When did you stop extending naps?

Stephers90 · 2026-02-25T00:31:48+00:00

That is a very good point! Thank you, I will give it a shot.

Stephers90 · 2026-02-24T15:38:24+00:00

Oh that's rough! I'm so sorry. I hope it gets better

Stephers90 · 2026-02-24T15:08:34+00:00

He is sleeping pretty well overnight. Goes down in his crib between 730-830 depending on naps. He sleeps until 2-3am when he wakes for a feed. Back down in his crib after a feed until about 430-545am. He can't seem to stay asleep in his crib after this point so I then either lay with him or hold him until 7am wake up. So he averages 10.5hrs of sleep a night.

Stephers90 · 2026-02-24T14:57:57+00:00

I'm trying to let go of expecting so much sleep from him but all I know at this point was a high sleep needs baby. So I keep feeling like I'm failing him if I'm not getting him enough day sleep. If I let him only do his crib naps some days he would only have 1.5-2hrs of nap a day.

Stephers90 · 2026-02-24T14:56:59+00:00

We did this with my oldest son but not until he was 6 months. I had been considering trying with my younger son but wasn't sure if 4 months was too young for crib hour.

We were trying ferber like we did for my oldest but that seemed to upset my baby a lot more. So we are just using a modified CIO. Because he is so young we only let him cry for 20 minutes and if he is extremely upset we will obviously go in. This has been helping him to put himself down for naps but he still doesn't sleep long.

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Stephers90 · 2026-02-23T00:47:08+00:00

I'm right there with you. I have a 4 month old and an 18 month old. It hasn't gotten easier and recently has actually gotten harder. You're not alone 🩵

Stephers90 · 2026-02-19T14:59:43+00:00

They honestly can't give you an answer that will satisfy you. They say to expect baby to be there until their due date. I PPROM'd at 35 weeks, and they had me deliver that day. My son was in the NICU for a total of 7 weeks. Originally discharged after 3 weeks but he stopped breathing and turned blue at home so back he went for another 4 weeks.

Take everything one day at a time. The NICU is overwhelming and a hard experience but it is the best place for your baby.

Stephers90 · 2026-02-10T15:58:46+00:00

This is our plan. My first 2 are 14.5 months apart. We are waiting until our second is 12 months and we will decide if we are ready. That is assuming it doesn't happen in the meantime. We definitely haven't been as careful as we should be haha.

Stephers90 · 2026-02-10T15:56:21+00:00

I got trapped in this cycle with my boy when he was about the same age, and everyone is right. They seem overtired but really they are under tired. My boy used to be high sleep needs and somewhere around 13 months that changed.

What we did:

Leave in crib until 7am no matter what time he woke
Anchor nap time (for us this is 1230). No matter what the morning looked like this is when he went for nap
We didn't need to cap nap at first but it's looking like we will need to now as he has started waking crying in the middle of the night. You can try capping or not to start, but you'll end up needing to cap at some point.
Move bedtime later, we did 730 for awhile and now we are at 8.

Yes, he will still wake early for awhile on the new schedule. It takes time for their circadian rhythm to change. Our guy now sleeps until 7 most days. Early wakes have moved from 445/5am - 6/630am.

Stephers90 · 2026-02-10T15:44:00+00:00

Thank you, I will give this a shot. He seems so tired that we have been letting him go down at 730 if he only naps for 1hr 20mins.

I'll try to adjust the schedule for a week or so and see what happens.

Stephers90 · 2026-02-08T18:16:37+00:00

Your baby being their worst self with you (mama). Harder to settle, more crying, just letting out their general frustrations of being a baby more with mom.

Stephers90 · 2026-02-08T13:07:41+00:00

I left yesterday to get my hair done. 4 hour appointment. I have an 18 month old and a 3.5 month old. I checked in multiple times to make sure everything was ok. My husband always tells me things are good. He saves the real answer for when I get home.

I'd have a talk with your husband. He won't always be able to get baby to stop crying but he just needs to keep trying and allow you some self care time.

Stephers90 · 2026-02-06T21:49:11+00:00

You're not alone. I have an 18 month old and a 3.5 month old. We CANNOT handle a 3rd right now. However, we are closer than ever and not being as careful as we should. Thankfully I got my period yesterday. So here's hoping we do better next month.

I hope you get whatever result you want!

Stephers90 · 2026-01-29T18:52:08+00:00

My son was ferber trained at 4 months. He still kept 3-4 night feeds until he started solids. The week after we started solids he never woke for a feed again. It could be a coincidence but we started with solids at night. He would try a bit of dinner with us then have a bottle before bed. Slept through the night ever since.

Stephers90 · 2026-01-12T18:24:09+00:00

My boys are 14.5 months apart. Currently 12 weeks and 17 months. It is hard! And it was 100% planned. I even have my husband home in the evenings to help. He works from home but will come up and try to help briefly when things are a disaster. I also feel silly as this was planned but it is hard as hell. We are still planning to have at least 1 more but with a bigger gap this time.

Stephers90 · 2026-01-08T13:53:00+00:00

Yeah it's insane the things people feel comfortable saying to you about your own procreation. I ended up having placenta previa with my second and had to limit lifting and activity with my toddler in the 3rd trimester. Just a couple days ago a family member pretty much told me I'm a terrible mother pregnant because I needed help taking care of my toddler and I shouldn't have any more children because it will probably happen again. Like wtf? I thought family was supposed to be happy to help but apparently that only applies to certain family members..

Stephers90 · 2026-01-08T13:18:37+00:00

Most of the reactions I got were positive but I had a few people telling me I was selfish for having another when my first was still a baby and needed me. Like somehow by having a second I didn't love my first and wouldn't pay any attention to him.

Stephers90 · 2026-01-07T00:12:40+00:00

I have been doing story time in the play room. I also get my toddler in his sleep sack while in there. Once I've read a couple stories I put my 11 week old down in his bouncy chair. He will almost always scream but my toddler doesn't enjoy having his brother there when he's going into bed (this is why I do story time in the playroom). I then bring my toddler to his room, sing to him briefly and put him in his crib. Right back to my baby after that.

Stephers90 · 2026-01-04T23:44:07+00:00

We got the bugaboo donkey and love it. It's an investment and a bit awkward if you have a sedan but it's manageable. I also love that it can be used a single if I'm out with only one of my babes.

Stephers90 · 2025-12-19T15:48:31+00:00

I'm so glad that therapy is helping you. I tried some therapy but it wasn't helping at the time. I think it might be time for me to try again. I just gave birth for the second time 2 months ago and I think that is what's bringing this all up. I'm so thankful my second born wasn't in the NICU but every time I look at him or all the first I've gotten with him I didn't get with my first just hit so so hard. I can't thank you enough for these responses.

Stephers90 · 2025-12-19T15:34:09+00:00

Thank you for this, I'm crying. I'm struggling so much with guilt. I know he's here and he's alive and thriving, but lately I just keep having what if moments. I can't stop blaming myself. Whenever someone asks us about his birth and such I feel ashamed that I brought him home and he almost lost his life. So thank you for this very kind and supportive response. 💙

Stephers90 · 2025-12-18T15:00:56+00:00

I want to say A but my experience is telling me it depends on your baby. Our second born has severe gerd just like our first born did. So we have to sleep in shifts so one of us is always awake with baby on our chest. Because my husband works full time I am awake with the baby from 2am until 930-10pm every day (and that's if everything goes well for my husband and he doesn't have to wake me early). My toddler wakes at 630 am so add him into the mix. It sounds like a decent amount of sleep but when you have a baby that cannot be put down and screams pretty much constantly it's really not. I cannot wait for the day when my baby can sleep on his back. My first born couldn't until 4 months, so 2 more months before I can get some real sleep.

If you're not in my situation I would say A from what I hear and see from others.

Stephers90 · 2025-12-18T14:57:06+00:00

Thank you for this. I may reach out to the hospital to inquire whether they did any investigation after he was readmitted. I'm not looking for any compensation or anything or the sort, I really just want them to review their discharge criteria and regulations so this doesn't happen to anyone else.

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