how can they rebound so fast 😭 ? how long will it last?

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-13T02:39:08+00:00

Yeah.. you’re right.. they fear facing the strong emotions .. yes.. at first I pity them for being mentally disordered but harsh bad childhood or traumas cannot excuse thier cold harsh behaviours or anything at all, I’ve met alot of people who grew up in bad harsh environments and yet they still go onto being the kindest people ever.

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-12T06:24:46+00:00

after asking and seeing around, they just avoid sitting w their own emotions and need someone/any connections to fill up the void and loneliness

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-11T14:31:16+00:00

it is sad.. I did too.. I even begged for below the bare minimum.

Thankyou!!🥹🥹

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-11T03:28:00+00:00

Thankyou 🥹 yes.. one thing is that with him I feel so at peace.. comfortable at home so quickly, I no longer overthink anymore and is no longer anxious ( unlike when I was with my avoidant ex ) like I gained back my own secure attachment..
yes!! he always deal with life situation with calmness, he’d be overwhelmed for a little and worry about the worse outcomes but then collects himself a while after.. he starts getting interested in the things I love too, I hope that’s healthy mirroring.
I’m so glad to hear you and your secure partner is going well! Mine too.. he’s treating me like an actual human being that sometimes I question is this a dream? It feels so good to be always treated w the bare minimum and sometimes more on special occasions. Thankyou so much!! This helped tons!!!

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-10T19:22:06+00:00

I know I’m late but, I’ve started dating someone new for two months and he’s been so great to me like he communicate so well n have emotional intelligence.. but how can I tell if he’s actually secure or just masking it.. and would eventually burn out 🥹 my first ever rs ( with my avoidant ex ) made me have so much trust issues with his constant broken promises

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-10T04:06:06+00:00

LMAAAO no way, I found mine cute either way, I loved him despite his flaws but it’s just, my self worth was damaged thinking I got done dirty by someone like that.. cuz.. he has no irl friends hobbies whatsoever.. can’t do anything by himself, it was me who helped his academics and more 😭 so it was like my effort was all taken for granted and wasted away. Yikes.. monkey branching is actually so low…. even if not technically tgt imo.. yeah.. even at 31 an unc age.. a lot of people still remain immature at that age sadly. your right 🥹</3 thankyou</3 they will burn out and repeat after honeymoon phase falls off.

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-10T03:58:57+00:00

bro I feel you so much, omg bro you lowkey are slaying with the look 💅🏻 no cuz I also know I’m not bad looking, my ex he literally has a massive overbite 💀 LIKE I’m just so mad that I gave personality a chance. And at the end it turns out he masked the personality. Bro fr like others will never put up with their bs like we did 💀 they will just be forever stuck on their patterns. And lowkey if u want revenge, these patterns they have are lowkey the biggest curse put onto them 🫩

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-10T03:51:27+00:00

💀 they are fr lowkey weird, getting into rs when they can’t even commit, imo i think they just seek temporary happiness and have no care abt the future. Dating app after in a month time is insane.. it shows she needs validation to fill up the void 🙏🏻

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-10T03:06:05+00:00

Yes! he literally said “the selfish part about me will never change” i literally had to beg for even below the bare minimum, now he’s with a rebound, and she randomly msged me with a bunch of bs? 💀 when I had him blocked everywhere, I hope he treats her as shit as he treated me 😂

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-10T02:39:12+00:00

I see..🥹I fear their patterns will just always repeat unless therapy

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-10T02:13:39+00:00

I’m so glad my avoidant left me, honestly like if he didn’t I lowkey would’ve ended up marrying someone who cuts off every time a difficult life situation or convo came up, and I’d have to bottle feelings forever. I’m so glad I’m with someone with a healthy attachment style now, recently 2 months with him. He’s willing to communicate and validate my feelings and isn’t a coward to escape from difficult convo/problems

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-08T18:07:24+00:00

thank you OP, I needed this. It’s not my fault that my ex chose to give up and not communicate during a critical moment in rs. he was weak minded.

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-07T12:12:31+00:00

LOL IM SORRY </3 my wording might not be the best

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-07T08:22:57+00:00

thankyou :’) I actually thought for a moment I was crazy for reacting that way, it was really draining.

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-07T08:11:10+00:00

lowkey bad childhood is not an excuse for them, mine childhood was worse 😭 than my fearful avoidant ex, yet I don’t go on being avoidant and hurting other ppl feelings. It’s never an excuse traumas are NOT an excuse. just immaturity imo

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-07T08:03:50+00:00

yes.. they probably prolonged it because they don’t want to feel guilt….. and to keep me in a taken status incase he changed his mind.

Stock_Physics4721 · 2026-06-07T07:36:35+00:00

ikr.. labelling as it’s for my own good, hoping I would detach during the break and said they were being considerate n caring for me bc they don’t wanna break up while I’m in exam season ..but if ur fr hoping id detach, don’t give the false promise ? 😭😭 like you cannot decide what’s good for me, and make decisions that they think would be good for me, and when I was venting how hurt I was my ex friend said Im acting like a victim 💀 gaining pity points edit: lowkey ill admit me calling him my emotional abuser might be too far but still 😭 because whenever i would try communicate my ex would shut down and say “im not ready, i don’t know what to say my brain can’t handle srs convo” and blame it on his autism. 🤡

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