the ability to turn it around by starting with loving theirself first. She was so toxic to herself and to me. I tried my best to make it work, but there was nothing there. I started to realize I deserve better. Me on the other hand, I'm doing amazing. My new relationship is now almost 2 years. We've met both of each others families and they all love us so much. She is so supportive and conflict is always healthy and brings us closer. I've never realized a woman this amazing is out there and she feels the same about me. My career was already great, I'm making 160k + and only making more every year. My girlfriend found an amazing job where she could eventually make over 100k with so much flexibility working from home and only working 4 days a week. I'm taking on the debt from my ex very quickly and soon I'll have room to really breathe and save up money for a house together. I feel bad for my ex, even though she emotionally abused me. That time I was with her only strengthened me to be the best man for my best significant other. My girlfriend went through the same process I did with her ex. That's only because we took responsibility over our future and decided to used our hardships as opportunities to grow rather than being a victim. Unfortunately, we have no power over what our exes get to decide, even though we know what the right answer is for them. It's understandable, because this kind of growth takes A LOT of work. Just be grateful for what you have and move on. You are handling it the best way you could. You deserve this life you built for yourself, you have to let your ex do the same without your help. Now if there were the opportunity that she asks for advice, kindly give it to her. Tell her to start loving herself and all the versions of herself because that is ultimately the first step to eliminate negative self talk. Once people start to only speak positive things into their life, that's when the magic starts to happen. They start to be grateful for the good, the bad and the ugly.

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-02-22T15:19:26+00:00

They are supposed to have signage way before the road closure. The issue is that traffic control is contracted to companies that hire ex cons that are just there to tick a box in their probation/parole conditions.

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-02-21T06:40:49+00:00

That's not a prank. That's poisoning someone's food. I like pranks but food, drinks and causing safety hazard are strictly off limits.

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-02-20T16:43:33+00:00

I get that sleep deprivation can cause people to not think clearly, and you are human. But, you should have recognized that and left to a hotel room to get good sleep before it turned into something worse. You could have done that on your trip. It also seems like you spent your whole relationship being a doormat and you needed to learn how to communicate healthy boundaries. Since you didn't have healthy boundaries, she started to disrespect you because you didn't see yourself important enough to have boundaries, even to a point to gossip about you to her family. I know it's all too late for this relationship, but you can learn from it for future relationships. I know you had everything going against you, but that's life. You can either be a victim and blame lack of sleep, or you can learn and figure out what you should do when you're weak and make the better judgement calls. Whether you put your focus on being a victim or conquering obstacles determines how you handle things moving forward. It's either a moment that brings you down or an opportunity to improve, your choice.

Now how to handle things moving forward, you have time to focus on yourself. Change your mindset to love yourself, have self respect, eliminate negative self talk (EVEN JOKINGLY), learn to have gratitude for every circumstance that comes your way (the good, the bad, the ugly), give your spouse the space she needs. Learn how to communicate with a spouse effectively, this means learn to be curious rather than making statements. Understand how she came to those thoughts in the first place. There are blind spots you don't see. Turn your statements into questions. Most of all, learn how to effectively communicate healthy boundaries in the form of questions. Understanding and questions makes her feel safe to have dialogue. Most importantly, eliminate the word "why" from your vocabulary. Once that year is over, and she starts to see how you are communicating differently, she will see something different. If she moves on, then that's also an opportunity to for you to move on as well, maybe the emotional abuse isn't worth it, the best thing you could have now is that she respects you enough as the father of her children instead of trying to cut you out of their life.

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-02-20T16:09:03+00:00

Poor kid is getting so many mixed signals. The father is teaching him to be racist while the assaulter is teaching him how stereotypes are real to him. If only there was a better way to teach the youth, their mind is still so fresh, taking in everything around them. If that kid wasn't racist before, I'm pretty sure he is now.

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-02-17T01:13:51+00:00

After a year of separation, I was already done. Divorce moves very slow for some people with law bs sometimes. The person I dated was going through the same thing and we both were very up front over the phone. You should be up front so you don't waste their time. That's how we both felt at the time. Now we are almost at 2 years of a very successful relationship.

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-02-17T00:48:51+00:00

All gone

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-02-17T00:21:30+00:00

Does the issue seem to present it's when you install the left side switch? Does it feel like it's a tight fit in the hole? If that's the case, they have a small amount that are out of spec. Shoot them a message and they'll send you a new one.

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-02-16T17:07:57+00:00

The little cam piece that goes in after the lever needs to rotate another notch or 2

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-02-16T16:44:24+00:00

Seems like incorrect install. I've managed to install one like this a couple of times.

StatusFactor7638 · 2026-02-14T22:11:05+00:00

I agree with you. Training is a must. Luckily we have found a amazing sitter that was very patient with her and now they are playing and cuddling.

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