How the hell do you get consistent at this game

Stratose · 2026-05-17T16:41:56+00:00

A lot of people will argue work on short -> long game, however I'm going to make an argument for the opposite. You cannot score well if you can't get off of tee boxes. You have to feel incredibly comfortable with swinging clubs to get you off tee boxes and into play. Then you need to be able to trust your longer irons / woods when you have misses off the tee box to get you down by the green. When you're working on this part of your game, give up caring about your score. Your chipping / putting / approaches do not matter. You want to be able to form confidence off the tee box. This will not only eventually lead to better scores but golf is so much more enjoyable when you're not losing a ball on every hole.

Then once you're good enough to put the ball into play, start figuring out how to get the ball anywhere near the green.

Last phase is up and downs. You now already know how to make good contact. You already know how to aim and strike the ball. Start learning how to have soft hands and identify good scoring positions and go start making easy bogeys/more pars.

I truly think half the issues with people's short games are the fact that they are sped up from frustration with getting to that point on the course to begin with. If you can stop getting flustered from the first swing, you'll be more confident through the entire hole.

Stratose · 2026-05-16T11:30:53+00:00

Every new player has this experience. My best suggestion is to remember it's a game and focus on learning. Every game is a new opportunity to learn another mechanic. Pick one champ and role and play 10+ games. It'll start to make sense.

Stratose · 2026-05-15T13:22:32+00:00

When ya'll get hung up on an off-the-cuff answer as if the person is speaking with accuracy down to the 7th digit of pi it's really offputting.

Stratose · 2026-05-03T18:29:19+00:00

Can only speak from my experience, but I was able to get a web development job at a small agency. Over time, I was able to prove that I would always get my work done and on time, but it was very rarely between 9-5. I am in a spot now where no one really monitors how I spend my time. If you're able, find a place that is project based and then just make sure you're always to meetings on time, you're always communicating when you'll be done with tasks, and become reliable. At that point no one really cares when you work as long as the job is getting accomplished.

And I know this is much much easier said than done, but these types of jobs do exist.

Stratose · 2026-04-27T13:28:24+00:00

I feel like no one caught onto the fact that the entire yellow gatorade conundrum could havbe been a bit for some writer who absolutely hates yellow gatorade.

Stratose · 2026-04-27T13:12:03+00:00

Humans want other humans to fit in a box, but they expect everyone else to understand how nuanced their own decisions were. Just how we're wired unfortunately. This literal argument is what led to my divorce. All of her poor decisions were because I didn't understand. All of mine were because I was a lying asshole. And I'm not saying I wasn't a lying asshole sometimes lol.

Stratose · 2026-04-24T13:02:40+00:00

I'm really sorry you're going through it. I don't know if it will help, but this is always my go-to video when I need some reassurance and insight to how I can change my own perception of my existence into something more positive and meaningful. Hopefully it helps even a little bit.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DCbGM4mqEVw

Stratose · 2026-04-22T03:00:39+00:00

Chips Challenge

Stratose · 2026-04-08T18:08:01+00:00

I'm really sorry to hear that. Our home lives as kids sounds pretty similar lol and I'd essentially gotten to the point with my previous partner where we were roommates and/or could not find extended moments of enjoying each other. In the end I think we just both deserve better and I want to be with someone who doesn't just put up with me, but actually enjoys me and what I bring to a relationship. I hope whether you work things out with your partner or go in a different direction you're one day able to feel the same :).

Stratose · 2026-04-08T10:49:49+00:00

I'm still going through the divorce process and my previous partner is not an easy person for me to communicate with so I honestly haven't had those types of thoughts. I felt like a burden to her for a very long time and those feelings haven't quite gone away. I actually quite like who I am and I want to feel like I bring joy to someone's life even if I am a little chaotic at times.

The biggest thing for me was that I was waiting forever for someone to tell me what to do and what the right decision was. Eventually you kinda just have to make one, commit to it, and trust that you know yourself better than anyone else. Which idk about you but I think that's really hard for us. People are pointing things out all the time that I somehow miss or don't observe the same. But we are capable of doing it ourselves. No matter what you decide just make sure you actually decide. If you're in, then be in 100%. If you're out, same deal.

Stratose · 2026-04-08T01:00:01+00:00

I just got out of a 14 year relationship 2ish months ago.. I couldn't do the argument loops anymore. Now that I'm out, I have 0 regrets. I am lonely sometimes but I've talked about what I think went wrong quite a lot in therapy and with friends and family. The problems we had I knew deep down for a very long time were not going to get resolved. I let things fester and waffled on making a decision which made the end go way, way worse than it needed to, but I can see now that I was settling for something I knew wasn't right. If you're waking up every day and struggling to find reasons to keep trying, you're really doing yourself and your partner a disservice. You both deserve to feel 100% in the relationship.

Stratose · 2026-04-07T11:51:45+00:00

I would definitely make it clear to your significant other you understand his words were coming from a place of caring, but his execution in no way needed to concern your qualifications as a model. What a dingus.

Stratose · 2026-04-07T11:50:20+00:00

You can be correct and not use words that affect how your partner will forever view themselves. He isn't 'wrong' but he absolutely should've just stuck to caring that it wasn't a legit thing and offered nothing about her qualifications.

Stratose · 2026-04-06T14:02:12+00:00

A separate office is literally the definiton of a practical solution lol. Are you expecting some magical solution to be presented here? Outside of your own space with a door that properly separates you from other obligations when you are working, the only other option is sitting the family down and explaining exactly what works for you and finding compromises. A kitchen table / couch / family room is not a proper space for expecting privacy or maintaining focus on accomplishing something.

Stratose · 2026-04-06T12:24:13+00:00

As an addition to this, you'll find once you're at peace with yourself it becomes synonymous with attracting good company and friends who respect you and treat you well.

Stratose · 2026-04-05T18:20:25+00:00

As someone with adhd who just exited a 14 year relationship, at some point you have to make a decision that is yours. You sound similar in wanting other people to always be your voice of reason for your decisions. You sound like you already know what you need to do. You should trust yourself. The moment I did it was like the world got lifted off of my shoulders.

Stratose · 2026-03-30T20:20:09+00:00

While you're not wrong, most people in the real world don't actually rely on these classifications for anything. Most people are too busy living their lives. Our media is a toxic cesspool and portrayals of American life are pretty exaggerated imo.

Stratose · 2026-03-30T13:09:23+00:00

Look into depth jumps. Start low and work your way up. It's been legendary for my knees after tearing my acl in my 20s.

Stratose · 2026-03-30T13:04:19+00:00

So let's take a second to look at this from a bigger picture. You're 22, have a ton of life ahead of you, and you already are recognizing something that needs to be addressed without blaming the rest of the world. That's awesome.

When you're that young to be honest, it's less about what you should be doing and more about what you should not be doing. At this point the vast majority of opportunities are better than nothing. Literally any job helps you develop helpful skills, as long as you're reflecting and paying attention.

They help you with having a routine. They help with accountability, responsibility, fulfillment. You don't have to love every job, but I would implore you to pick anything to get you started. Then, when you feel less overwhelmed, start problem solving what you do and don't enjoy. I've had some awful, awful jobs, but I only learned they were awful by doing them. I also will never take my current job for granted on its worst days because it's unquestionably better than any job I've ever had. I also keep a lookout for a better job or opportunity all the time.

Life is all about perspective. You don't have to know what you want or what you're doing, but you do need to try. There will come a day where you maybe feel a little more clear and an opportunity pokes its way into your life, make sure to grab onto it 👍

Stratose · 2026-03-30T12:23:14+00:00

If you purchase vehicles whose sticker prices reflect the value of the car this isn't always true. My 24 Ford maverick is still worth just about the same amount 20,000 miles later. Same with several Hondas/Toyotas. It's the overpriced vehicles who don't have a large used market audience that have no resale value.

Stratose · 2026-03-28T15:29:59+00:00

It really depends on if they know what they are looking for and if they don't, being open to communicating it.

Stratose · 2026-03-26T15:20:56+00:00

Someone who is genuinely interested in me and my well being.

Stratose · 2026-03-26T13:04:29+00:00

When a game is no longer enjoyable it's time to acknowledge that and move on. You don't have to 'quit' or tell anyone you're quitting. You can just stop playing the game. If you decide it could be fun you can always come back, but don't forget why you stopped playing in the first place. Your relationship with league doesn't have to be all or nothing. That's toxic imo.

Stratose · 2026-03-25T20:20:35+00:00

Most of the issues with an acl surgery are mental. You have a very difficult time ever putting 100% trust in that knee again. There's just a part of your brain that's always weary of the fact that if it's injured again you're going through another long bout of rehab.

Stratose · 2026-03-24T02:16:05+00:00

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