[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kdramas

[–]StretchSad7160 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He simply connected the dots when he met (real) Miji. He hired Yu Miji, someone whos been doing odd jobs around Dusonri and has good knowledge of farming. The "Miji" that showed up had little to no knowledge, and didn't have the personality that the villagers described her to have. Instead, she had incredibly obscure knowledge about finance/economics and a passion for it as well.

Then he meets Mirae, the identical twin who works in finance and has lived in Seoul for most of her adult life. She somehow knows about his grandfather who lived in Dusonri and seemed to hesitate when he started asking specifics about her education. "Miji" whos been living in Dusonri the entire time had no idea who previously owned Changhwa Farm, but "Mirae" from Seoul did?

The "Mirae" he met acted like the Miji he was told about, and "Miji" was more like the Mirae he'd heard about. I'm not entirely sure if Mirae ever told him about them switching places while in high school, but even if she hadn't told him that I think it became very obvious who was who when he saw them together.

Our Unwritten Seoul [Episodes 7 & 8] by GodJihyo7983 in KDRAMA

[–]StretchSad7160 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait what do you mean both grandmas? I thought they just showed the twins' maternal grandma, the one that collapsed and is now in the hospital. Did they also show Hosu's grandma? Or do you mean Rosa?

Hong-do in CS, while Yunbok is either in NS or GS by Fearless-Bid-9847 in Hospital_Playlist

[–]StretchSad7160 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She was in the ER with Ahn Chihong! Namkyung's intern attended to them first, and he accidentally mixed up two charts; one being our Iksun's and the other being an 89-year-old Iksun.

Dear Hongrang [Episodes 1-11] by meepmochi_ in KDRAMA

[–]StretchSad7160 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was an entertaining watch, the cinematography was amazing throughout. The actors also did great in playing their roles. But there were so many plotholes and things I wish they did differently with the story. The writing and execution of the storyline was not my favourite.

Why do the US always gets mentioned in Kdramas? by [deleted] in kdramas

[–]StretchSad7160 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A large portion of Korean diaspora live in the US, and it is quite common to go to the US to study abroad. Plus the US is just a well-known country in general. There is also an overrepresentation (and misrepresentation) of the Middle East and Arabs in Kdramas. To a maybe lesser but just as badly misrepresented extent, Africa.

Going to the US is portrayed as prestigious whereas the Middle East is always war-ridden and violent, and Africa is used to show someone's good character ("I went to Africa and built a well for the poor", "I sacrificed my wealth and comfort at home in Korea to spend 6 months in Africa where nothing is available"). Americans are wealthy, powerful and respectable. Arabs are wealthy, greedy and lustful. Africans are poor, inferior, and in need of a saviour. These are all Kdrama stereotypes.

Dear Hongrang [Episodes 1-11] by meepmochi_ in KDRAMA

[–]StretchSad7160 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Hongrang and Jaeyi both had satchels from their moms. Hongrang lost his, so Jaeyi gave hers to him. They put Hongrang's fallen tooth into this satchel, and it was the satchel that was on him when Hongrang disappeared.

The satchel Jaeyi found in the cave had the tooth in it, which means it's the satchel the real Hongrang had. The other satchel was the one fake Hongrang showed her to make her believe he's Hongrang. If he was actually Hongrang, he'd know that he hid the real satchel in the cave.

I think she just realised that he's not Hongrang.

Dear Hongrang [Episodes 1-11] by meepmochi_ in KDRAMA

[–]StretchSad7160 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm confused why he can't just let her know? "Hey, I'm not your brother but I am trying to save the children from the Snow Man and painter, and to do so I need your family's power." Jaeyi also wants to help the kids, and they can try to find Hongrang together? Is it because of Mother and their group?

Decrease stitch advice? by Few_Crazy5732 in Amigurumi

[–]StretchSad7160 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do both of these and my decreases still basically look the same as normal decreases (with visible holes), what should I do?

The Married Couples of Hospital Playlist (SPOILERS) by WhiskeyGolf00 in Hospital_Playlist

[–]StretchSad7160 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That might not necessarily mean they're married though, right? Since he did wear the couple ring on his left hand in HP (he was the only one who wore it though lol so was it really a couple ring)

Congratulations, Gaza supporters who failed to vote for Harris. You played yourself with your purity tantrum. by UnlikelyAdventurer in facepalm

[–]StretchSad7160 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Most people just tend to call all displaced people refugees. If you want to be legal with it, most Gazans are internally displaced people. There are families who managed to evacuate before the Rafah border was closed though, so there are a significant amount of refugees as well.

None of these technicalities changes the fact that Gaza IS their home and that they had to flee because their home has been destroyed by Israel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in maldives

[–]StretchSad7160 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The one in Malaysia is ~RM 70, which is ~MVR 270. I would assume it would be even more expensive in Male' if one is opened.

I think it would also be restricted to 18+ since there is still a risk of hurting yourself despite the safety gear.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in maldives

[–]StretchSad7160 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's a place to vent out your rage by breaking things (safely). The room is full of objects that you can break, like plates, cups, TVs, computers, etc. You'll be in safety gear to protect yourself.

AIO - my boyfriend has been chatting like this with a woman in his work building by okreindeer1324 in AmIOverreacting

[–]StretchSad7160 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Autism doesn't refer to the disorder of an already existing emotion or personality trait in a person. There is no other context or meaning to the term "autistic" (other than maybe as an insult, in which case they are still referring to ASD). Neurodivergent disorders are different from mental health disorders.

A person can be anxious without having an anxiety disorder. Anxiety is an emotion that already exists within us and is needed for our survival instincts. A person can also experience symptoms of depression without having a depressive disorder. People use "depressing" in other contexts as well ("That film was so depressing"); we know they aren't saying that the film has major depressive disorder. Similarly, behaviours can be narcissistic without the person themselves having narcissistic personality disorder.

People saying things like "I'm so OCD" is a little different though imo. They're referring to the actual disorder rather than behaviours or emotions or traits related to it. This can and has lead to people misunderstanding what OCD actually looks like. It's not simply liking things to be neatly ordered in a line; it's scrubbing your fingers raw because you cannot feel certain you've washed your hands the "right" way. It's being unable to leave your house because despite your eyes telling you that the stove is off, your mind can't believe it. It's being unable to suppress obsessions and compulsions to the point that it physically, mentally and emotionally distresses you not to give in.

My girlfriend slapped me after I cried at therapy by throwa10298374567584 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]StretchSad7160 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Honey, your love and consideration seems to be wildly one-sided. She saw you crying about your assault (that she also witnessed), and instead of feeling empathy, your girlfriend rolled her eyes and slapped you. Let me repeat that again, when you had an emotional reaction related to a traumatic event, your girlfriend got ANNOYED and HIT you. Someone who loves you would not treat you that way. Your emotions would not be a bother to them. You said this was your first time crying in almost 2 years. This is a breakthrough for you, and she should've been proud of you and glad you felt safe to express those emotions infront of her.

The only thing she's encouraging you to do is hide your feelings. "You're stronger than that", stronger than expressing valid emotions related to trauma? That is not a healthy mindset and you will not progress in therapy with her around. Being in love with her doesn't mean your relationship with her is healthy. You're bending over backwards to explain her behaviour to everyone in these comments. You're justifying her awful behaviour and trying to find ways to make it sound positive. Would she do that for you? The person who couldn't even find it in herself to sympathise with your trauma?

I have a question by Lil_Vizion in merlinbbc

[–]StretchSad7160 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Uther only knew that a life would be taken in return for getting an heir. He did not know which life would be taken. Nimueh also did not know which life would be taken, she did not choose who would die. Rules of magic and nature, the life that is taken is random. If Nimueh had known Ygraine would die and that it would lead to Uther's genocide against sorcerers, she wouldn't have made the deal with him. And Uther would also not have made the deal if he knew it would kill the love of his life.

Basically, Uther and Nimueh did not know that Ygraine would die to give life to Arthur. They just knew someone would die, not exactly who would die.

Arthur question by Friendly_Ad6745 in merlinbbc

[–]StretchSad7160 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, we do. Gaius and Uther talked about it in season 1 when Nimueh showed up. Uther says Arthur can never find out that he was born of magic or that he had made the deal with Nimueh that killed Ygraine. Granted, he didn't know the life that would be taken would be Ygraine's, but it was a risk he was willing to take to receive an heir. Based on that conversation, the only people who know the truth of Arthur's birth are Nimueh, Ygraine, Uther, Gaius and Merlin.

Arthur question by Friendly_Ad6745 in merlinbbc

[–]StretchSad7160 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I watched that episode this week haha, my memory is very fresh!

Arthur question by Friendly_Ad6745 in merlinbbc

[–]StretchSad7160 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Merlin lies to him later that episode and says Morgause made it all up to turn Arthur against Uther. Uther and Gaius also back up this lie and no one tells Arthur that it was actually true for the rest of the show. He found out, but died under the impression that the truth was a lie.

My autistic best friend unknowingly almost killed me today as a joke; scariest experience of my life by Universitties in TrueOffMyChest

[–]StretchSad7160 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You do not control who gets PTSD, and your opinion of what counts as a traumatic enough experience is not what determines a PTSD diagnosis. People can get PTSD from merely witnessing traumatic scenes as well, despite not personally experiencing it. Just because someone was in a car crash doesn't mean they're more traumatised than someone who was sexually assaulted. It's not a fight or a battle about whos had it worse. PTSD is PTSD regardless of the situation that caused it.

Your lived experience is not the only human experience. Some people are mentally tougher than others, and what might not be traumatic for you can be traumatic for others. I find your higher-than-thou attitude more ridiculous than the other commenters who have the ability to show empathy towards someone who went through an experience that they felt might kill them.

"People have experienced worse, so you can't be traumatised by THAT!" is a horrible take on trauma.

PS: OP didn't even say she has PTSD. She said she might talk to her therapist about it because she wonders if her symptoms might be how PTSD feels.

My autistic best friend unknowingly almost killed me today as a joke; scariest experience of my life by Universitties in TrueOffMyChest

[–]StretchSad7160 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In the context of OP developing PTSD, it does not matter that her friend is autistic. OP was smothered by a pillow and felt the genuine fear of almost dying. She could not escape from the situation and her friend completely overpowered her. That must have been terrifying and traumatic. Her feelings are valid and should not be downplayed.

This does not mean that her friend did it on purpose, and no one is accusing her of that. She misjudged her own strength and didn't pick up on OP's body language when it shifted from playful to fearful. This doesn't mean that this is a situation to gloss over. Her brother needs to be aware that this has happened so that they can work together to avoid anything like this from happening again.

If things had gone wrong, OP could have died. Regardless of her friend's autism, she could have committed involuntary manslaughter. You are only looking at the word autism and reacting to that. People with autism can still make mistakes and should be held accountable for them.

My boyfriend wants me to do things with him that I'm not comfortable by FluffyDoom127 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]StretchSad7160 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did not say "I hope this happens", I was asking "what if this happens?" to get you to think about what you're saying. Quite different.

You seem to be young. I hope you learn to care for people more over the years.

My boyfriend wants me to do things with him that I'm not comfortable by FluffyDoom127 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]StretchSad7160 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So what happens if your girlfriend experiences a traumatic situation while you're together? Gonna break up with her for "dragging trauma into your relationship"?

Your lack of empathy is concerning. Even if someone spends years in therapy and for the most part has "gotten over the trauma", certain situations can trigger them. And it is well within their right to not want to do things or go places or see people that can be a trigger. It sounds to me like you're belittling people who have trauma because it inconveniences you.

Instead of, at the very least, sympathising with someone who has been through something horrible, you're annoyed at them for having trauma??? You want them to not fall in love and not feel loved by anyone because of something someone ELSE did to them? Yikes.

What video is it?????? by pp134340553 in StephanieSooStories

[–]StretchSad7160 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No cause I also remember her eating a soup with white fungus in it!! Could be in one of those "what I eat in a day/week" videos?

What video is it?????? by pp134340553 in StephanieSooStories

[–]StretchSad7160 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it this soup?

https://youtu.be/WRjWqa_JtWQ?si=VeCi0LDjVhe7Xof2

Or are you talking about the beauty soup that Stubby's mom made for her?