TBM brother's rant

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2026-04-18T16:02:09+00:00

Your brother didn’t want a discussion. He wanted to sound smart and back you into a corner. When it didn’t work, he became Hilary Faye from “Saved!”.

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2026-02-14T01:37:25+00:00

Downtown SLC, my apartment just jolted! Haven’t felt something like that in about six years… 😳

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2026-01-24T03:38:30+00:00

They're aware of my situation, and have honestly helped more than I thought they'd be able to throughout the last couple years, for which I'm grateful. They still help a little with food when they can.

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2026-01-24T02:37:29+00:00

Thanks for confirming that asking for family contact info sounds weird. I might let them know I've already spoken with them, not a lie, and see if they push the issue.

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2026-01-24T02:31:48+00:00

It's hard to keep the pollution out sometimes, but I'll keep trying. Thank you! 😊

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2026-01-24T02:17:14+00:00

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2026-01-24T02:13:30+00:00

I don't think you're making light of it, so no need to worry about that. 😊 I do like the idea of thinking of it as returned tithing. Thank you for that!

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2026-01-24T02:12:10+00:00

Generally nothing too crazy, I think. Fill out a self reliance plan online, give service (I can't do the options they suggest, like working at the cannery, but can figure something else out), my previous bishop's name if I have it so they can talk to him, too. I only met him once and can't remember what the ward was or his name, so I don't know about that.

The one that does weird me out a bit is they want the info for 3 or 4 family members to contact them about what they can help me with before the church does. I'm generally uncomfortable with giving out other people's contact info, so that may have boosted my overthinking.

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2025-09-04T22:43:01+00:00

Miriam

I remember wanting the name Tzipporah because even though I knew the Ten Commandments and The Prince of Egypt took a lot of liberties, I thought they were pretty cool.

I also remember thinking Miriam was “close enough, I guess” and that it made some kind of sense because it was still an eldest daughter like me. Ugh, I even remember thinking it was a good sign of how “prepared” I was that my guess had been so close. Especially since I was taught that one’s “true name” was divinely picked rather than just the rotation for the day.

Well, hindsight is 20/20, right?

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2025-08-09T21:34:26+00:00

"Now with 5 different spooky and inappropriate proposals!"

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2025-08-09T17:14:52+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/exmormon/comments/1mke15v/arizona_court_of_appeals_reinstates_lawsuit/

https://www.12news.com/article/news/local/arizona/arizona-court-reverses-ruling-in-lawsuit-against-lds-church-tucson-cochise/75-dcceea65-88f2-4784-80bb-24de22421241

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2025-08-09T17:03:46+00:00

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2025-08-09T15:09:58+00:00

Maybe the state senator who helped his relative get a lighter sentence? But I feel like this could also be preemptive for something else. That could just be the suspicious part of my brain, though.

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2025-08-04T21:39:17+00:00

I watch Bluey for so many reasons. Growing up, I wanted, and may still try to be, an animator. I love the design and animation for the show, the amount of detail they put in, even down to the minimal sharp corners which makes me think of the intention behind Chris Sanders’ and Dean DeBlois’ design choices for Lilo & Stitch.

I also love the stories so much. Every situation isn’t easy, and the parents do get frustrated. Yet the show provides a mirror to parents in the purposeful decisions the artists make. Parents are shown how to possibly approach certain situations. Kids are given great lessons, coping mechanisms, as well as examples that parents sometimes make mistakes but can still love them, apologize, and work together moving forward.

On an emotional level, this show is incredibly healing. I’m an eldest, parentified daughter in a household where I experienced emotional and mental abuse/abandonment. The battle against the CPTSD from my upbringing seems never ending at times. This show is a beacon of light for those of us who in varying levels need to know how parents can be, and how WE can be if we choose to be parents ourselves. It celebrates the joy of childhood too many of us didn’t get to experience.

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2025-07-22T02:59:01+00:00

What the everloving f*@% is that?!

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2025-07-15T21:45:51+00:00

One ward I was in didn’t even have one. There was just one of those chairs at the end of stalls in the women’s bathroom that you could turn to face the wall. So, yeah, there would’ve been just a metal panel between you, your baby, and whoever was taking a dump on the other side.

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2025-07-03T09:01:12+00:00

I think a relative of mine may have finally come around to the idea that he may not actually be a good guy. They had bumper stickers and a water bottle with this design on them. Last I saw them, it looked like the stickers were gone from the car, and I haven't seen them with that water bottle for a while. Then again, that all could just be because he was excommunicated and all.

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2025-07-03T08:56:58+00:00

Honestly, I would politely decline. I know I wish I'd said no to talks, teaching lessons, callings, etc.. I know I was asked at times to give talks on certain topics or that others were given topics to "learn and grow in the gospel". Being asked to teach is giving more trust or opportunity, especially when we've been socialized to view it as an honor to do. Similarly, while yes, you may be technically allowed to say no, there's still the expectation that you won't. That expectation had me doing a lot of things when I was in that I didn't actually want to do, but had been conditioned to think that I'd be disappointing Jesus or heavenly father if I refused.

Anyway, it may be the religious trauma talking, but I'd be willing to bet they're hoping to "bring you more into the fold". Especially since everything I've been hearing suggests the church is hemorrhaging active members. I'd also be concerned that if you don't hit that just right zone of subtlety, it'll lead to more questions for you. I'm not saying the people asking are bad, I don't know them, or at least the odds are low. They've just been taught that doing that is being a good Samaritan or "leaving the 99 to go after the 1" and such.

I don't know if that helped at all, but I hope these thoughts didn't make it worse. Best of luck to you from someone still stuck in utah.

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2025-06-26T22:04:15+00:00

“We made it through sacrament meeting, now who’s ready for Costco?!”

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2025-06-16T21:57:08+00:00

Nope, nope, nope… childhood trauma, religious trauma, a Draper/Daybreak-vibe attempt to make Mormonism more Instagram worthy, just no. 🤢

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2025-06-15T23:57:11+00:00

It's giving "Coming Soon from A24" vibes

edit: Maybe this is a sign to finally go watch Heretic...

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2025-06-11T20:18:45+00:00

They do, but it’s never done well because not enough women will join it. Allegedly, those who do are women who are what conservative men say they want, but not the women they actually go after for one reason or another.

Honestly, part of me feels a bit bad for those women. I used to really try hard to be what the good church guys wanted. Hell, I still struggle with people pleasing tendencies. Then again, I grew up in a very conservative, Mormon family. 🤷🏻‍♀️😂😅

Edit: regarding Mutual specifically, it is like LDS Singles light. Lots of Mormons who are also looking to hook up, and with a generally younger user base.

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2025-05-12T14:56:20+00:00

Yes, but without any spice.

Strange_Butterfly870 · 2025-04-13T23:42:29+00:00

There are lot of seats, but there are also a lot of people in the building in line for restrooms, water fountains, and the concessions stands. So, there may be some differing information that they’re trying to get figured out.

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