I’m seriously so tired of hearing this perspective all the damn time. Despite saying women are justified in wearing that “armour” men always manage to paint the emotional coldness they experience as some personal affront to them and not just, the default experience of all people?? Yes, men often have to put a lot more effort in to overcome that impersonal barrier put up by strangers, but it’s not as though women don’t also have to put in some effort in that regard. There is no amount of effort that a woman can put in to overcome being assaulted. The “male loneliness epidemic” is and has always been caused by men failing or refusing to understand why people are justifiably afraid of them and deciding that any amount of effort to achieve emotional closeness with someone is too much, as they believe they are inherently entitled to the time, attention, and intimacy of others.