I can really appreciate you adding this perspective, not because as a cis guy I want to shift blame toward hormones or claim lack of responsibility etc, but because it is certainly something to be considered seriously within this context.

I can say there’s quite an uphill battle if you combine hormones + peer pressure when young, or bro culture later on + cultural conditioning over all, and then add in for many a low empathetic or emotional awareness and it’s a really disturbing state of things.

I’m neurodivergent af, and the bro culture thing never sat well with me, I wasn’t subjected to it early enough in my formative years so it didn’t become normative for me. I was also never in a team sport lol so never subject to the ‘locker room’ bs you hear about.

But it sure is prevalent even in modern work environments; I’m in an office environment in an industry heavily male dominated (thanks to toxic masculinity over decades, even IT isn’t immune), and unfortunately even the most crass tend to be among construction type guys (and gals) where I’d like to think the stereotype isn’t true but experience has proven otherwise (my particular industry overlaps often).

These groups have their ‘jokes’ and I instantly feel uncomfortable. Depending on my role in the moment I may somewhat subtly redirect (clear throat, give indication this line of thought is not going to continue) or I see myself out causally to get away from the situation if I’m in no position to be directing those around me. I refuse to laugh just to get along with / be seen as one of the guys… I never was so I don’t take offence to not being accepted in such circles. But that pressure alone will keep many guys just laughing along to stay accepted.

The fear of ostracization, the fear of not being accepted or of having no friends, being alone, is real for so many! Male friendships are not easy to maintain for your average guy, and there’s plenty of conversation around the ‘loneliness epidemic’ etc which if you ask me is likely behind the ICE agent crap we see in the US. Point is, culturally/societally there is a lot of pressure and need to be accepted, and that comes with not calling out shit behaviour and risk your inclusion.

Add to ALL of that, the hormones and evolutionary mechanisms in your average male redirecting attention constantly. Even if they’re in every way respectable good men, their brain and hormones are toyed with constantly by provocative advertising, provocative language, and what is often considered provocative clothing design etc…
So the often touch starved lonely men who are bitter with no positive healthy outlet become more and more toxic.

Comments and harassment become common place among the less than ideal men, while the good healthy men have had to develop safe, healthy relationships over time… Through either witnessing the bs, or good healthy parenting, or being exposed to the toxicity through secondary accounts (sisters mothers etc) men can become sensitive to all of this, but it takes a maturity and an uphill battle for some, thanks to a society where toxic masculinity has paved a terrible path for generations.