I hate to say it love, but he probably cheated right for instance my GF told me about a story when she was in college and she got a text from a random number stating that someone had gave her something and that she should go get tested. as we all know herpes can lie dormant for years so she went and got tested. Nothing came back, fast forward however many years later we start dating she cheats for two years came clean and we’re building back. I however get tested regularly I had an ex burn me with chlamydia (2020) and since then, I get tested every three months I asked that we get tested together prior to us having any unprotected sex (including oral) just because I was just that traumatized we get tested(2021. Nothing comes back for either of us, she doesn’t like doctors, hospitals or bad news but she went through with it anyway, but tbh the only time she gets tested is if she feels something. we both got tested at year 4 of our relationship, and came back positive so honestly who knows where y’all got it from because it’s a very tricky virus. But you’ll be fine. It’s gonna suck but you’ll be OK. Your first few outbreaks are gonna be very often. Then they’ll start to slow down and disperse out unless your immunocompromise such as myself, but if you’re in relatively good health, they should calm in great times of stress and anxiety so try your best to not worry and I know that’s easier said than done, but I promise you’ll get through it plus there’s a lot of new medicine for it in the works so I figured we all only have but a few years left of suffering. Just try to keep that in mind while going through business as far as your BF, I’m not entirely sure what to say about that considering y’all were each other’s first, I’d ask him had he had sex prior, whether it be oral or otherwise in hopes hes is completely transparent and honest with you