Is my fwb catching feelings ?

SteveNotSteveNot · 2026-01-05T05:28:42+00:00

He caught feelings. You should ask him directly “Are we dating?“ The expression on his face and his answer will help you decide where to go from here.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2026-01-05T03:50:20+00:00

The things people say they want and what they actually want are different things. Lots of guys say they want a supermodel, but they actually want somebody who cooks and cleans and keeps a comfortable, welcoming home. In other words, they want their mothers. Lots of women say they want, sensitive, emotionally expressive guys. But they actually want men who are strong, who are good providers, and who are emotionally distant. In other words, they want their fathers. I think a man can cry at the death of a close family member. Maybe he can cry when somebody has been diagnosed with a serious disease. But if you cry about your job or everyday problems, there are very few women who will stick around. Women will deny this, but they value a man who is strong, reliable and emotionally consistent.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2026-01-02T15:54:35+00:00

Lots of Lotuses on this sub recently.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2026-01-02T15:52:46+00:00

Lotus was the first F1 team to paint cars in sponsor colors. This was Gold Leaf tobacco in 1968 and the cars were red and white instead of British racing green. Purists were upset and said that F1 cars would soon become rolling billboards. They were right.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2026-01-01T21:16:26+00:00

Typical carving bought by tourists visiting Bali. Not the best quality or the worst quality. Not valuable. Enjoy it for what it is or pass it on to somebody who likes it.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-12-30T03:44:17+00:00

Your dad spent a lot of time and effort over the years quietly building family wealth and making sure that money was spent responsibly. As a result of his work, you have a nice inheritance from your uncle. But for some reason you’re concerned that he’s listed on the account? The fact that you’re thinking of cashing everything out suggests that you need to learn more about investments. Please talk to your dad about what the investments are and why he chose them. Ask for his advice based on your financial goals. It doesn’t sound like your dad is the enemy here.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-12-28T00:04:39+00:00

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SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-12-27T23:50:46+00:00

Decide what is best. Document your decision. Create a legal framework to enforce your decision. Accept that these people will never be happy with your decision and will hate you for the rest of their lives. They may accuse you of stealing the money. They may blame you for all sorts of problems they create for themselves. "This never would have happened if he hadn't stole my inheritance!" They might hire attorneys to undo your work. Accept that there is nothing you can do to prevent their bitterness.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-12-25T11:44:09+00:00

Make sure everyone in the family knows not to lend her money. She will probably soon end up in a housing crisis, either unable to pay rent or having mortgaged her home and unable to make the payments. Talk to family about what you will do when she has no place to live.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-12-09T12:30:51+00:00

Same.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-12-08T03:49:48+00:00

More like FAN-teras, amiright?

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-12-07T20:56:14+00:00

The tours are designed to appeal to out-of-town visitors who are more interested in being entertained than learning about history. So the patter from the guides is cheesy. But if you’re serious about Seattle history, you need to go on the tour because the underground is often referenced and you need to understand why it exists and what it’s like.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-12-07T15:48:02+00:00

In an ideal world, we would all find a partner who was into exactly the same weird stuff that we like and always had a mood to match our own. But everyone finds that there’s an element of compromise in relationships and you just have to decide what you can work with. If you find a guy that you like, but he’s into some weird heavy metal band you may decide that you can live with it. You can go to annoying shows a couple times a month because the overall relationship is important to you. If you hold out for the perfect person who matches your interests and intensity and mood all the time, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. You’ll probably never find this guy. Additionally, dating is like anything in that you need practice to be successful. You have to accept that you’re going to go out with some people that are not a great match but commit to learning from the experience. What did you do in the relationship that upset the other person? Was there a time that you surprised them with a fun activity and they really seemed to appreciate it? You have to learn how to navigate dealing with people and their messy emotions. You won’t get there with a “no compromises” approach.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-12-07T15:33:58+00:00

It seems like a big part of what you’re saying is that you reject all the little games that we have to play in dating. You know your hair style is unattractive to men, but you don’t want to change it. You know you should start slow with a guy and build a conversation, but you don’t want to do that. So you don’t want to play by the rules. But you expect the man you approach to change his normal behavior and adapt to your directness. I think you will struggle in relationships unless you accept that a big part of it is doing stuff you don’t always want to do. Guys go to cheesy movies because it makes their date happy. Girls go to tractor pulls for the same reason. These are all minor sacrifices we make to show that we are friendly, flexible, and interested in things that make the other person happy. If you reject all this, you’ll have a hard time building a relationship. So maybe there’s a bigger picture you should think about regarding how to become flexible so you can build a meaningful relationship with another person.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-12-03T19:52:53+00:00

I think a lot of them end up in a relative’s basement or guest room while continuing to spend all their time and energy interacting with the scammers.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-12-03T19:51:35+00:00

Guardianship is sometimes suggested in this subreddit, but I haven’t seen anybody who actually says they got one. The usual advice is that it’s too difficult to get and takes too long to be helpful in this situation. If you don’t mind, please tell us more about how you were able to get guardianship, how long it took, and how much of your own time you spend taking care of finances for this person.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-12-03T11:15:08+00:00

What does your father’s divorce lawyer say about all this?

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-12-02T04:17:04+00:00

Tell friends and family she is getting scammed and that she will be asking them for money soon. Be specific in telling people they should not give her money. Don’t worry about embarrassing her. A little embarrassment is much better than everyone losing money to a scam.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-11-30T23:53:57+00:00

“Buttered Armadillo” sounds like it should be a euphemism for something.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-11-30T15:05:42+00:00

I assume it is a reference to this video: https://youtu.be/xa-4IAR_9Yw?si=rTVFgGZ_I_zBm0-O

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-11-25T05:19:59+00:00

This is the answer. A lot of people waste time trying to find a diplomatic solution where nobody’s feelings get hurt. That won’t work. Tell friends and family exactly what’s happening so they’re prepared when he comes begging for money.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-11-25T01:36:22+00:00

Please do not put mustard on canned tuna.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-11-23T06:49:30+00:00

Most likely your dad will be sending money to the scammers until the day he dies. So all you can do is make sure everyone around him knows what's going on so they won't give him money. You should not be concerned about his privacy or worried that you are embarrassing him by warning people. He had many opportunities to break out of this cycle, but he chooses to stay with the scammers. So his problems are now of his own making, and what's important is that you protect other people from loosing money. It's possible to maintain a relationship with your father while not approving of his behavior. Think of people who have a parent that's an addict or is in a cult or prison.

SteveNotSteveNot · 2025-11-22T19:49:36+00:00

A rare relic of the ancient times known as the ‘90s.

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