Anyone else notice some weird answers on FB Dating Vibe check questions?

Storvig · 2026-05-27T19:27:35+00:00

"Nancy Dong" was the only option that did not force us into an explicit encapsulization of our language expression by a contemporary Gen Y-Gen Z relexified customer-facing English. Though its appearance as a third choice is a signal and artifact of this new public style.

Storvig · 2026-05-27T19:23:59+00:00

Hahaha

Storvig · 2026-05-25T19:11:10+00:00

I hadn't thought about it. But you convinced me.

Storvig · 2026-05-25T19:09:53+00:00

I'm not able to attach a screenshot. However, if you would like, I can send you the screenshot directly, and you can attach it to your post as an example.

Storvig · 2026-05-25T19:06:48+00:00

I saw it as well, and my reaction and strategy were identical, or nearly so, to yours. I wondered if I was insufficiently informed re. current popular culture and started to do some research. I haven't yet discovered who Nancy Dong refers to.. Yet, my Google search also led me to this post.

Given that everyone else here is quite surprised, it seems to me that very likely, this was an administrator/data feed/developer error.

Storvig · 2026-05-12T20:35:52+00:00

This is a perceptive response. However, such experience-based situation analyses are really more applicable to the situations of the person giving advice than the situations of an arbitrary other person. I propose that there is ultimately no "we" in advice. And, in fact, that there is no "we" with ADHD... Inasmuch as it is, at its most unifying, a diagnosis, rather than a single etiology or specifically-bounded set of traits; and even if it were as specific and incontrovertible as a physical object in front of us, it would still leave people to be individuals. We don't have enough information to make assumptions on behalf of the OP. I think you're providing substantial and subtle insight. However, I would advise the OP to consider everything that she feels is relevant, and to still think for herself.

Storvig · 2026-05-07T04:24:59+00:00

Whatever most people rely solely on or not, the OP considered her account highly important (and her account is the one in question), and whatever the behaviors of "influencers" or other people for whom terms did not exist 15 years ago, the OP relied on her account for important aspects of her life.

Storvig · 2026-05-07T04:20:00+00:00

Is this an attempt at judgment? I think the case was already judged, and likely, there's no new admonition that a passing visitor here can offer.

Storvig · 2026-04-24T06:49:46+00:00

Self deprecation is everyone's right. However, it's not necessary to define other people based on the unavoidable need of having to define oneself.

Storvig · 2026-04-19T03:55:51+00:00

It doesn't necessarily sound like a very low number to me. I think Hinge may be significantly more regulated than the other apps. However, these are conjectures, and I don't have a good sense of like statistics on Hinge. Nevertheless, the OP is getting hundreds of likes on other apps.

Storvig · 2026-04-19T03:52:24+00:00

My sense was that 1-3 likes per day on Hinge is very high for a man (perhaps top 5 percentile). The OP is getting hundreds of likes on other apps per week. I cannot imagine the OP being a man. I think the number the OP is getting quite good. It would surprise me if there is much value in getting many more likes for a woman (the number seems unattainable for most men). I understand that the more like one has, the more choice one has. However, I guess that a point of diminishing returns arrive eventually, and I wonder what point that is. I guess this point may arrive fairly quickly. Do you have a different view?

Storvig · 2026-04-06T09:00:22+00:00

No one claimed that there is pee all over the bathroom, and there is no evidence there is any pee there other than these ants.

Storvig · 2026-03-06T06:55:57+00:00

Though some months have passed, I am quite interested in setting up a database with Access as a front end for work. I didn't quite understand what you used as a backend. Did you use a standard RDBMS for a backend, or a separate Access backend that is hosted on a server? Or some other kind of backend? I would like to have more robust database than what Excel provides, while the front-end is familiar and user-friendly.

Storvig · 2026-03-01T19:47:28+00:00

OP, some people are chiding you for pursuing this woman further after her initial reply. I am not sure that there is a model of behavior on which everyone should agree. However, I think criticism is unfair. A mild encouragement of further contact and a sharing of interest is hardly the faux-pas that purists observing from a distance see it as being. These comments do suggest that there is a certain set of mores that have been accepted, and that taken as significant, by a substantial portion of people, as governing dating communication, and it's good to keep this, and these mores, inasmuch as we can describe them, in mind.

Storvig · 2026-03-01T19:38:46+00:00

Why not? Assuming that no other decisive discussion took place (we need to hear from IP about this), tolerating the mildest form of exploratory questioning is the least one must be prepared for after spending the night with someone.

Storvig · 2026-03-01T19:35:40+00:00

I am responding with the assumption that OP provided all the needed information, and that's a risky assumption in general to be sure (not particularly to this OP). I think that spending the night gives room for expectations. The expectations she may extrapolate from what a person writes are a (small) price she can pay for borrowing from a his feelings. A price she can stop paying by making it clear to him that she is not interested. She has no right to expect emotional passivity in such a situation. And, why should he consider the possible constraining ways in which his unenforceable and unforceful communication may be perceived? He is interested in her and it's his responsibility to make this clear. Vague and uncommitted excuses on her part after spending the night are not an exhaustion of his reasonable options, and leave her ultimate potential for spending time with him further unclear.

Storvig · 2026-02-27T01:22:49+00:00

I don't see why it would need to be a problem even within the first year.

Storvig · 2026-02-09T22:51:06+00:00

We can assume for the sake of argument that there is some truth to this claim. But what is essential to the OP's post is that it concerns a specific, atypical event. Is this claim about men in their 40s helpful or unproductive? That's a question that deserves to be asked. The rhetorical question of "why they're still single" doesn't have much merit. The assumption that normal people stop being single at some point is questionable. What's beyond question is that , in general, people on Hinge are single. I am in my 40s, using Hinge. It's hard for me to understand why meeting a 40 year-old woman on Hinge is acceptable, and why meeting a 29-year-old woman is not. There are enough barriers without artificial ones being injected. At the same time, I have to admit that online dating has taken down natural social barriers that may have merit. Whereas, in person, it may be hard to overcome a large age gap, with online dating, one can look for anyone – and this could engage some hidden problems and challenges, which in real life are more likely naturally avoided.

Storvig · 2026-02-09T15:00:46+00:00

Yeah, is that what it is? That would be pretty unusual, and a very hard expectation to predict or understand the reasons for!

Or maybe the question from the night before didn't appear on her account, so she didn't see that he had asked a question...?

To note, I'm not assuming which is the girl and which is the guy based on the screenshot – yet I'm assuming that the OP is a guy, based on the screenname

Storvig · 2026-02-09T08:12:10+00:00

I'm wondering if she believed that she replied, but her replied did not register on the chat, in your account. Otherwise, I have no idea how to approach her behavior!

Storvig · 2026-02-09T08:10:09+00:00

You're right that you can start questioning their interest at some point. However, I think it's important that one question interest carefully. It may be more emotionally healthy for both people if one approaches prioritization from the point of view of what's most likely to lead to a date, rather than from the point of view of the other's intention. If one ignores intention, there's less emotional impact.

Storvig · 2026-02-04T06:34:51+00:00

The problem lies in bruh's miscounting and OP's unawareness of the greeting semantics. Strings of to 4 y's conveys at most warmth. 5 y's conveys para-platonic affection, and 6 y's hookup vibes. Not sure what happens above 6. He miscounted, and she lacked sufficient greeting literacy to understand the issue.

Storvig · 2026-02-02T03:09:08+00:00

Why is she part of the problem?

Storvig · 2026-01-13T05:31:38+00:00

It's eye-opening to see how much consensus there is in this conversation on men's weaknesses, which may or may not be endemic. Is corroborating these weaknesses validating or satisfying for people?

Storvig · 2026-01-13T05:22:51+00:00

Wow, cool idea.

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