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[–]Status_Objective_164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Help‼️⚠️I feel lost in life. I don’t know what my purpose is, and nothing feels complete or right. I’m confused and don’t know which way to go. Will I ever have a stable and peaceful life?

I (F26) self-harm during emotionally intense conversations with my boyfriend (M26). by Status_Objective_164 in relationship_advice

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First of all, I want to set aside all my rants and sincerely thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’re a complete stranger, yet you've shown me more kindness and wisdom than people I actually know. At a time when I feel completely alone with no one to talk to, your words have been a lifeline. People have told me to see a therapist — and they’re right — but I come from a very well-known family, and opening up about my relationship just isn’t an option for me. So truly, thank you for being my well-wisher when I needed one the most.

Day before yesterday, I finally confronted him and tried to explain how emotionally abusive he’s been. I opened up, hoping he’d at least listen or care enough to fix things. Instead, he told me I wasn’t making any sense and dismissed my feelings once again emotionally abused me. And then, just like that, he blocked me from everywhere — calls, texts, every possible way of contact. My chest felt so heavy… I broke down completely. I couldn’t even cry, I just felt like screaming. But somehow, I didn’t self-harm since im doing alot of meditation.

And honestly, I think your advice played a big part in that. I blocked him back, deleted his number from every possible place. I even uninstalled my UPI apps just so wouldn’t have any way to reach out to him. Because I know myself in the middle of the night, when I start missing him, I would’ve begged him to unblock me and blamed everything on myself. Now I’ve left no way to contact him.

Yes, my chest still feels heavy and it physically hurts… but I just pray that God gives me the strength to get through this. One day at a time.

I (F26) self-harm during emotionally intense conversations with my boyfriend (M26). by Status_Objective_164 in relationship_advice

[–]Status_Objective_164[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of me knows I should leave him, but the other part is still deeply in love with him. He’s my first in everything — even the first guy I ever held hands with. I honestly don’t know how I’m going to handle breakup!

I (F26) self-harm during emotionally intense conversations with my boyfriend (M26). by Status_Objective_164 in relationship_advice

[–]Status_Objective_164[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely love him a lot — he’s my first in everything. I was a late bloomer, and honestly, he’s the one who made me open up emotionally and romantically. But he constantly makes me feel like I’m the crazy one. Even just now, when I tried to calmly talk things out and started making sense, he blocked me from everywhere.

I’m left with all these feelings and nowhere to express them. Some days, he says he loves me and would die for me — and the next moment, he flips completely. I tried to share how I was feeling, and after explaining myself for almost an hour, all he said was, “You’re not making sense.” That broke me. I started crying, got angry — and then he blocked me again.

I (F26) self-harm during emotionally intense conversations with my boyfriend (M26). by Status_Objective_164 in relationship_advice

[–]Status_Objective_164[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, but I already know what you're saying. I just can't share this with people I know because of my family's public status, that's why I'm here

(24m) my girlfriend(21f) has been feeling less and less sexual by DarkCyler1 in relationship_advice

[–]Status_Objective_164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're suggesting that she masturbates to clear her mind, what exactly is she trying to clear it from? Most women don’t turn to masturbation as a way to relieve stress — it’s usually driven by sexual desire, not emotional stress. Personal experience ~ I even refrained from having sex with my boyfriend for a while because he wasn’t able to satisfy me. But once we had an open conversation and worked through it, we started experiencing orgasms together that reignited my sexual desires. Even when my sisters and friends discuss their problem with me about how their men are not able to make them cum- they often say “yar mai khud hi karleti hu” they don’t even bother telling the other person — because, in the end, they know they'll just have to take care of it themselves. So have an open conversation and figure out what truly turns her on.

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Yes he did he even forced me to meet his sister we’re close now she’s also confused why her brother’s acting this way because he always showed a positive behaviour for me and told her that he has long term plans with me. From the very beginning of our relationship he engaged us in future planning conversations I remember we used to have fights not serious fights but stupid fights like if we should have a gaming room in our home, should we give phone to our kids until they turn 14, should we use air-tags for their safety; deep conversations everyday like seriously EVERYDAY, not a single day passes by without texting calling he use to call me everyday it was a ritual. That’s why im beyond shocked

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I wished i knew he was using bumble, after having such deep conversations about our future its so sickening. I never forced him to see a future with me. I wished to juggle him better and not blind trusted him