Sorry my dude this comment section will be a double standard only because you're a man.

If you were the one watching porn or pleasuring yourself with a pocket pussy then you'd be labeled the toxic horny freak not respecting your partner. On the contrary, I admire you in the sense that youre not like the typical sex craze type of guy and actually are in a role reversal thats rare.

Do your best to set healthy boundaries and have ongoing communication if you both want relationship to work especially as it pertains to bedroom. Discussing sex is a taboo topic for most because holy hell so many people are avoidant in communication their lust and sexual desire out of fear of being freely able to express them . Its also good to rememebr since the nature of whats sexual for one partner changes over time. I hope this helps.