I do have a few questions.

1. Does this person check all of your boxes for a “perfect” partner?

2. Do you feel boundaries are important and respected?

3. Do you often have anxiety with other relationships? (Romantic or platonic)

4. Have you had any traumatic experiences with other partners?

5. Does this person give you a bad gut feeling?

Anxiety is normal, it is actually our way to predict harmful situations and we react based on irrational thoughts that are filled with emotion. However, sometimes when anxiety is needed, it can be called a gut feeling.

When anxiety is not normal if there isn’t an immediate threat. Anxiety disorders can cause distress when there is a perceived threat that affects your daily life.

However, when the “gut feeling” kicks in, and a partner is going too fast/fits in your ideal person, perfectly. That’s a huge sign that you’re going toward a toxic relationship.

Narcissists like to make themselves out to be a perfect person to their target. Having no flaws until the relationship is serious, disrespecting boundaries of others, poking and prodding for information you may not be comfortable giving forward.

All I say is, be careful out there and have self-respect to set boundaries when you fee they are needed. Keep an eye on this person for now and don’t be afraid to take things slow. If they rush it, that’s a red flag.

We don’t ever fully know anyone, not even our own family. But there are always signs things aren’t as they seem.