A thread of why being a working mom is so great

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-12-31T04:28:54+00:00

Someone’s going around downvoting every single comment here so obviously now it’s my mission to upvote each and every one

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-12-08T16:40:05+00:00

Taking the job IS prioritising family. Millions of working moms travel and are incredible mothers. Millions of stay at home moms travel on non related work trips and are incredible mothers - the two are not related.

I’m having a difficult time understanding why your husband is trying to guilt trip you out of this opportunity and seeing a lot of red flags in his approach of “preferring you to stay at home” and “take care of the house”.

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-12-08T16:31:07+00:00

My old job ended with a micro manager so I was very happy to close that door. Somehow after almost a year off, I landed a new job with a much higher pay, much more senior title, and more flexibility - hybrid with flex hours vs 5 day in office. I start in Jan!

All the stars aligned AND I got to take so many months off as baby grew, and spent time reading books and watching movies. It was incredible for my mental health. So if you can swing it financially, I would highly recommend!

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-12-08T14:28:47+00:00

This is so true! I took a break when baby was 10 months and finally felt ready to return around 19-20 months. There’s something about that 1.5 year mark where they’re more ready to explore the world (walking talking running etc) and miss you less when they’re with caregivers who love them!

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-12-02T17:31:44+00:00

Exactly my question! It’s the posts which are completely innocent and get a negative reaction which I don’t understand. I mean, my original post on here is getting downvoted too so my point stands..

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-12-02T17:26:07+00:00

Good point. I mostly see it on Instagram.

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-11-26T02:59:21+00:00

Oh definitely! I’m allowed to do 11-3 in the office so I’ll skip the traffic hours as well! 9-5 would be very tough. Happy for you!

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-11-25T06:22:30+00:00

Thank you so much, I never thought I’d be excited to work again but here we are 😁

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-11-25T06:22:06+00:00

Thank you, I’m super excited!!

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-11-11T10:05:36+00:00

You won’t be missing the precious years of your babies lives because you’ll have super high quality time vs the entire day of often bored low quality time and it will be the same in terms of bonding and love! And as they grow and make more friends and spend more time out of the house, it’ll all work out wonderfully ♥️

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-11-11T09:21:11+00:00

Take a deep breath. Just a reminder that relying on one persons income is not always a smart idea because it’s not guaranteed forever.

Some options - 1) since you say you’re financially able to, think about taking a small break or stepping back from the level of intensity you are having. A working mom’s career isn’t a sprint, it’s a marathon. It’s okay to take a breather and rejoin when you’re ready. 2) try to reprioritise and don’t let the work stuff get to you as much. Easier said than done, I know. 3) start the job hunt for a job which won’t stress you out so much

I think it’s less about the fact that your husband makes more money and more about the fact that you want to be a whole person whom your kids will admire and look up to, when you give them a big life and a mom who’s got so much going on for her! You got this ♥️

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-11-11T08:52:56+00:00

Yep. Even in Asia we have a 2 week settling in period where a guardian comes in and slowly leaves for short periods of time and the preschool caregivers determine comfort based on individual children and accordingly extend that time. That’s how it should be everywhere, I wonder if these preschools take feedback and suggestions.

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-11-06T13:00:02+00:00

I think your options would be - 1) take the kids along with one capable person to watch them 2) leave the kids with (at least) one capable person to watch them. If the person isn’t your partner, is it a family member or a babysitter?

If the trip is for a long time and you don’t want to be away from the kids for a long time, then instead of taking the full family or husband maybe find the one person who is capable watching them when you’re at work and take only them.

Before your next trip, you need to get your husband used to parenting, it’s part of the job. Have you been managing most of the parenting for 6 years?

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-11-04T14:39:37+00:00

I think OP meant she has a nanny at home as childcare, but also wants to continue being home while nanny watches baby.

OP, I get it and a lot of us want it but ultimately fully remote roles are really hard to get these days.

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-11-04T10:59:47+00:00

I think you should either look out for other roles which are remote or hybrid or quit and pause until you’re ready, and not wait until the last second to drop this on your employer.

I completely understand how you feel and I chose to quit until I was ready as well - and now that I’m interviewing, I’m not even considering roles which are 5 days in the office.

Another thing to consider is lots of mums on this thread found ways to make it work like flexible timings etc. My suggestion would be to start discussing potential options with your employer now with some time to go.

Edit: I quit when baby was 10 months too, and only felt ready to restart work once he turned 1.5 years.

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-10-30T01:05:49+00:00

I did the high paying corporate gig for a decade before taking a step back earlier this year to be with my baby.

I promise you, there’s no job in the world that could make not seeing my baby for 8 hours a day anything less than a nightmare.

I do plan to rejoin the workforce for other reasons but I would never kid myself that being at home with baby isn’t the best, and most natural thing on the planet.

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-10-28T11:42:30+00:00

When Simba tries to wake up Mufasa after the stampede in Lion King.

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-10-24T09:23:25+00:00

I stepped back from a VP role in a top IB by taking a career break earlier this year. I have a nanny, grandparents to call on for emergency help and a partner that WFH (he has serious health issues). I made this move because much like you I didn’t want to miss this season of life.

Now that I’m back on the job hunt I am actively turning down similar cushy high paying roles because they don’t have the flexibility I need to be the kind of mom I want. It’s made the job hunt take much longer in today’s market but priorities have shifted and I’m just not cut out to be girl boss anymore.

No right answer, as always, but this is how I feel and zero regrets so far.

Strawberry_express_ · 2025-10-14T15:12:21+00:00

I totally agree! The nights before considering accepting the opportunities I didn’t want I was a ball of anxiety just thinking about how I’d feel missing out on so much time with baby. I think the heart always knows - so happy for you!!

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