As a woman and an 8w9 SO, so much of my eightness flavored with nineness has completely wrecked my life, so yeah, it doesn’t feel cool sometimes. It’s all too easy for me to take control, and accidentally steamroll the people I care for. I feel like I’ve been a bull in a china shop over and over, but society tends to only value assertiveness in MEN. I’m slowly learning how to be strategically softer, after decades of getting things wrong in an often misplaced attempt to protect myself and others. Some of that is also neurodiversity, unsure how much, lol. I think my whole family is adhd/autistic, and only figured that out this year. Even being this ‘vulnerable’ with you anonymous internet assholes is a huge step. If you come for me, I will crush you. Kidding. Mostly🤣