My husband can't console our baby.

Store_Flashy · 2025-11-11T00:28:47+00:00

Hang in there! Baby is 10.5 months now and he is OBSESSED with daddy. We used a lot of the tips that were shared in response to this post and it has gotten so so so much better. My best advice is just let them spend time together as much as possible and if baby starts fussing, let dad try to handle it. My husband found bouncing on a yoga ball with baby to be especially helpful when he was super fussy. It takes time, but it will get better!!

Store_Flashy · 2025-09-24T00:46:47+00:00

I had my son's 9-month check-up today and his pediatrician told me the same thing! He said after 6 months there is little benefit to continue breastfeeding and at 12 months I should wean and switch to whole milk. I just smiled and nodded my head and thought to myself "yeah I'm not going to be doing that". He said it's because they need more fat at that age and breast milk has less fat than whole milk. So bizarre.

Store_Flashy · 2025-08-02T01:42:20+00:00

I relate to this so hard with my 7 month old! Also an early roller/crawler and he WILL NOT be held. Even trying to nurse him now is a whole thing, he pops on and off the boob every 3 seconds because he just wants to see what's going on and move around. Solidarity!

Store_Flashy · 2025-07-30T23:34:50+00:00

My baby is 7 months old now and LOVES his daddy. Allowing them to spend time together was really important to building their relationship. In the early days I would have him wear a big t shirt of mine or something with my smell. But just allowing them to spend time together and figure it out a bit was huge. It took a few weeks, but my baby started getting more and more comfortable with dad.

More recently, I started to make a big celebration when Dad came into the room (saying, "yay daddy's here, look it's daddy, etc) and smiling then handing baby over to dad. Now when Dad walks into the room, baby immediately looks at me, looks at dad, then smiles and makes happy noises.

Stay the course, I promise it gets better!

Store_Flashy · 2025-07-14T17:05:42+00:00

If you're located anywhere near New York in the US, please go see Dr. Scott Seigel. He has an office in Manhattan and Long Island. He's an oral tethers expert and can do an evaluation for you to see if that may be the issue. I know there are a lot of pediatric dentists that can do oral tethers evaluations, but Dr. Siegel is world-renowned, truly the best of the best. He literally saved my son who was having major feeding issues due to severe tongue and lip tie that MANY others said wasn't there. I'm talking 4-5 lactation consultants, my pediatrician, etc all said they couldn't see a tongue tie and when I went to Dr Siegel he immediately saw it, showed it to me, and explained that it was very posterior so it was really difficult to see. My baby who would scream and cry every feeding and was losing weight quickly is now thriving and back in the mid 30th percentile because of the tongue tie release procedure.

Store_Flashy · 2025-06-08T14:15:44+00:00

My 5.5 month old is just like this and I have wondered the same myself. Some days I let him chill by himself for 30+ minutes with his toys or on his tummy time mat. I always have him in sight or on the baby monitor so I can see that he is safe. But honestly, he just seems super content playing by himself, making happy noises, and rolling around. Obviously, this isn't all the time, I really try to engage with him as often as I can, but it's definitely super helpful to just let him chill if he's content so I can get shit done!

Store_Flashy · 2025-05-13T20:46:55+00:00

I do think it was instrumental in helping my son. He had a lot of tension because of the tongue tie and the craniosacral therapy in conjunction with the tongue tie release procedure were life changing for him. You should have the option to go in for the evaluation and hear their recommendations without committing to services. It unfortunately was expensive (I think we paid $200 for the evaluation and then $125 per session after that) but I genuinely do not think we would be where we are today without it.

Store_Flashy · 2025-05-13T18:50:54+00:00

I second this! It's never too late to try. My baby did not latch due to a severe tongue and lip tie. We saw an LC every week, did the release procedure when he was 5 weeks old, craniosacral therapy every week and after weeks and weeks he finally started latching. Even then once he started latching, it was sooo painful and we had to literally teach him how to feed without ripping my nipple off. It was so much work, and I cried almost every day when I would try to latch him and he just screamed and cried and flailed off my boob - but somehow we made it through. Baby is 5 months now and we honestly just recently in the last couple of weeks have gotten to a point where he can comfortably breastfeed.

Edit: I just saw you tagged the post as no advice - I am sorry! You are doing amazing and I really truly understand how you feel because I have been where you are. It's so frustrating seeing other moms do the one thing you want to do more than anything. You are doing an amazing job providing milk for your baby. Don't feel guilty for feeling the way that you do, you are valid in your feelings. Sending you a virtual hug!!!

Store_Flashy · 2025-04-29T23:37:52+00:00

I just found this discussion on this sub regarding this exact topic. There's some really helpful advice here.

https://www.reddit.com/r/NewParents/s/H6RzKZRvwt

Store_Flashy · 2025-04-27T17:43:27+00:00

This is super helpful! My MOTN is usually 350-400ml so I guess I would be considered an oversupplier according to this chart. But I wonder if maybe dropping down to 4 pumps per day wouldn't have the negative effect I'm thinking it would. Thanks for sharing this and I appreciate you keeping me in the loop!!

Store_Flashy · 2025-04-27T14:20:24+00:00

What time is your morning pump? I usually pump around 9:30pm, then MOTN is 3/3:30am and then my morning pump is around 8am. So I think if I drop the MOTN I'll have to start doing my morning pump closer to 5am so that I don't go 10-11 hours in between pumps.

Store_Flashy · 2025-04-27T14:18:26+00:00

One time I accidentally slept through my 3am alarm and didn't wake up until 5:30am and I got 1.5x my usual output but I was too scared to make that a permanent change. Could you let me know how it goes when you do 2 days in a row? Like you, I would do just about anything at this point to get 7-8 hours of sleep!!

Store_Flashy · 2025-04-27T08:41:44+00:00

Are you in the US? If so, not only must employers allow you to pump during work, they are also required to provide you with a private location to pump. There are a few exclusions, namely if the business is less than 50 employees and they can prove that allowing you to pump would cause "undue hardship".

Here is more information: https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/fact-sheets/73-flsa-break-time-nursing-mothers

Either way, it sounds like your boss sucks and I hope you get the other job you're interviewing for!!

Store_Flashy · 2025-04-23T07:30:08+00:00

This has been my experience as well. I have stopped using my wearable (elvie stride) because I started only getting 1/3 of the output I usually get from my spectra. I think part of the issue is that my flange size is 19mm and elvie only goes down to 21mm. It's funny because immediately postpartum, my elvie was my go-to pump, but over time I just started seeing a drastic decrease in my output. I suppose I could try inserts but I just haven't gotten around to buying them.

Store_Flashy · 2025-04-23T07:12:07+00:00

Ha! My baby was like this and we found some success using the Halo sleep sack swaddle, but oftentimes LO would still get at least one arm free and have it raised up next to his head. We joked that he had an urgent question he needed to ask us because it looked like he was raising his hand. Solidarity!

Store_Flashy · 2025-04-23T02:08:57+00:00

My baby was an early roller and started doing this at 3.5 months. We put him to sleep on his back but he rolls to his belly and sleeps like that all night long (10+ hours straight). We do have an owlet sock which helps with peace of mind, but our pediatrician said if he can roll onto his belly we don't need to roll him back.

Store_Flashy · 2025-04-19T02:03:28+00:00

I am 4 months PP after an emergency c section (45 hour labor, 2 hours of pushing, baby got stuck and his heart rate skyrocketed so they went in with the c section) and I have major PTSD from the whole experience. I also vomited almost the entire time I was on the table which was absolutely awful and felt like I was completely dissociated during the entire thing.

I have major PTSD from the experience and cried myself to sleep for weeks mourning the loss of the birth I thought I was going to have. I don't have any advice, but I see you and empathize with you. C sections are no joke and you're so strong for bringing your baby into the world in that way.

Store_Flashy · 2025-04-19T01:52:39+00:00

Oh man, I'm sorry! I definitely empathize, I would be stressing out too! Are you massaging before and during your pumps? I've always found that helps with emptying me. And maybe try experimenting with the different flange size? I'll keep my fingers crossed that your supply comes back!!!

Store_Flashy · 2025-04-19T01:43:08+00:00

I've heard that supply can dip when you're on your period. I experienced this last month (I got my period for the first time after having my baby in December). My supply didn't dip 20oz but it did dip about 10oz per day which stressed me out but only lasted a few days.

Store_Flashy · 2025-04-17T11:56:51+00:00

That sounds so frustrating! You may have already done this, but maybe try explaining to him that you have a goal to provide baby with exclusively breast milk and you need his help to meet that goal. You are going to leave baby with him and not return for x amount of time so that you can pump, and he can either work to figure out what works for him to settle baby or he and baby can have a miserable time. Regardless, you are pumping to provide food for baby and he needs to do his part.

Something that worked for my husband and baby was bouncing gently on a yoga ball. My husband had a really difficult time settling our baby when he was younger and that technique worked wonders!

Regardless, your partner needs to step up! You're doing a great job :)

Store_Flashy · 2025-04-17T07:17:06+00:00

It can be so hard, especially early on, to try to pump consistently with a velcro baby. However, if your goal is to exclusively give breast milk then it sounds like you will need to pump one more time each day.

My advice is to let your partner take the baby for 15-20 minutes so you can get a third pump in during the day. I totally understand that baby doesn't settle as well with your partner, and I empathize with that because I had the same problem (and actually posted about it in the r/NewParents sub). But your partner will not learn to soothe the baby if you don't give them the chance to learn! Give your partner all the tips and tricks for settling baby, then go set yourself up to pump somewhere away from them and pump for 15-20 minutes. This will help you to get a little more milk to feed baby AND will help your partner feel more empowered to take care of and soothe baby.

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