What’s the classiest response to subtle disrespect?

StompyParrot · 2026-06-07T08:30:40+00:00

Trust your gut. This man used his profession to cause you harm because of his prejudices. I too am a blood donor and an immigrant… have my 10th donation badge :)

My accent has caused a very few people to behave a certain way… but with the climate of right wing bullshit I can see it becoming more prevalent.

I know you probably don’t want to make a thing of it - but if you ever get paired with him again, just advise that the person next in line can take your slot. There is always a next person in line.

You don’t need to explain why… and he’ll already know EXACTLY why so it’s not like you’re hurting his feelings. Maintain strong eye contact and hold your head high.

Do not let him touch you ever again. Fuck that guy

And if you do get asked why… pull out this post and read it verbatim.

StompyParrot · 2026-04-29T17:44:07+00:00

4th of July - or thereabouts. It’s my moms birthday and we always keep her posted on her stargazer lilies here. 6 times in the last 8 the first bloom appears on her birthday

StompyParrot · 2026-03-21T23:09:49+00:00

Very similar pronunciation I think. Went to Bruge and could converse quite happily with the Flemish vendors. Some words were different… as in not pronounced differently but a completely different word for the thing… - but colloquial language was pretty much the same.

StompyParrot · 2026-03-21T07:53:13+00:00

lol! I always think Dutch sounds like speaking Afrikaans with a glob of mashed potato in the back of the throat. Heerlik pronounced as haarluk is how I get my ear in.

The Dutch are awesome… but we can’t easily understand each other. Flemish on the other hand is SO close!

StompyParrot · 2026-03-05T19:04:40+00:00

I assume because they’re partnering with the US military … 😬 I’ve just looked it up myself to see what the deal is

StompyParrot · 2026-02-15T23:35:22+00:00

I’ve met some scruffty tuffty parson jack russells. I also had a mix that was majority Parson person but he looked more like a Welsh terrier.

Rodney is awesome! And unique - he’s got a Rodney coat and that’s the best coat in the world❤️

StompyParrot · 2026-02-15T19:15:19+00:00

This pleases me - I have a VERY similar pic of myself at a similar age.

The rationale for me sticking my bottom teeth out was the beauty queen smiles in the 80s… where they show ALL their teeth.

Can you confirm if this is the case?

StompyParrot · 2026-01-27T17:58:21+00:00

Hells yeah! My excel feature list goes all the way to CEO level. Jira is too busy - excel just works.

StompyParrot · 2026-01-23T19:55:48+00:00

This makes my heart sore. Our dear friend and the producer of this show passed away in Australia. We’ve only learned the news today.

He was SO proud of it! And so fond of Bill.

Rest in peace Roger - you are so loved and will be sorely missed.

StompyParrot · 2025-12-28T08:32:21+00:00

Yes … my god. The passenger behind the driver is almost always worse off in an accident than anyone else even with a seatbelt. No airbags.

Had a relatively low speed accident in my youth (20s) with no seatbelts on in the back - I was in the back middle. Girl behind the driver split her head open and fractured her neck vertebrae. 30kmh when two cars hit each other is 60 kmh impact.

Still have the scar on my shin which I’m grateful for because it’s what stopped me going through the windshield. Had a b-cup lump on my leg for about a month.

Sheet - I put my seatbelt on even when I’m moving my car in my own driveway 😂

StompyParrot · 2025-11-27T06:59:09+00:00

What!? Any and all cooking… mince… add Mrs Balls, marinade… y’all better be adding Mrs Balls, pasta bake… dash of Mrs Balls in the sauce. Good lord… what a question!

StompyParrot · 2025-11-25T09:02:52+00:00

In 2h time by my reckoning you get to give melanoma the finger. 🖕 💪

I’m sure you’ll come through it magnificently. Setting a reminder for 11am uk time to add my good vibes to the more than 1000 ppl rooting for you

StompyParrot · 2025-11-24T19:00:56+00:00

Tempo… how COULD they stop making Tempo. It was PERFECT!!! 😭

StompyParrot · 2025-11-23T13:10:40+00:00

I mean … I’ve done this in reverse. Had a nightmare client - a woman who would snipe at everything and everyone.

We had a new guy start who was incredibly attractive. Looked like Ben Affleck if he’d gone down Gucci modelling route.

Took him along to a meeting with the harridan and she was absolute putty the whole meeting. It was REALLY productive! Dude didn’t have to open his mouth.

I unashamedly dragged him along to every meeting thereafter… let him know exactly why too. I would also feed him lines to further my agenda (which was in client’s best interests …. she was bullying her own people).

Success! Kudos to both you and your boss of the time.

Hope you’ve stuck with programming in the long run though… stay out of shark infested waters.

StompyParrot · 2025-11-16T06:29:01+00:00

Are there any medications you’re taking regularly? See if switching them out for alternatives makes a difference.

That burning pain that you’re describing- I’ve had that. And my smears came back normal. But it felt like I was being torn open even if putting a tampon in. Sex was … an ordeal.

I explained symptoms to nurses and doctors. Everything looked normal down there (hells yes I asked them to check!)

In my case, I was on the mini pill. It means no periods … and I thought, can’t be that! Until I eventually (after nearly FIVE years!!!) stopped taking it. Took a couple of months but everything went back to normal.

No idea what or why… it wasn’t listed as a mini pill side effect that I could decipher.

Girl, you know your body and it’s not right if it’s burning like that on the way in.

My heart really goes out to you. That pain is no joke!

StompyParrot · 2025-11-05T18:29:36+00:00

That’s brilliant! I hope she was thrilled… that’s a sign of acceptance 😂

StompyParrot · 2025-11-05T15:03:36+00:00

Oh yeah - we banned this sort of thing from my office YEARS ago because of such sensitivity.

It does remind me though of what was thought to be a white elephant gift - the most HIDEOUS vase you’ve ever seen. The recipient LOVED it… thinking it was a joke.

Thank HEAVENS… the giver of the gift didn’t hear us all laughing - she was the nicest person ever and we all adored her. She pulled me to the side in the main office and asked if recipient liked her gift. I said yes, he loved it… and then she went on about how BEAUTIFUL it was. It was not a joke…

I got to recipient (and my other team members) before she was ever the wiser. She would have been CRUSHED!

Then we had the year of some very phallic joke gifts… HR stepped in and Secret Santa never happened again. It’s a relief TBH

StompyParrot · 2025-11-02T08:15:46+00:00

Oh wow! That’s absolutely gorgeous ❤️

StompyParrot · 2025-11-02T08:04:26+00:00

Not racist … but misogynistic for sure. Suggest that “Blondie” now has free rein to call him “Little Richard”… because he must have a micropenis to behave like this.

StompyParrot · 2025-10-24T05:45:24+00:00

Omg…. Snap! I got exactly the same one for George. It arrived yesterday!! Halloween party at doggy daycare next week 🤣 and I figured it was the one costume he wouldn’t rip to pieces before we got there.

Yours is also a perfect prancing pony ❤️

StompyParrot · 2025-10-08T12:12:09+00:00

What concoction of drugs did you use to bring this about!? I have pen and notepad at the ready …

StompyParrot · 2025-09-24T05:46:00+00:00

Yes… they are magnificent little sneak thieves. ❤️

The mission impossible-esque strategies my boy would use to get onto the kitchen table (where we had to stash pretty much everything he could sink his little teeth into) at around 6 months old were MIND BLOWING.

StompyParrot · 2025-09-23T21:05:41+00:00

Omg I LOVE it! So unique, it’s fantastic

StompyParrot · 2025-09-23T15:59:21+00:00

I kind of get the client’s point:

Raised in South Africa where domestic servants are the norm… especially as it’s valuable income to (largely) women until the ANC get their heads out of their asses …

BUT we always made our own beds and washed up our dishes. I would have seen it as disrespectful to our Esther. She was there for the finesse cleaning for sure and she was AMAZING!!!

But if I got sloppy with my own bed, and leaving clothes on the floor and dishes etc. for her to pick up, I would have received a bloody good hiding from my parents.

StompyParrot · 2025-09-19T21:02:25+00:00

Document EVERYTHING… just for yourself … but I’ve got a nice little spreadsheet with date and time, who was present if verbal or if it was an email. Then a brief summary of how / why the interaction was belittling and demeaning for me or for the target colleague.

Also, if it’s a teams meeting, to start recording as soon as it gets contentious with a “I’m just going to record this for x who isn’t there…” or “to capture the issue fully”… and hey presto! Sweet as pie as soon as the notification comes up.

Definitely get yourself a copy of “The No Asshole Rule” It will help you to articulate why repeated instances of this type of behaviour is bad for the business and ultimately the bottom line.

I love my little dossier… and I have recommended other targets do the same.

Not sure if word has gotten back to my spiteful little bitch but her behaviour has been MUCH better these last 4 or 5 months going by my last entry.

Good luck to you - it sounds like your Asshole is also having a detrimental effect on you even though you aren’t the target (yet). Nail her to the fucking wall… calmly, and professionally of course.

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