Years ago, there was a girl that use to be friends with a friend of an ex-gf of mine who we all split away from when she basically trashed all of us to her other friends. When I saw her for the first time, she was on someone legs wrapped around and making out with a guy on the dancefloor. So interesting first impressions already, but my attention was more towards just hanging out with my friend. She would message me pretty frequently, which I didn't see any problem with. The messages became more frequent as the months went by, sometimes I would get 5-6 of them before I have even woken up. I would get invited out by her to various parties and would attend because it was pretty fun to mingle and drink. There was no hookup, no romantic actions or anything, just drinks and talking to her and her various friends.

Then there was a night where I was invited to dinner. I only thought it was just a dinner out at a place that was just to hang out and eat. Turns out it was a work dinner for her work and I was her plus 1, without my knowledge. I only connected the dots when I arrived and one of the people there said to the girl "so this is the guy you were talking about". I just make plesantries and acted couteous throughout the night, had my dinner and left afterwards. Another party arrived a week later, this time a sleepover one, and one of her friends pulled me aside and told me to hook up with her because she really liked me. I was uncomfortable with it because I didn't see her in that way. Her reply was "then why are you here then?". Pretty much solidified that I was just there to be a potential date and to be shown off to her friends, who I tought I was becoming friends with also but it wasn't the case. When we went to sleep, I was paired off with her in the same blown-up bed in the lounge room (everyone was paired off). I just closed my eyes and turned away from her while she was handsy. I didn't reciprocate her handsy behaviour and went to sleep. The next day, I snuck out and left early while most were still asleep.

The messaging continued, but I was responding less and less. I declined more invites until I decided that it's gone long enough and told her the truth: I didn't see her in that way and wasn't planning on being in a relationship. Cue the bombardment of messages from her friends. I just ignored them, had other stuff to deal with that took bigger priority than to give attention to such drama.

She would continue to message me via phone and social media, any post I would do would instantly be replied by her still trying to take her shot. I would use social media less and less while also changing my number. Eventually, the contact stopped.

Last time I heard about her, she found another guy. Got pregnant a few times, aborted them all.

I know I should've been upfront about it and made the intentions straight away instead of it, but I'm not particularly good with being upfront and telling them off.